Changing rules?

[Daddys little Baby_Bear]

My daddy has changed parts of a rule somewhat randomly without ever asking me about it. The rule is I have to ask for permission for treats, originally it was just candy and soda, then candy, soda, and anything chip like, then any "treat" in general, and now I even have to ask to have syrup on my pancake. I don't mind following the changes too much but it does kinda bug me that he never talks to me first about changing the rule.

I honestly find the syrup one a bit ridiculous considering its not something I eat constantly. Is it normal for daddies to change rules without discussing it first?

[Guest Prat]

Healthy discussion is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship. I can't say what's normal but I would definitely talk to my little about any rule implementing or changing. It would also be important to me that my little isn't afraid to tell me if any changes like that are making her feel confused or maybe even uncomfortable.

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy actually just changed the "1 sweet a day" rule to include unhealthy snacks that are salty like chips. He didn't just change it out of hand though. He brought it up, explained the change he was going to make, explained why and made sure that I was ok with the change.

 

Like Prat I won't get into saying what is "normal" as every single relationship is different but I will say I wouldn't be ok if my Daddy just changed rules without talking to me first.

 

Rules are supposed to be constructive and helpful and to determine that for us it's a two way street. My Daddy used to have a rule that I was to wear diapers 24/7 but after trying it for a few weeks it wasn't working for me. We sat down and had a respectful discussion, amended the rule and it's much better now.

 

Personally, I expect my Daddy to propose and set rules that will help support me but they have to work for big AND little me and for us that only happens though open, honest, respectful communication, not one side making rules or the other side ignoring the rules.

 

Little kaiya

Edited October 21, 2019 by Little kaiya

[Guest purpleroses06]

Communication is actually a key importance in a relationship, and he should've asked you and discussed it with you and made sure you're okay with it before doing anything. It would bug the hell out of me too. Talk to him and establish common ground that it's a two way relationship which includes both opinions, yours and his. You are still you're on person yknow? Asking for syrup does seem kinda silly

[Daddys little Baby_Bear]

We talked and ended up coming to an agreement on it. He said he was worried there was too much sugar in it and due to my health issues wanted to make sure I'm not eating too much sugar. Thank you guys!

[Guest Looby-Lou]

It's great to hear you discussed the matter, understood each other and came to an agreement, that's always the best way to go  

 

IMO if a Caregiver changes rules without explanation, discussion & agreement, then it's just confusing. It would make me anxious - breaking a rule and disappointing Daddy would upset me so badly that I'd be walking on eggshells all the time if i didn't even know WHAT the rule was!

 

Looby