Am I a little?

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Ok, so I am my daddy's little girl. That much is true, real and absolute. But its not an age play relationship. I am 44 years old at all times.

But when I am with my daddy I get all innocent and shy and have this sweet voice

I only use with him. I do display certain mannerisms, such as getting all silly and giddy, giggling and such. I have genuinely never giggled in my life before meeting him.

I have just begun colouring, although its the "adult" colouring books with more intricate, complicated designs than ones aimed at children.

I feel most at ease when daddy is holding my hand, taking care of me, explaining things to me, stroking my hair as I lay at his feet or I'm on his lap etc.

I sometimes feel I have a little somewhere inside, but not sure really. I have no interest in pacifiers, diapers, sippy cups, a stuffie collection, baby talk etc. Nothing whatsoever wrong with that of course, its just neither mine nor my daddy's thing.

Not sure what I am asking. Just any comments or opinions on my very vague rambling would be appreciated lol. Thanks

[LittleFaunPrincess]

You might be a middle rather than a little maybe?? I'm still kinda new to all this myself but it sounds like you might be more of a middle. At the same time nobody can tell someone they aren't a little just because they don't like stuffies or sippy cups if you feel like you're a little then you are one ^-^ I don't think you have to identify with an age to be in a headspace or to be considered a little ether so that might be it. Still kind of new tho so I might not be 100% right

[Guest buddhagirl]

I'm pretty much the same way. I feel like a little girl around Daddy, but not a specific age. I don't like/need sippie cups, etc. I have a coloring book for grown-ups, but don't use it too much. Mostly I just feel like a little girl because of Daddy. I've given some thought to why I'm like I am while it seems everyone else has pacifiers, "little space" and what not. The conclusion I've come to is that it doesn't matter. This is how my relationship is and it is wonderful. He absolutely is my Daddy and I'm his little girl and it's wonderful that we are doing it our way--the way that feels right and authentic for us--and not trying to check a list of what's "typical" or "normal". Heck, this whole thing isn't "normal", so why try? We're grown ass women, so it may be a bit different for us than for an 18 year old. My Daddy is happy I'm his and I'm happy I have an amazing Daddy that takes care of me--that's all that matters to me. 

 

I also think that this forum is 90% telling people that they're fine the way they are. There seems to be a lot of effort going toward getting this "right", but there is no "right". If you are true to yourself and understand how YOU work, you can't go wrong and will find the right partner for YOU.

[Guest buddhagirl]

You might be a middle rather than a little maybe?? I'm still kinda new to all this myself but it sounds like you might be more of a middle. At the same time nobody can tell someone they aren't a little just because they don't like stuffies or sippy cups if you feel like you're a little then you are one ^-^ I don't think you have to identify with an age to be in a headspace or to be considered a little ether so that might be it. Still kind of new tho so I might not be 100% right

 

Who came up with these categories? When we create labels and categories we set people up to feel different and like there may be something wrong with them. I feel like a little girl with Daddy. Probably around 5 years old, but I don't really act like I'm 5 and I don't go into little space. This doesn't mean I'm not a little or I am a little. I'm just me. 

 

I believe that some people fit perfectly into the categories others create, and that's comforting for them. But many will not and that's okay. You are you, MyDaddyMyWorld, and it sounds like your daddy loves you just the way you are. Rock on.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Thank you both

Yes, I met daddy on another site, where there is a lot of titles, definitions, clear lines, lol.

Our relationship has many layers, our dynamic is very fluid. He is my daddy, my owner, my master, my soulmate, my lover, my best friend, my dominant........ I said something on there about daddy collaring me, and some guy nearly burst into flames haha. He is not your daddy then, he is your master!! Says who lol? You??

 

Yes we are who we are. I sometimes want to regress, be all cute and "young" but other times, other sides come out with daddy that are not at all young, lol.

Thank you

[ziva vlad's kitten]

I sometimes feel I have a little somewhere inside, but not sure really. I have no interest in pacifiers, diapers, sippy cups, a stuffie collection, baby talk etc. Nothing whatsoever wrong with that of course, its just neither mine nor my daddy's thing.

 

i wouldn't be surprised if part of this is because you both have children already, so it would be a reminder of them and might make it awkward for you if you were to get into those things.

And it seems like a lot of littles are barely old enough not to be still considered a child in their actual age. so it's not as big of a jump for them to get into pacifiers and bottles.

 

i never call my Big "daddy", because i still call my father that sometimes, so it makes me uncomfortable.

That in no way changes the fact that i am a little.

 

So i could be wrong here, but perhaps if you had started using pacifiers and other stuff before you had kids you would have enjoyed it, but now it's too closely tied with them for the time being.

 

Who knows maybe someday i will start calling Papa Kitty "daddy"... i don't think it's likely.

In the same way, maybe someday you will decide you want to try a pacifier, or bottle, or other babyish things... then again maybe not.

But that in no way means that you are not a little.

 

i don't think i would have tried any myself, except that Papa Kitty wanted me to try a pacifier. At first it was weird, but now i really like it and it helps me to chew my nails less.

