Approaching the subject

[TheShortPuff]

Hi, I'm new to the forums and kind of new to the ddlg community in general. I have a question about how I could bring up this dynamic with the guy I am dating. I have known about and thought I fit into this dynamic for nearly a year now, and I have been dating this man for just about 5 months now. He knows that I have a lot of childlike tendencies and enjoy childish things, but I don't know how to actually bring this up to him. He seems to fit right into the role of being a Daddy, he likes reading to me, brushing my hair, etc. I feel like he would be understanding about it, especially since I feel like we already kind of are working in the dynamic. I'm just nervous! Does anyone have any advice?

[Pablo Neruda]

Just tell him.

 

Be honest and open about it. If he has had no problems with you acting slightly childish, that's a good sign. Think about questions he could ask and possible answers, tell him what being little means to you, how you would picture your relationship in a dd/lg dynamic, what you would expect/like him to do for you and provide material he can read up on. There's plenty of blogs that explain the dynamic. Educate him about the D/s dynamic in general.

 

Give him time to reflect and read, if he truly cares for you he will give it a shot and try to understand it.

 

The advice that I usually give if someone wants to be open about something "unusual", is to act like it's not a huge deal. Be calm and decisive when you approach him, be straight forward and he will be too.

 

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

I would say if he is already acting that way, how much need is there to talk to him about it? I suppose if you want to start calling him daddy, thats a conversation you need to have though.