Long Distance Little Without A Relationship

[HuskyGames]

So me and my now ex-girlfriend went into long distance around May. We were going good until around late September when we broke up because of the distance. We still want to give it another shot if I can move out to her, but we both agree that distance isn't going to work. She says that she wants to stay friends until we can do it but she wants me to still be her caregiver no matter what. Id this a normal thing that happens? I'm sort of a new Daddy and have been doing it since November of 2018. (Making this my first DD/LG relationship). So if amyone can hive me advice on what I should and could do in this situatiom it would be very much appreciated! Thank you all!

[SmolAetherr]

its not about if it is normal its about if you are comfortable doing it, listening to people who go on about what you "should do" wont work because everyone is different and different things make us feel good and bad

 

so ask yourself

 

do you want to be friends?

do you want to be her caregiver?

do you want to relocate for her?

 

once you answer those questions while being true to yourself you will know what to tell her and stand by what you want since she wouldnt ask you to be her caregiver and friend if she didnt want those things

 

but your wants and needs matter just as much.

Edited October 1, 2019 by Aetherr

[Guest littlebabyslittlespace]

Personally I think she's asking too much of you. First for asking you to relocate, and second for asking you to still be her caregiver when you broke up. She's wanting it to benefit herself which isn't very nice. If it was me, I'd say no, stay friends if wanted but move on. Unless you are absolutely in love with her and could see a strong future with her? If not, then definitely move on

[Guest littlebabyslittlespace]

It just doesn't sound like she cares much for you, only herself. Why can't she relocate? 

[Little kaiya]

I think Aetherr really hit the nail on the head and that it bears repeating, it really isnt about what's normal, it's about what you want and what feels right or comfortable in YOUR life.

 

That said, I get a lot of people look for advice and other's perspective to help them process their thoughts so let me offer mine.

 

First, I'm a little, not a switch and definitely not a Daddy or Mommy. That said, I wouldn't expect someone I broke up to continue to be my caregiver if we weren't in a relationship. I know there are people who have platonic caregivers but it's not something I could ever do or would ever want. To me the Caregiver/little bond is very intimate and intense and it's not something I would expect a friend to do.

 

Second, relocating is a big deal. There are a lot of littles who throw it out there like it's nothing but it is a serious commitment and one that shouldn't be done lightly.

 

Third, it seems like she's clear on what she wants but what about you? Do you really want to move? Do you want to give everything a caregiver usually gives to her while not being in a relationship? You deserve to be happy, be sure you're making decisions for the right reason.

 

Personally, I'd stay friends, sure, but DDlg would be off the table as I looked for someone who was compatible that lived where I chose to live.

 

Little kaiya

[Tiger Striperino]

My advice would be to analyze how your life would be if you moved there. What exactly is going to change to make this work? Are you going to be able to find a job? What's your housing situation going to be like?

[Ebony Fruit Bat]