HELP

[anjelbabe1229]

[Little kaiya]

That's a hard situation to be in for sure but you also say you've been a little for a long time so that means you didn't tell him before you got married even though you knew you were a little.

 

Hiding something like that from someone you are marrying isnt really fair to them as an adult. They have the right to make an informed decision about who they are agreeing to spend their life with in my opinion. It's one thing if you discovered being a little after getting married but that's not what you've described. It amazes me that people hide things like this or kinks from their spouse then get upset when they tell their spouse it it isnt accepted with open arms.

 

Honestly, if my spouse hide something like this orca kink and told me 2 years AFTER getting married . . . It wouldn't be the interest that would bother me, it would be the monumental breach of trust that they lied to me for 2 years. To me it's one thing not to share when you're dating it's ENTIRELY different when you commit to spending your life together with someone.

 

Now, he shouldn't have been mean or yelled about it because that's not much if a loving response from your spouse but he also shouldn't be forced to be something he doesn't want to be either. You can't "make" him a Daddy and neither should he have to agree to be one. You kind of set yourself up for heart break by hiding it and lying to him then getting married. You need to take responsibility for the situation you created.

 

Some options I see, other people may have other suggestions:

 

1. Accept he won't be your Daddy and be little by yourself

2. Trying to push it on him against his wishes

3. See if he'll be ok with you finding a Daddy, platonic or romantic

4. Try burying being a little

5. Leave the relationship

 

You will notice I haven't expressed my opinion about the options, though I have VERY strong opinions, because it isn't my relationship.

 

I wish you luck but you've created a hard situation that doesn't have any easy answers.

 

Little kaiya

[anjelbabe1229]

Yea I kno you right. I’d never leave him, that would hurt my heart cause I love him sooooo much. I hide being a little for a longggg time now but it’s so lonely. What do I do to help not be lonely??? I kno I can’t make him be my daddy :’(

[Little kaiya]

Evaluate your situation and make an adult decision that your respects your needs, wants and desires AND his needs, wants and desires.

[anjelbabe1229]

Edited October 3, 2019 by anjelbabe1229

[Guest ~GlitterUnicorn~]

He has the right to refuse, but to be mean about it isnt fair nods. Perhaps he'd be ok with you having a platonic caregiver? A relationship should mean that you are both happy and content nods but if he isnt comfortable with you having a cg maybe you could find some time where you can just have some fun little time by yourself?