My Daddy prefers to talk to other little when I am in the hospital

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Long story short — I almost died (It's not really dangerous sickness (just a flu), but I had 40 degrees fever, and basically I was boiling on the inside), and I was in the hospital. Now I'am at home, but I still feel pretty bad (I have convulsions, still pretty high fever (38), and my tummy hurts and I'm feeling really cold).

I don't expect anyone to feel bad for me because I am sick — it's ok, I don't need this kind of attention.

I know he can't be by my side right now (he is in a business trip for a few months), but at least I was expecting from him, that he will be there for me, and will be talking with me, and taking care of me as much as he can. (my Daddy promised me that if I will ever get sick, he will be by my side 24/7, and will take a break from work, just to help me recover. I don't expect from him, to take a break from work, but at least I want to be in a call with him (we are talking every day, when he gets back from work, so nothing would change basically, only this that we can't play any games).
So well... when he got back from work — we were talking for like few minutes, and then he told me he will be back in a second, because his guy friend wanted to talk. I felt pretty sad about it, because he promised me when I will get sick, he will be by my side all the time. He also said it's gonna be really qucik, and he will be back in a 15 minutes max.

1 hour passed bye, and I checked discord sever for a game we play together (there is this one little who really likes him) and instead of being in a call with this guy friend, he was in a call with her. 2 hours just passed by, and I am getting worried and disappointed in him... I don't know what else I can do instead of crying...

[Guest Littlemtngirl]

Super sad face I am so sorry. I have experienced being sick and alone it’s a horrible feeling. I am sorry you have to feel that kind of pain.. sending you Big hugs

[MrDaddydarnit]

This guy sounds like a sleaze. don't trust him. Anyone who abandons their little in their time of need doesn't deserve said little. 

[Chrisx]

I'm really sorry you're going through such a thing and being made to feel alone on top of it.. 

That's definitely not okay. 

From what you've written he spent a few minutes with you, then bounced out to go chat with another girl but told you he was chillin with one of the boys. (For a few minutes, and that somehow turned into hours)

That to me is pretty messed up. 

He said he'd be there for you when you're sick and, I could even understand not missing work over it but at this point it's essentially a "I have time and am deciding not to spend it with her when she needs me." 

You don't deserve that at all. 

He should be happy that he's the one you turn to when things get rough or you need to be comforted. That trust/bond is overlooked all too often. 

While there may be a perfectly innocent reason for the spending time with this girl that just so happens to like him "a lot", I would still be weary of what might be on the horizon. 

He's actively neglecting his little in a time of need to spend time with another. 

[Guest Mr. J]

This sounds like a bigger problem than you or any one of us reading want it to be... I don't know how long you've been together or anything, but in any case he
1: lied to you
2: is spending a hell of a lot of time (especially for being in a relationship) on another girl (that really likes him)
and 3: is doing so while you're vulnerable and can't confront him properly!

I won't tell you what to do or anything, because I'm not good with relationships and such myself.. But I will say that as someone who just this year got the guts to end a toxic as hell relationship with a little that lasted for 2 and a half years, this hurts to read and I'm so sorry it's happening.

[baby_k]

It is unfortunate that situations like that normally reveal how people are and what are their priorities ( in this case it is not you nor being a proper partner nor a daddy ). And those are the moments when people are most vulnerable, so the combination is terrible.

 

Maybe the silver lining is that now you know how he is. It would be nasty to realise that only after being together realllyyyyyyyyyyy long ( as I assume based on your age that you have not been together for 10 years ).

 

I don't normally like to tell people to dump their partners but in this case I really recommend you considering it. People who lie like that and are so careless about your illness will not change easily because it is not just some accidental mistake from their part. So, consider what sort of rel you want to be in and is this the type of person you want to be with. He may be great otherwise but failing you excatly when you need him most.... It is not something I would at least want to experience again.

 

Try to look after yourself extra well and get better. That is all you should be focusing now. Watch movies, eat well and so on... Anything that makes you feel even a little bit better is a good idea now

[princess mae]

Definitely take care of yourself mentally as well as physically. If it was me in your position, I'd take a step away from Discord. I'd shut off notifications and sign out, and I'd deal with it when I was well enough.

[Little kaiya]

It sounds like a pretty cruddy situation to be honest. Personally, I'd be out, that's a pretty major breach of trust. The issue to me isn't about being sick or not, it isn't about him spending time with someone else although that really isn't ideal and it isnt even that he's spending time with someone who's interested in him which is even less ideal.

