How to return in little space?

[HarleyQui]

Basically me and my daddy in DD/lg relationship for several months now and I absolutely love it, but past two weeks were really rough for me and I wasn’t in my little space like at all. We have long distance relationships and I understand, that daddy can only talk to me, even tho I’m just craving for cuddles and just want to feel his hands around me. I am really stressed but right now I finished with those things that I needed to do.Yet I’m just feeling myself awful even knowing that I completed everything and I don’t really need to worry anymore. I want to return to my little space but I don’t have a clue how to do that.

If anyone ever had this kind of thing then please,please tell me what you did to just jump in little space again and what can help.

Thank you

[Littlest_Bee]

Hey HarleyQui,

I'm sorry you are having a rough time. Sometimes when I'm stressed I have a hard time slipping into my little headspace as well. What helps are usually things that are in general relaxing to me.

 

Unfortunately I think you need to find out for yourself what works for you and what does not.

Something I really like is having the ritual of brushing my teeth while using the Oral B app (aimed at children). You can get different characters and collect stickers and gold stars for regularly brushing your teeth. Since it's something I have to do every day, regardless of what else is going on, I really enjoyed making it something that is rewarding to my little side.

Colouring is a very popular thing that I use to come down and relax as well. It's something I can enjoy as an adult while providing a way to gradually get more "little" while I'm doing it.

The same with taking a bath, if you have a tub just start out soaking until you're more relaxed and have a few bath toys nearby if you feel like playing once you are more relaxed.

 

I hope with these things as examples you have something to try out and maybe even have your own ideas of what you'd like to try. Good luck

 

Take care

[Little kaiya]

Littlespace for me isn't something I can just jump into, I have to feel safe and vulnerable and usually having my amazing Daddy at my side. His scent, his touch, kind words, gentle guidance, these are the things that let me set aside my adult worries and stresses and enter littlespace.

 

You say you have a Daddy and are long distance so that certainly makes in person time hard but consider calls, texting or video chats. If you're a tactical person get a large plushie you can cuddle and perhaps have him read you a story. Personally scent is a HUGE thing for me so we've sprayed my plushies with his scent, that could perhaps help remind you of times where the two of you have been together, if that's your case.

 

In general I would suggest manage your stress first versus trying to force littlespace. Rarely is anything forced ever relaxing or positive.

 

Little kaiya