Age Gap

[Lancelot36]

How many years you think is the right Age gap between a little and her/his mommy or daddy?

 

Ive experienced from 5 years gap to 11 years gap and the older i get i feel like this Gap is growing and fading with me getting older....

 

Tell me your thoughts about it!

[Chiby]

In my opinion it does not matter.

 

But my personal preference is to have a caregiver around my own age 3-5 years younger or older.

But if it click it click and age is just a number.

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy and I have been together for almost two years now and there's a 21 year age gap between us, I'm 41 and he's 20. I honestly dont think the age gap really matters, it's about compatibility between the people.

 

Little kaiya

Edited October 5, 2019 by Little kaiya

[Lancelot36]

Yes you are all right but in society we are like taught to be with people our same age and i dont care about society and people think . The problem is that many of people block themselves to people from different age and i find it sad . Dont you think so

 

You can read here topics like im looking for a daddy not above 30 or not younger than me and things like those. we are getting very open minded about, sexuallity which is cool, but not so much about age

[Guest Sugarsnap]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it and I tend toward 10 year gaps, but I find it hard to relate after hitting a certain point. Each person has their own comfort level, exceptions, etc.

[Chiby]

im sorry to hear that it sounds very tough. In that case i totally understand

 

It was but I have gotten over most of the things that came with it. But I have never been able to get over my fear of older men

[SmolAetherr]

aslong as both parties are of legal ag the gape either way doesent matter

Edited October 5, 2019 by Aetherr

[Baby Bunny Boo]

I personally think it does. Especially if one person is more experienced that the other. If you're new to all this it can be overwhelming at times and some people know and take advantage of that.

[Guest SifuTheWolf]

I'm 56,my babygirl is 35 = 20-21 year age gap. I've had one other DD/lg relationship where the little was even younger, BUT, I've never looked or wanted someone within a certain age range, (other than being over 18) I fell for the person my babygirl is, not her age.

[Little kaiya]

I personally think it does. Especially if one person is more experienced that the other. If you're new to all this it can be overwhelming at times and some people know and take advantage of that.

I hear your point but age doesn't automatically equate to experience. You could have someone who is 25 and started in the community at 18 or someone who is 42 and started when they were 40. People can take advantage of others in many ways. Heck, there are cases where people have relatively equal experience and one is still taking advantage of the other. Age or experience arent protection from abuses of people taking advantage of one another.

 

I think what's more important than age is maturity and experience. Personally, I've never really cared about age. I've dated someone 20 years my senior when I was younger and currently my Wife is 2 years older and I'm dating someone 21 years younger.

 

Can an age gap pose challenges in terms of life experience, goals, reference points, etc., yes absolutely it can BUT it's really up to the people in the relationship to really decide how much impact they let it have on their relationship.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest IntrovertLittle82]

For me, personally it doesn't matter, as long as all partners involved are of legal age. I tend to date older people than me because more often than not I find that person more stable and settled down. Granted I've never date someone older than my parents    If the relationship is genuine than it shouldn't matter 

[Cara Innes]

Oof! The whole age question always felt a bit wobbly to me.  

First: because, even though I tend to prefer older men, I took a chance on a younger guy when I married; and I waaaayyy came to regret it.  

Second: because I'm neurodivergent, and so, unwritten cultural rules about pretty much *anything*, much less dating, can tangle me up any 'ol how.  

Third: because, even though I'll be 44 in a week, I haven't had a lot of the experiences that people my age are supposed to have by now (due to various circumstances throughout my life) -- and so, I frequently find that I'm both too old for some crowds, and then, not *mentally* old enough for people my own age.   

@o@; It gets to be quite a pickle!

Once my marriage became open, and I started dating again, it was hard for me to decide what to do. Because, no matter who I asked, it seemed to me that each side had very good reasons for their perspectives!

However, I eventually settled on using science/psychology to establish my own personal dating guideline/preference.   
They say that a human being's brain does not fully mature until around 25 years of age. I figure, add two years of experience/practice *using* said brain (resulting in 27 years of age minimum), and I should be good to go no matter what! 

[LittleCelticLass]

Age is tricky, up to a point. Two of the best Daddies I ever had were younger than me, but not by much. We were close enough in age to have things in common beyond DDlg, and they had enough life experience to understand a woman who's nearly 50. Because when it comes down to brass tacks, I need someone to help me navigate adult life; and someone who's still living with his parents or in a college dorm, who has never had to deal with mortgages, insurance payments, and electric bills just can't comprehend the stressors in my life the same way someone who has experienced those things can. It doesn't make younger guys bad daddies, just makes them wrong for me. Besides, it would just feel too icky to be with someone young enough to be my biological child.

That said, age is just a number and isn't nearly as important as maturity. As evidenced by the two men I was involved with who were older than me, and decided to just ghost me, rather than being adult and ending things with a conversation. Those two, were obviously NOT mature enough to claim thier man cards.

[LittleTeacup]

I don't think there's a one-size-fits-all "right" age gap for littles and caregivers. Everyone has their own preference, and when you meet the right person you might be surprised anyway. I usually like people approximately my own age, but the guy I fell hardest for (unexpectedly) is 13 years older than me. *shrug* In general, as long as a person is able to understand my situation in life and can appreciate 90s things (like movies, toys, etc) we're off to a good start. I'm such a late bloomer that at this point there may well be plenty of younger people with more life experience than I do anyway, so why restrict myself? I don't restrict myself to one gender either.

