Understanding your little

[Guest Deleteplease]

This is more food for thought than anything else and purely an observation of which I welcome a response.

 

I have spoken to lots of littles over this last week and a common factor always takes place.

 

A little has been hurt, they are fearful of commitment, they don't feel worthy or want acceptance.

 

My point is this, when we are developing a lot of things happen, some are bullied others abandoned like me I was adopted.

 

I see when a little is being a little, they also show their traits of insecurities and problems from their childhood and as such as a dd/cg I believe you are also responsible to continue the help and development of your littles mental state.

 

As your little is little again you can help undo the hurt and pain that once took place by making it right again and showing them they are loved, they are special.

 

Again I just wanted to express how o was feeling and it makes me sad ao many littles have such deep insecurities and without a dd to take care of them.

 

If you are lucky enough to find yours, be kind and remember to go slow. This isn't about you getting your needs met, like anything it is an equal relationship :-)

[Guest buddhagirl]

I can relate to this, Twitch. My daddy is also my husband and best friend, but it is me as his little girl that is most connected to the abandonment that happened to me when I was little. This dynamic in our relationship has allowed Daddy to help me heal so many of the wounds from my childhood that I just wouldn't have been vulnerable enough to work through any other way. It's very scary to let Daddy see these wounds, expose them to him, and let him touch them, but I've learned to let him because he is a truly good, kind and loving person that wants me to be happy, healthy and whole. This dynamic and Daddy are a gift to me because they have helped me heal.

[Guest Deleteplease]

Thank you for sharing, I am really pleased you have found true happiness and j wish you well on your healing quest. It's always easier with 2 :-)

[Fluffy]

I can relate to this, Twitch. My daddy is also my husband and best friend, but it is me as his little girl that is most connected to the abandonment that happened to me when I was little. This dynamic in our relationship has allowed Daddy to help me heal so many of the wounds from my childhood that I just wouldn't have been vulnerable enough to work through any other way. It's very scary to let Daddy see these wounds, expose them to him, and let him touch them, but I've learned to let him because he is a truly good, kind and loving person that wants me to be happy, healthy and whole. This dynamic and Daddy are a gift to me because they have helped me heal.

 

I'm gonna show my little this. She had a troublesome childhood and I know she identifies as a little because of this. Our dynamic has made it easier for us to communicate about these issues, and I think seeing that it has been successful for someone else would benefit her.