what is the difference between a DDLG relationship and a Bf Gf relationship how do they coexist with each other?

[shadowman123]

Hello i am new to this i am talking to a girl that i truly care for and i see myself with her but i recently found out that she has a daddy. she has been with this daddy for five years now and they pretty much do everything under the sun. she told me that the daddy is apart of her life and that she will continue to have sex with him. but she also told her daddy she wants a relationship and a family. she told me that the daddy would stay out of our relationship but outside of it he will be there. i am a very dominant guy but how does it work when your gf is having sex with her daddy but no feelings are involved but with her bf its different. my question is what is the difference between the two i accept it but how does it work? because i dont want to lose her to her daddy and the whole sex thing. what are the guidelines and boundaries?

[MrBonesWildRide]

So what you're asking is how a poly or open relationship works:

 

Long story short, they have to be full of communication. Every party involved has to consent to what's going on. But depending on the negotiation, not every person has to know exactly what is going on: Using your example. You have Girl + Daddy + You. Girl is with Daddy in a purely sexual context. According to what you've told us, she wants an actual relationship while she also has this alternate partner. She wants this relationship to be her "primary" per se while she is able to have sex with this Daddy. 

 

It's not that difficult to comprehend, however it involves all 3 of you being aware that you are all consenting to this. The Daddy shouldn't be led on to believe he is the only one, you shouldn't feel out of place, etc. If you are all consenting parties, then your grasp on feeling dominant falls on communication between you and her. If you feel like you are overwhelmingly dominant and jealous, do not pursue this relationship. You will not find much peace in it.

 

Some people have their partners as an alternate lifestyle to the one they have. As long as they are open about it (in the context of "everyone involved knows whats going on" not "I tell everyone who will listen"), that is their own business. 

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

This situation is very confusing. It seems as though your girlfriend doesn't really know what she wants. Does she want an open relationship? Is she poly amorous? (It doesn't seem like it since she wants to keep both of your relationships separate)

 

There are some littles who just have Caregivers that they do not have sex with. The Caregiver is there to protect and guide the little but there is nothing further. The dynamic varies from person to person depending on the desires of the individual. I think you need to ask her for some clarity. How do you feel about it? Are you okay with an open relationship?

[Michaelcycles]

If you're going to step into an open or poly relationship, you're going to need to put some of your dominance aside. I was in one for a while and it can be rewarding to all parties as long as you realize what you're signing up for.