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[Kitten2950]

So I've been dating this boy for about 3 months, and it's starting to become really hard to hide my little time. He's just so closed minded I'm not sure how to introduce my little stuff and and explain my little space to him. Help!!!

[Alaskan Daddy]

I think you have 3 choices. One is maybe end the relationship if you feel he will not accept you for who you are.

The second choice is to stay and hide who you are. The third choice is slowly show him your little stuff and little

side and try to explain to him that this is a part of who you are inside of your heart. And try to explain to him

what DDLG is. If you do this you need to be prepared that he may never understand or accept it as something he wants.

Your feelings are important bit at the same time his feelings are too. I hope this helps a little bit. Good luck

with everything

[SmolAetherr]

3 months is long enough to consider telling him, i know its hard but what you are not telling him is not a small thing it is quite big and it can really hurt the other person if they are not told soon talk about it sooner rather than later regardless of if they like or accept it

 

 

 

 

edit: wrote this just after waking up, i made it significantly more coherant haha

Edited October 7, 2019 by Aetherr

[Little kaiya]

Deciding when to open up about something like this can be very hard. Too early and the person may decide to walk away (over sharing) but too late and it can feel like a lack of trust or honesty.

 

3 months feels like long enough to get to know one another. Ask yourself this, if he had an interest or kink that he was unsure about telling you at what point would you be upset he didnt tell you? Putting yourself in your partners shoes can be a great way to shed some light on an issue.

 

You say he's closed minded, if that's the case is that the type of person you want to be with long term? Life is short, do you want to continue to invest in a relationship where you have to hide who you are? Why would you want to do that to yourself? If you don't tell him then your relationship becomes based in secrets, is that what you want?

 

On the flip side, he has a right to know who he's with. If he does in fact not like DDlg it's unlikely to one day just get better.

 

Open, honest, communication . . . Without it there can't really be a relationship can there.

 

As for actual mechanics:

1. Set aside time when you both can have the conversation without being rushed

2. Dont introduce little items or talk from littlespace, have the discussion as an adult

3. Be ready to answer questions or accept that he may not be accepting

4. Stay calm

 

It's like any difficult conversation really. Good luck.

 

Little kaiya

Edited October 7, 2019 by Little kaiya

[Guest Littledreamer95]

Just tell him. However realise everyone is different. If he's open to try it or talk about it, great. If is something that genuinly makes him unconfortable, don't force it.

Is better for you two to be honest with each other, and if it doesn't work, I'm sure there's many other people out there. Unless you put the little aspect to the side.

[Kitten2950]

Y'all are so helpful! Thank you so much. ❤️