 

The main issue to me is that he appears to be intentionally lying to you. If there was nothing going on he'd have no reason to lie. Honestly, ask yourself do you trust him? All behaviour to one side, if you cant trust him it may be time to consider other relationship options that are healthier.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest purpleroses06]

That is a terrible thing to do to another person especially when you're not in good health. He said he would be by your side he should have stuck with it, especially as a partner and in a relationship you should both care for each other when sick or in good health! The worst part is he left you for someone else when you were in need. The best thing to do it bring it up to him, make it know that you know what he's doing and you shouldn't/won't tolerate it. Stand up for yourself and make it know you are his girlfriend and he promised to stick by your side, if he's not gonna own up to his faults and make excuses reconsider being with him before the problem gets worse. Don't stay for a guy who would leave you for someone else and complexity forget about you, Have respect for yourself and know you deserve better, and deserve to be loved and cared for. If he's not gonna admit his faults and make it up to you or apologize, and does it again, reconsider being with him or tell him and stand your ground that bullshit like that is not gonna be tolerated

Stand up for yourself and make it known that just talking to you is not a hard task, this is bullshit and shouldn't have even been a problem, but he decided to blow you off. You deserve more and better, whether from him or someone that cares for you.

[Guest Littledreamer95]

So not only he ignored you when you're sick, but he also lied to you?

That's plenty of red flags right there hun. Please take care of yourself .. you deserve way better. That's not a real daddy.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

I'm sorry you've been so unwell and I hope you get better soon. Flu is serious and takes time to recuperate, please be good to yourself!

 

Your Daddy's behaviour is simply unacceptable IMO. It's no way to behave towards anyone you're supposed to care about. It's certainly no way to behave to the person who should be your priority. 

 

And it most definitely is not the way a Daddy should treat his little.

 

What you do is up to you, but please be careful with your emotions especially when you're not well. You deserve better than this. I hope things improve for you very soon 

 

Looby

[Tiger Striperino]

That's a really scummy thing for him to do. I'd recommend talking to him about it and going from there. Maybe he doesn't deserve the effort but you should still be the bigger person. At least for a little bit.

[MysticSand]

Hope you get well soon! I'm curious as to what he said/did when you messaged him asking when he'll be available again. What was his response?

 

It could be that time got away from him, or maybe he didn't want to call/message once enough time had passed and thought he'd just let you get rest. What's his story/side?

 

I think the above posters did well enough in expressing what a cruddy situation that was so I'll go a little off route. Things happen, and it's important you don't let them slide. Bring it up and make sure he understands that nothing about that was okay. Make sure he really listens and understands, and doesn't just respond with what he thinks you'd like to hear before moving on: "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to. It won't happen again."

 

Emphasize that words are meaningless and that you'll know he's sincere when/if he shows it through action. Is this behavior becoming a pattern for him? How is he on the daily? Does he do things purposefully to make you happy? One instance of neglect doesn't negate a meaningful relationship; look at things holistically. I hope that this was a one-off and not another common occurrence. Best wishes.

[Bugaboo]

I hope you get well soon! I'm so sorry he did this to you, it hurts my heart reading what you're going through. Please be careful, he seems like a really toxic person. The lying and ignoring (especially when you were vulnerable and needed him) is such a cold hearted thing to do. I apologize for saying rude things about someone you care for, but he sounds like a terrible person. You deserve so much better. I wish you the best! If you ever need someone to talk to or some support, all of us are here for you!

[Guest ~GlitterUnicorn~]

I really hope you get better soon

And like everyone else said I'd be careful there's a few red flags there

[carmine]

Um...yeah, basically echoing the responses above, trust is big thing for me and given how needy and clingy I can be in littlespace, that kind of action would be hurtful to me as well. So you are certainly not alone in feeling that way

Edited November 5, 2019 by carmine

[Guest TheyCallMeLovely]

It's nice when people say things we know to not be realistic. It makes us glow inside and feel absolutely cared for. You're a smart girl and understand that he can't be with you 24/7. You also are able to deduce that his actions aren't matching his words. You also saw that he is spending time with someone else while you need him.

 

A large portion of the time, your gut is right. I had an ex who strung me on for a while and was talking to multiple girls. Don't waste your time on people who chose to show you that you aren't they priority. I know you're sick and I hope you do get better soon. It's hard to make these hard decisions but know that you aren't alone if you need support!