I Need To Tell Partner But...

[Little Writer]

So I'm new to this whole thing. I mean it as a life style mostly. I've just really accepts it but I've kinda new it for awhile. I've always been childish is movie choice and food choice. I love stuffed animals and I love the nicknames my boyfriend has given me. Ex. Princess. BUT I haven told him about this yet. He's mentioned the term 'daddy' makes him feel gross several times before. And honestly? I don't even like that term (due to personal pref and personal reason) and I wouldn't call him that. But I still want to be part of this community. I like being taken care of and having rules and all that. I've looked into ddlg a lot and I find myself drawn to being a little. I don't know what to do. I want to tell him but I don't want to ruin our relationship when we've been together for basically four years. Is there any advice anyone has?

Edited October 11, 2019 by NewToThis?

[Guest FluffyMysticOwls’ Babygirl]

My boyfriend isnt my Daddy but he was okay with giving me rules. Maybe just talk to him and tell him you dont have to call him daddy if he doesnt want you to. Maybe come up with a compromise. 

[Guest purpleroses06]

You don't have to neccasirly call him Daddy! There are other nicknames too like sir master, mister, and whatnot, but you don't have to do nicknames for him it's not required. Being into DDLG is something you like, he should be there to support you, and love you whether he joins in or not, this shouldn't be a thing to breakup over. A thing I would recommend is talking to him about it and settling on ground terms you both are comfterable with! I hope this helped and wish you the best of luck!!!

[Little Writer]

Thank you both. I will do my best and not chicken out! This helps a lot.

[Little kaiya]

Well, there's two very different issues with one being far easier than the other.

 

1) Terminology: If neither of you like the term Daddy then don't use it, it really is as simple as that. There are tons of options you would just need to find one you both like.

 

2) The second issue COULD be a lot more difficult or it may not be, the relationship. Telling someone can be hard, no doubt, but not telling them, especially if you've known for a while certainly can blow up very badly.

 

In my view there are two people you have a duty of honesty towards, yourself and your partner.

 

If you don't tell your partner you risk burying a part of who you are and not living as your true and authentic self. If you tell him and he decides he doesn't want to be involved then you can perhaps still be little on your own, find a platonic caregiver if he is okay with that, find little friends, etc.

 

2) You also have a duty of honesty to your partner in my mind. As an adult he has the right to make informed decisions, whatever those may be, about his own life. He should be provided with the respect to choose between having a partner who is little or not having one, that is HIS choice to make.

 

You can't predict how telling him will turn out and should be prepared for the best AND worst case scenarios. What I can suggest is ask yourself this, if you found out he'd been hiding a secret from you, whether you were ok with his interest or not, for 4 years and didn't tell you, wouldnt that damage the level of trust and respect. I know if my Wife or Daddy hid something from me for 4 years and then decided to keep hiding it, that would be a MAJOR breach of trust and respect for me.

 

I highly suggestion telling him but be prepared it may or may not turn out how you want. Good luck.

 

Little kaiya

Edited October 11, 2019 by Little kaiya

[Little Writer]

Thank you so much for the advice, Im trying to open up and conversation about it right now.

[Little Writer]

I guess I decided to do an update because I just wanna get this smol rant out of my system? SO I've told her that day and he wasn't fond of it and pretty much told me I wasn't a little because I don't act like a baby which kinda made me mad but I didn't even get a chance to explain. Well since then  he jokes around like usual. Calling me pet names calling me a brat. Pretty much want I want minus CG stuff that I would prefer... and then he sometimes says stuff (non-harmful just little things) that remind me that he still hasn't accepted this part of me... idk.. I guess I just need to rant? I'm thinking about just continuing how things. I don't want to lose him..

[129455_1655600852]

I’m sorry the conversation didn’t go as well as you’d hoped it would.

 

I agree with Little kaiya above. You have to really be introspective and reflective to figure out what it is YOU want, and whether you think that you can get it with him. He doesn’t have to be called “Daddy” but he doesn’t sound supportive of your decision to be and feel little - which I’m sure is very invalidating.

 

Sometimes we get scared to lose things because we are comfortable in them. It’s not easy, but you really need to figure out what is going to make YOU happy and go from there. Settling will eventually catch up to you.

[Little Writer]

I understand that. He just tends to give mixes signals.. One moment he can act like what I want in a cg and not realize it but when it gets mentioned how it makes me feel how I'm a little and he seems to hate it he feels bad. I've been trying to introduce it more though and I want to talk about it openly with him but he sometimes makes it hard to do so. I really appreciate the advice though and I will think about it.

[129455_1655600852]

I’d suggest reflecting on his reactions when you bring it up as “he hates it” and “feels bad.” Those are pretty telling in terms of his openness to the DDLG lifestyle and to you being little.

[Little Writer]

I see exactly what you mean. I'll try to talk about it with him again.

[Guest ProfessorDaddy33]

It’s only been a few days since you posted last, but have you made any progress with structuring your relationship with the dynamics you are looking for? Also, I’m unsure if he has realized what you want and whether you were straightforward about your sincerity about what you want. It’s important to be in a relationship you are deriving what you need to feel happy for it to be enduring. Anyway, good luck and my words are an opinion so if you don’t like my advice that’s justified of course !

[Little Writer]

I mean, I think we are on our way. I'm just trying to be patient. I think it will all work out because he's becoming more like a cg in someways since then. And I've explained the whole CGLRE to him kinda. In small ways thing are startin to get better.