Why is my Daddy ignoring me?

[Sassybabycat]

My heart really hurts and I feel very lost...my previous relationship I was constantly ignored and my ex could go weeks without seeing me. My daddy promised me he would never hurt me. I needed him so badly today, it was a very bad day for me. I broke my phone screen and I told him. Out of all the things I said to him today and telling him how bad my day was and how I felt, all he could do was lecture me about my phone.

 

He told me that his phone isn’t really working and so he wouldn’t be able to talk much and the first couple days he would check in with me but today and yesterday I got one response in 48 hours. He has no problem with posting on Facebook though but I guess talking to his little is at the bottom of his priority list. I’m starting to believe he just doesn’t want anything to do with me...I wish he would just tell me instead of letting me suffer. I can’t take my heart being crushed anymore. My depression has gotten critically worse and some bad things have crossed my mind. I don’t understand what’s wrong with me and why no one wants me. I just want to feel special and safe for once in my life.

[DominicanDaddy]

Hello I have been a Daddy Dom for 15 years and I am truly sorry for what you are going through. I strongly believe that littles (whether girl or boy) should EVER be ignored or ghosted. I doubt you are the problem daddies should know better. Any TRUE Daddy Dom know just how SPECIAL every little is. Sadly you are not the first nor the last little that will go through this and I hurts me as a Daddy

Because it gives GOOD Daddies like me a bad reputation. But whatever HIS problem is try not to make it yours. My advice is leave him if you can and find a TRUE Daddy. Believe me he is out there and keep fight dont let him win if all he does is ignore you then he isnt worth your tears or devotion. If you ever need to chat friend me. I wouldnt mind giving you some genuine attention. How it works out for you.

[Sassybabycat]

Thank you very much. I guess I just need time to cry and heal. This is why I don’t trust anyone cause my heart always gets stomped on..

[DominicanDaddy]

I understand that completely I've gone through things that I would rather not discuss openly but I do know hurt and pain. Again I am sorry for your heartaches. You as a little dont deserve them.

[Cutelintine]

Ive gone through this before i will be honest sometimes guys have things going on that they don’t really tell us. I suggest try speaking ot him if he is alright and address your concerns from there maybe things could straighten out but always have an open heart because sometimes daddy’s are very prideful and cant really use their words SOMETIMES on saying whats in their heart or going on. But try comforting him if that doesnt work or the talking it out i say give it 2 weeks if that doesn’t change and hes being like that I personally would leave because its toxic for you by how it affects u and if he cant change his actions and is aware it’s making u feel this way after talking then it shows he’s inconsiderate and selfishly careless because someone who loves you does not act in this manner

You may always come and speak to me ^^

- cutelintine

[Guest Littlemtngirl]

Huge BIG hugs!! So sorry you are hurting. I know how much being ignored can feel. I would let him know how you are feeling. I know that can be hard but then at least you can move on knowing you tried. I am a great listener, please feel free to send me a message, I promise Not to ignore you.

[Sassybabycat]

He finally responded and told me he was ignoring me because I sassed him. I told him that it hurts me very much and to please leave me alone today because if that’s how he’s going to punish me then I need to time to think. That’s where I draw the line. If you’re upset with something I did then communicate with me.

[Chrisx]

I'm sorry that's happened to you. It doesn't seem like he's handled the situation well at all.

Depending on the context surrounding the broken phone (ex. "I broke it because I was mad.") it absolutely can be a problem worth mentioning as that could get to be quite the expensive 'habit' for some. 

There's a time and place for that discussion if it needs to be had, though. 

I don't agree with the idea of slamming someone when they're down as its typically the worst time to add to someones plate. 

If you were having a really bad day, the obvious course of action would be to try and get your mood elevated first, 

he could've recommended things for the two of you to do together or even just chatted with you, which is all it seems like you needed in the moment. 

 

You communicated your side and let him know how his hugely divided attention is affecting you, now pay attention to his actions afterwards. 

