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[Dreamyy]

Greetings everyone. I'm dream. I came here to seek guidance and help. I have a little that I love tremendously. Shes my Princess. The issue I have is that I'm totally lost when it comes to being a daddy. When she and I first started talking we agreed that I would be daddy. I admit the thought of being in charge and being called daddy was a turn on. And it got to my head. I took the role and twisted it all up. It became clear to me recently that I have no clue what I am doing. Over the last year i have hurt her and mistreated her and just have been horrible. Yes there were bright spots. But overall i was terrible. I want to he good for her. I want to be what she needs. I love her to death. Losing her or finding someone else isnt an option. I'm wondering if maybe someone can talk to us and help guide me. She is very fragile emotionally and I dont want to continue to exploit that. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. I would love to hear opinions from both big and little male or female. PM me for kik as j generally dont give my kik out publicly

[Guest purpleroses06]

I understand this perfectly! The same thing happened with my boyfriend and we no longer bring up the topic of little space because of my faults

What i did was do my research on to be a propper mommy/caregiver, and it taught me alot!!

Things i looked up were:

Rules to set

Rewards to give when the rules are followed or chores are done

Punishments for when rules are broken

Treats for them

Relationship advice( make sure you guys focus on your bond too! It is very important to have a good bond!! No bond= no relationship)

and what little space is for a little! Being little is something safe and relaxing for them and shouldn't include negative thoughts!

And when is gets sexual make sure you know what your little likes and is into and what is too far for them to do and establish boundaries and get on common ground!

If you would like to use my notes I took or advice I am more than happy to give, it certainly helped me get ready this type of relationship!!

[Dreamyy]

@purpleroses06

Thank you for the responce. I agree with the points you made. I have asked her what I needed work on. And she said she didnt feel wanted because of the way I would run when she was venerable. It made her feel like I didnt care. I did and do care tho. I just was never prepared for this. Maybe I'm not a daddy and am going about everything wrong. Labels and titles aside. I just want to be good for her. If that means i cant be a daddy because I'm.not cut out for it then I'm okay with that. Just as long as princess is happy with me

[Guest purpleroses06]

That's a good mindset you have!! Maybe you were taking things with the daddy side too fast, and you jumped into without doing proper research? I would say pull out and take a break from it and decide whether you want to do it or not, and if you do, do you're research and learn about it( if you would like I can help) and if not, tell her about it. Just be sure about your decision and make sure you guys are both on the same page!

[StraightTopDaddy]

Communication is the Golden key.

Looks like you two are starting to talk. Great! Keep up the dialogue.

Pretend like the two of you are just starting over. Take her out for a fine dinner (with flowers).

Then, the two of you just talk everything over. What you would like to have in your relationship, what you don't want to have. You negotiate with her, and work things out. Does she need firm disciplining from you? If so, what kind? These are the things that you want to find out from her. Also,vrules. Are there going to be rules? What kind of rules? What are your expectations toward her behavior and her consequences? Well??

Lastly, I should mention here that not every man is cut out to be a daddy. You sound very devoted and devotional towards your partner. Perhaps the two of you might want to discuss having her be your loving, yet no nonsense mommy.