[Metalheaddaddy]

I'm a bit if an outlier in this community. Yes be it's important that every one be a consenting adults, but I really feel there's an unhealthy power balance when the age Gap gets to big.

I say this as some one who had had positive experiences with age Gap relationships. The types of age gaps that tend to be common in the community is 30+ year old doms with new-to-the-scene 18 year old littles.

The 18 year is just learning and while it would be great to have a kind and understanding Dom to guide, what usually happens is that the Dom takes advantage of the littles inexperience.

They pile on the "well you're supposed to be little and submissive and do what I say no matter what" while never mentioning that the little has every right to say no regardless of the situation.

And the little is too uncertain about their role to say no because The Dom is so much older and experienced so he must know what he's talking about, right?

and any disagreement is just met with "oh you're just a fake little then"

Where as someone who is closer to your age and experience, you can feel more comfortable saying "hey wait, this doesn't feel right"

Are there good and nurturing age Gap relationships? Yes but they seem to be the exception that proves the rule.

Edited October 20, 2019 by Guest

[Guest Sweetbottoms]

Hmmmm.... I would not know the answer to that I have mixed feelings about daddy's and Littles. Thoughts at the same time I was thinking the daddy should be definitely older than the little. I don't know by how many years.

 

How about by 10 years does that sound reasonable?

[ThePrincessMinMin]

Edited November 6, 2019 by ThePrincessMinMin

[Guest PinkBaby_Princess]

Age Gap doesn't matter to me. I think it all goes by maturity and how intelligent they are. I need communication, since I love communicating. My mind gets stimulated by it. If I can't talk with a certain Daddy about anything, things will not go so smoothly and I will lose interest in them. Communication is everything to me. We need to click by personality and intelligence or things can not progressive into anything further. It goes by how they present themselves to me and I can see that they would be a great care giver to me.

 

Everyone looks for different things. So all those things matter to me. I enjoy getting to know people and asking them questions. If I somehow see that we are not compatible, we are simply not compatible. I'll never force anything to happen and neither should anyone else. I somehow always know when I click with a certain person. Maturity, communication skills, intelligence, manners, personality, stability: these are all important things to me. I make sure that I get to know them very well, before going any further. All those things need to be looked at. Age is something that won't bug me as much. I usually look for a Daddy that's, 21+ and see who I'm most compatible with. If the age is something that bugs them, I will move along to someone else later on down the road until I meet someone I see fit to be my caregiver.

[Guest SecretlyTheLittleMermaid]

My personal preference is under 40..

[Guest ~GlitterUnicorn~]

I honestly don't think there should be a particular range

Everyone has different preferences so it's hard to say that "that's what it should be for sure" it's about finding what you prefer

 

I don't have a particular preference besides from the person being my age or older.

[junebug0325]

In my opinion, it doesn't matter. Age is just a number. The only time that age matters is if one or both of the people involved in the relationship are underage, then it's not okay. But if you are both consenting adults, I think it's totally fine. 

 

My Daddy is 9 years older than me. I think the age gap is great, especially because Daddies are supposed to teach and help their little grow. I think it's definitely helped me work through some situations that I might not have worked through before, and I often look to him for advice, which is a great form of communication in the relationship.

 

Overall, I think the age gap is perfect for us - because we don't allow it to come between us.

 

Thanks for reading!

 

 

 

Junebug xxx

[DaddysPrettyPrincess]

I don't think that age gaps are wrong but I also don't think they're mandatory, my daddy and I are 5 years apart and for us that's perfect. I think that as long as someone's intentions are pure and don't try and use age as a 'leverage' per say then there is nothing wrong with it. I could personally not date someone twenty years older than me just because I feel like the generational gap is too large for my liking, but that doesn't mean it's that way for everyone.  

Edited December 5, 2019 by DaddysPrettyPrincess

[drewrozdom]

I'm 52 and my little is 35. I think an important distinction is the difference between age gap and age play. At 35 my little has quite a bit of experience in BDSM and brings a maturity with it. While that may sound counterintuitive, a person's age should reflect a degree of self-awareness. We are a 24/7 DDLG. When I slip and refer to her as a "woman" she insists she is not a woman but is a little. She has three kids and can be a good mom and a little at the same time; while keeping a job paying bills and being responsible. Because of her experience, I had to earn the title of Daddy. This experience has made our D/s DDLG relationship much more secure. We don't typically age play. Age play may apply more directly to a scene rather than a lifestyle. I am attracted to younger women with Daddy issues. My current little is very upfront with the fact that she needs her Daddy all the time. I get a charge from her looking up to me. I also enjoy the age gap. So at the end of the day, age gap is as much a preference as someone who prefers dating Asians to white people, for example. Issues will be experienced regardless of the age gap. If you are choosing a large age gap and you are the Dom, you need to have realistic expectations relative to the age of the little and the age he or she identifies with. My little identifies herself as a 7 to 9 year old. So I care for her through the lens of a 7 to 9 year old. The fact that she's 35 and I'm 52 is actually meaningless.

[BabyDaisy81]

There’s ten years between my daddy and me.. It wouldn’t matter about the gap, I would have to feel safe and loved (which I do)..

[TimTim]

I’m 30 while mommy is 46, we both thought it would be an issue but we’ve been together for 7 years now and hoping for many more. I like to think the CG/L dynamic actually benefits from having the caregiver being a little older but even as adults we are quite compatible. It’s all about sharing interests, respecting each other and understanding the other person’s opinions/views. Just basic stuff for any relationship but mommy just has more experience with life that really helps me while I’m more energetic to help balance her out when she’s had a rough day.