Daddy left me after 3 years

[Shortcakes]

My Daddy left me recently... and Im struggling to move one... I cabt let go of the love I had for him.

 

I dont know what to do, I dont know how to be be little anymore

[Chrisx]

I know how that can be.. I'll spare the details here as I've only really told my best friend of 10 years what happened during the worst of it, but I had a really rough time going through a loss last year.

 

Moving on doesn't mean you never think about it or that it just goes away one day, it's about your growth into someone that's able to handle what happened and accept that sometimes we might get hurt. I know its devastating and has probably left you feeling crushed and all alone, but please trust me when I say things do get better..

I still think about things sometimes, play different scenarios back in my head. The worst of it is over, though.

 

It's perfectly normal to be out of it after something like that, you'll be able to slip into your little space when it's more appropriate/the right time for you. I think you're probably not able to now because of the stress of the situation coupled with the fact that you have to be able to process these things as a mature adult, and that's going to take some time.

 

I suggest doing things to sortof help keep your mind off of it when you're able to come to terms with the separation, might even help to do so now. Spend time with friends/family, people that genuinely care about you. Play some games, build a sandcastle, catch a butterfly, watch your favorite movies. Whatever makes you happy. Time flies when your having fun, and time is exactly what's going to get you through the worst of it.

[Guest Voidart]

ChrisX explained it very well. 

I recently saw a comment about the feeling whenever you see your ex on the streets, and it all seems to resurface. 
He said "Your ex is like a drug. Just seeing her, smelling her and or even hearing about her will trigger a feeling of longing, happiness and regret. You have to stay away from an addiction in order to move on from it."
Indeed. Because if you let yourself back, you'll only end up wanting to leave again. 
I can't say whether it was on good or bad terms, but it happened for a reason. And we're all entitled to happiness. 

You're not alone. 

I wish you nothing but the best. 
Feel free to send me a message if you need to. 
The people around here are awesome.
 

[Shy baby]

aww sweetheart i'm so sorry you had to go through that.. i had one for 5 years and... well long story short a lot happened and i ended up with a miscarriage...... then he chose to be with someone else, less then a week later.. so trust me i know what it's like to not know how to behave in a manner you once did. best i can say is this, don't try to replace. That used to be how i cooped with a lot, was just get into a relationships with little to no affection, but take time to heal. work on everything you dislike about yourself, but do it in a way that is healthy and good for you. do things that make you happy and get your mindset right. if that seems too difficult, set a little schedule, list of small things to do, (helps with depression as well) such as brushing your hair, finding 5 things, at least, to smile at everyday. small goals that are easy to achieve. and if you need someone to talk to or someone to help with it, i'm here. message me and i'll give you my hangouts or number so i can answer more frequently. i'm here if you need me

[Shortcakes]

aww sweetheart i'm so sorry you had to go through that.. i had one for 5 years and... well long story short a lot happened and i ended up with a miscarriage...... then he chose to be with someone else, less then a week later.. so trust me i know what it's like to not know how to behave in a manner you once did. best i can say is this, don't try to replace. That used to be how i cooped with a lot, was just get into a relationships with little to no affection, but take time to heal. work on everything you dislike about yourself, but do it in a way that is healthy and good for you. do things that make you happy and get your mindset right. if that seems too difficult, set a little schedule, list of small things to do, (helps with depression as well) such as brushing your hair, finding 5 things, at least, to smile at everyday. small goals that are easy to achieve. and if you need someone to talk to or someone to help with it, i'm here. message me and i'll give you my hangouts or number so i can answer more frequently. i'm here if you need me

Thank you so much this meNs a lot to me

Edited October 21, 2019 by Shortcakes

[Sir Bearded Amish]

Aww sweetheart, I'm so sorry to hear about what happened

 

I understand how hard it is to not be able to move on, I've been in your position as a Caregiver twice. Both times got cheated on and it damaged my confidence and mental health and lost my job as a result. But trust me it will get better I promise. 

 

Like shy baby said above, don't replace the wounds, (that what I did for the first 2 months and I ended up going to help myself with the help from the doctor.) instead let the wounds heal and take some time to enjoy yourself by doing things you personally enjoy. Do activities with friends if it helps

 

Again like shy baby, I will be here if you need to talk, send me message whenever you feel like talking to someone. Message me and I shall give you my snapchat as I'm on there regularly

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

The above advice is all very good.  The above poster especially hit the nail on the head with taking time to do things you enjoy.  Without a significant other in your life, you will have more free time than you used to.  Whether or not that is a blessing is entirely down to what you make of it.

 

If you use that extra time to stew and think about what's missing, the healing process will be longer and more painful, but if you do fun stuff, pursue a hobby or do something for personal growth you'll realise that you're stronger than you thought, and that there's hope for the future.

 

Stay strong!

[Shortcakes]

This has been helpful everyones kind words mean a lot to me

 

Im doing my best to try and leep bisy and keepy postitive