Damage Control

[Guest LizEffect]

Sorry is a little long

 

So question after I explain why I am asking. When I was younger I met a dominant man that pulled me in with the promise of love and companionship when I was already at a low point in my life when it came to relationships. I learned my submissive side through him. It turned toxic fairly quickly, something I was blind to, and eventually I would be left and pulled back over and over and over. This lasted probably around eight or nine years. Its sad to think it took me that long to break away. Because he was my only dominant "relationship" I have been pushing that part of me away. Until of course now. Where I am finally accepting my submissive littleness. With the freedom that has come with it, well so have old demons. Lurking and in a moment where I felt little I was terrified. So to the question.

 

Do any of you have things maybe similar to this? How have you learned to trust in a daddy/mommy again? Or not have your little space crowded with the scary thoughts. Its a bad night tonight. I just want the damage I thought I already controlled and worked through not to ruin this really great thing I have found.

[Guest Kitten1999]

I have similar memories, falling around the same age. And I still have things pop up. For me, this was healed by a very dear Daddy-friend, who I met on this site. But something I would recommend is thinking of somebody who comforts you as your Daddy/Mommy while in your Littlespace. It could be an actor or a character or someone that means a lot to you. That really helped me with my trauma when trying to touch myself. I hope my suggestion helps!

[Guest LizEffect]

I think lately because I am embracing it all again and trying to learn more about being little and all that it means for me and it is causing those memories to come back. I actually do have a daddy-friend that has been helping me but he is busy a lot and I am trying to not annoy his with how needy I feel like I have been becoming. That does seem like a really good way to help make my littlespace more comforting. Thank you!