Ignoring your little as a punishment is a joke, cutting communication off suddenly in a relationship can be an equally heartbreaking experience on both sides. 

Like, do you just accept that at any moment, something can cause him to suddenly *poof* for however long then show up like its no big deal with "Oh you did this so I did that."?

I don't think so. 

If something's under his skin so bad he feels like he can't talk to you for days because you sassed him, I'd be concerned about what his response to more serious things might be. 

Maybe it gets let go once or twice, but you'd ideally talk about why that's not okay as a punishment, he'd understand, let you know he wouldn't do that to you again, and you'd move forward. 

I'm proud of you for standing your ground and taking the time to yourself to think about this whole thing. Best of luck. 

[Guest purpleroses06]

Ignoring someone is a terrible way to punish someone, it can give the person anxiety and panic attacks and the silent treatment should never be used as a punishment! Me and my boyfriend had established that way in the beginning of our relationship that ignoring him makes him feel terrible and gives him anxiety/panic attacks and that's where he draws the line, and that's where you should draw the line too. Although me and him established that in the beginning of our relationship, he's been recently just leaving me or not responding to me, not even a check in and hurts me alot and to the core, and i'm worried he's getting tired of me/with someone else/ i did something wrong and more, i've talked to him about it and he's gotten a bit better but i still feel as if he just pops in when he wants to. I understand he has things to do but i just wish he would tell me so i don't have to worry so much. 

It's good you're drawing a line, if you would like to continue with the relationship then make sure you guys establish ground rules, but if you choose not to that's a good option as well. Just make sure to stay true to yourself and your wants and needs. Choose the best choice that makes you happy.

[Sassybabycat]

We had a conversation for about an hour and he apologized and took responsibility for his wrong doing. I told him that he can’t do that to me it gives me anxiety and he felt terrible. He told me he won’t do that anymore. My daddy lives 2 1/2 hours away (will be moving in with him in a couple months) and he’s currently on his way here to bring me chocolate milk and gushers.

[Chrisx]

Glad to hear that things are looking more positive now, that was seriously inconsiderate and I don't think anybody should just cut their partner off unless they practically have no choice. 

Sometimes people do need alone time to think about things, though. (using you for this example; You had a good reason to go silent for a period of time, given what happened.) 

 

Good luck heading into the future, and have fun spending time together this evening!

Edited October 15, 2019 by Chrisx

[Selene]

I'm going through this myself. I got injured at Daddy's house a few days ago (not during playtime) and he never checked on me. I messaged him today, after giving him some space, he asked how my foot was but never responded to my reply. Now I'm laid up injured and all in my feels. I'm not a pushy person so I'm leaving him alone but at the same time I'm stuck in my head overthinking everything. We haven't been together very long but we are/were in consideration.. Feeling lost... 😔

 

 

[Cebakes]

10 hours ago, Selene said:

I'm going through this myself. I got injured at Daddy's house a few days ago (not during playtime) and he never checked on me. I messaged him today, after giving him some space, he asked how my foot was but never responded to my reply. Now I'm laid up injured and all in my feels. I'm not a pushy person so I'm leaving him alone but at the same time I'm stuck in my head overthinking everything. We haven't been together very long but we are/were in consideration.. Feeling lost... 😔

 

 

Unfortunately, it doesn’t sound like you are overthinking things. You’ve shared a brief amount of information, so I don’t want to assume things or say it’s over, but it sounds like you have reason to be concerned.  Pauses, gaps, lack of communication that are unplanned generally aren’t good.  The fact that you injured yourself at his house, are laid up, he’s not calling, texting, etc,  is a pretty bad sign. 

Personally,   I would send one final very, very brief message. I would let him know how you are feeling with your injury,  tell him  you hope everything is ok, but let him know things feel different and if he is interested in moving forward, write back.  If he does write back, he should explain his lack of communication.