 

You're still a little, mostly because you get to define what little means to you. However even if you want it too match other people's definition of what little means, i would think that the way you get little when you're around your daddy, makes you a little by those standards as well.

 

P.S. oops, sorry that got rambly, i hope that made sense.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Hehe yes it made perfect sense. Thank you. Its all personal emotion I suppose. We all feel it in different ways with different stimuli etc. I appreciate your input and thoughts, its good to get different perceptions.

[Daddys__kitten]

i wouldn't be surprised if part of this is because you both have children already, so it would be a reminder of them and might make it awkward for you if you were to get into those things.

 

I think this made so much sense!

I'm kinda a crunchy mama so my kid has never had a paci, rarely used diaper (did the whole ECthing), never had a sippy and so on. So I don't associate those things with her, just with being little.

[Guest buddhagirl]

I, too, don't think of my kids when I think of diapers, pacifiers and sippie cups. For me, some of the things typically associated with DDlg feel natural, and some don't. Isn't that true for everyone? 

[forest fairy]

I consider myself a little but I don't age play or regress to a specific age. There are just certain elements of my personality that are very child like and a lot of my interests are "kid stuff" but certainly not everything. Sometimes I'm more little than other times, like when I'm alone with Daddy and it feels safe to let my guard down and share that part of my personality. The longer we've been doing this lifestyle the more I've embraced those childlike things about myself that I used to consider flaws.

 

I've never been into pacifiers, baby bottles, diapers, etc. but I recently realized I really want a blankie. I've always been into kids movies, cartoons, dolls, stuffies, and all kinds of toys. And I've always played exclusively kids video games. 

 

To be honest I love the idea of a sippy cup full of juice, since I can't drink milk, but I can't stand drinking out of plastic containers. 

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

You sound very similar to me other than that very last part, but nobody is ever exactly the same hehe.

[LB Chris]

Being a 'little is as you find it in yourself. With absolutely no disrespect to those who do, it need not include sippy cups, diapers, romper suits or pacifers if that doesn't feel like you on the inside.

[SpinSpinSugar]

I e always been like this; granted it took me a *cough* few decades to figure out, but still. I don't get the age play either, and I've had my own wobbles about the dynamic due to the idealism and the sheer amount of pink. I've never considered myself cute and I struggle even presenting in a feminine way, so I've felt like a moose in a ballet sometimes. I'm also well aware for many in my dynamic I'm well beyond the sell-by date so a chance of finding a daddy is slim to none, but I'm still gonna do me.

 

But I love a lot of stuff that ascribes to little-ness, mostly because I just enjoy them and always have. I love bubbles, and Mary Janes, ring pops and stripes socks, although not the really childlike things. I enjoy some of the plates and cups and things but just because I do, not to get into a 'space'. I do wonder if, like other aspects of BDSM, this dynamic gets hung up on the acquisition of stuff as a marker of how much something-or-other you are. I think we need to smash some of those expectations.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

I don't actually believe age (or size, or ethnicity, or gender etc) has any relevance. I came into this mindset, or rather realised and accepted it) at 43 years old. I'd lived the opposite way in relationships my whole life, which is no doubt one reason they failed. I am a follower not a leader. Anything else leaves me unfulfilled and resentful.

It's never, ever too late to find a daddy for you. Ever x

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Oh, just noticed we are the exact same age so there you go!

[SpinSpinSugar]

While I appreciate where you are coming from, believing it doesn't matter vs my experiences where I have been shown repeatedly that yes, it really DOES matter... Yeah. I'm not going to hold my breath. Hence why I seem to be doing stupid things like flinging myself in dangerous situations as I'm just so grateful someone gives a damn. I'm working on that. But it's proof even at our ages we can still end up doing silly stuff. That's come as a surprise!

 

I was once told getting older is about making a fool of oneself with grace. Life goals! But it brings me to the main point: I think for us older types we expect ourselves to be able to Adult a lot more - as you were saying before about missing your Daddy, and how confusing that headspace can be when we are 'supposed' to have our shit together after A Certain Age. But I think it's a false expectation. My body is getting older; I'm collecting experiences which gives a certain base of....ugh, I hate to call it wisdom. Life learning experiences maybe.

 

And then I have nights when I skip tea and eat lots of cake. And that's totally ok too

[lillteblue]

I have recently came to the realization that I am a little and I would like to explore more into this and figure out to what level of little I am, but I am nervous to any suggestions?

[Guest Littlest_Angel]

Hi, 

 

I've recently come to the realization that I might be a little.  I have certain mannerisms that scream that I am one.  I want to make sure, be sure about this and then give it my all!  How can I be sure though? I took the kink test and it fits my mannerisms to a tee, but without a daddy is there a way to be sure that you are a little?  I can't be sure whether I've romanticized everything I've read and watched about DDGL, and want only that kind of trust and love and commitment from my partner.   

 

Help please  

[Guest ~GlitterUnicorn~]

You may fit more a 'middle' (which is like tween/teen)

 

But in the end it doesnt matter labels are just labels if you wish to be a little you are little