Starting the Conversation

[iBlackVeilBarbie]

Hi there! I'm new and I want to start off by apologizing if this topic has been talked about numerous times. 

 

My husband and I have been together for almost 8 years and are coming up on our 1 year wedding anniversary. I have known about DD/lg for awhile now and I've secretly been little for about 3 or 4 years. My question is how do I bring the topic up to my husband? I would love to share this part of me but I have this fear he will reject me. I've attempted to drop subtle hints (Like buying Teddy Grahams and Goldfish snacks) and he'll comment on it as if he thinks it's cute. He is extremely vanilla and hates change in every way possible, but there are already aspects of our relationship that are DD/lg and he doesn't even know it. 

 

How can I bring this topic up so that he doesn't reject me and is willing to hear me out? Thank you in advance and I'm terribly sorry if this is an overused topic. If so, please direct me where to go for answers. 

[Guest ~*BabyDoll*~]

Hello, I understand your issue 100%! I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years, but I didn’t tell him about this side of me till mid last year(I have been a little for almost 3 years).

 

Honestly, I found it better to be direct. I mean, I already owned a bunch of stuffies, I loved cutsie clothing, I colored, I even talked in baby voice around him.

 

He didn’t quite know how to handle it at first, but we took baby steps. I kept reminding him that if he had any questions to let me know. Eventually he eased right into it and took over the role of Daddy.

 

To me personally, I felt/feel that there is no easy way to tell someone other than to just be direct. My boyfriend thought it was really weird, kinda avoided the topic for about 2 weeks. But the more I acted the way I did, the more he realized how important it was to me, the more he settled. And eventually enjoyed it with me!

 

I’m sorry if this was not the answer you were looking for, but in my personal experience, direct is better! I wish you the best of luck, regardless he should love you for who you are! Much luck! xxx

[iBlackVeilBarbie]

Thank you so much for the reply! I am going to try this approach! There are so many aspects of our relationship already such as rules, daily tasks, and even that I have my favorite blanket and stuffies everywhere (including real life ones) that I feel like he might ease into it when I explain. Edited October 22, 2019 by iBlackVeilBarbie

[The_Rector]

Very often in our lives our evolutions do not go hand in hand with those of our partners. It is normal, we are all different and we are stimulated by different things.

The advice I can give you is to start with sex. Dressing and posing as a lolita during your intimate moments could be the first small step. Try to understand how he will welcome it. If the answer is positive, try to expand childhood attitudes even here and there in everyday life. In this way, the right time will come soon to talk about it.