Too Hard on Herself

[Vaar'ika]

I have an adorable little (totally 100% unbiased source), but, unfortunately,  I don't get to see much of her. You see, we're in an LDR and she hates taking photos of herself. Now, I can live with that. What hurts me is how much she hates the way she looks. She doesn't see the same beauty I do. We do have one thing we're doing to help her become more comfortable with her body, but I don't know if that will be enough. If any other CGs (or littles) have had or are currently experiencing this issue, what's your advice?

[ArtsyKitten]

Have her look in the mirror every day. Tell her to tell herself she is decent. When she gets comfortable with that try having her say "I'm a little better than decent" then "I'm kinda amazing" and just keep working up.

 

I used think I was only beautiful with makeup. So, I started taking half my makeup off and looking at myself and telling myself that I'm beautiful with and without makeup. Now, I think I look much better without makeup and barely wear it. It took a long time. It's not an easy or short process. It does work though. I hope she recognizes her beauty and worth. Hope this helped x

[Vaar'ika]

Thank you.

[Guest]

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[GingerBread1997]

I suggest having her do affirmations. Complimenting oneself can help a lot with self image/self confidence. It’s not easy and it takes a while but it’s worth it

[Vaar'ika]

Thank you.

[TinyTea]

The thing that helps me the most, as a Little who doesn't 100% like the way I look either, is to tell myself that "Just because I'm not *my* type, does not mean I'm not my Daddy's type." AkA just because I'm not held to my own standards of what I find attractive, doesn't mean I'm not attractive to other people's standards. Its not perfect, but it helps for me to get out of my own self hate and try to see a bigger picture. 

[The_Rector]

Hi, I understand your problem. The Littles are in great need of security and comfort, so you will have to work hard on reassurances. Try to make your manifestations of joy enthusiastic when she sends you an image of her and returns with the double: send her your photos of the face in love with her appearance, always openly show how much you like it. Never think of exaggerating. And he tries to impose his way of seeing to you too, perhaps giving him the task of writing many positive statements about his body, for example: "I am beautiful and my Daddy is crazy about me".

[DaddysPrettyPrincess]

I have struggled with self image in the past and every morning I looked in the mirror and told myself one thing that I like about myself, then once every weekend I had a "self-care" day where I did things that make me feel nice, whether that means doing my nails, dressing up pretty, doing face masks and a bubble bath etc for me it helped me get more comfortable with myself, it made me feel happier in my own skin overtime, like I was slowly improving myself. 

 

The best thing you can do is just make her feel pretty, I still don't love showing my face on camera but my man never forces me, when we first started talking he would slowly coax me into it, like first we started on Snapchat where I could use filters and turn off the camera at my discretion and he never said a word, then I got comfortable enough to not need all that stuff but it felt good whenever he'd tell me how beautiful I was. Its a process and not everyone is the same just have patience with her before anything else. 

[Tiger Striperino]

Self-image is tough. For a long time I wasn't comfortable in my own skin but recently I've been learning to love myself. It's taken a lot of time and effort and I'm still trying to improve.

 

I started working out, trying to slim down. And eventually I could look myself in the mirror. I'm not sure I'm very helpful here, though.