Anxiety Flare Up (Advice Needed)

[phoenixpixie]

I had a rough, anxiety-filled day that's led to tears in my eyes (which just led me to being upset about having tears and that just cycled into more tears) and I'm struggling to get my mind off things.

 

This is my first flare up that I'm dealing with solo since my bf/Daddy and I broke up.

 

I want nothing more than cuddles and Netflix-binging with back-and-forth commentary and reassurance this will pass and I'm fine and just to let go and be little and give all my worries away. I really miss having a Daddy I can lean on through this stuff, but I also don't want to not be able to deal with crap on my own.

 

What advice do you guys have for dealing with anxiety flare up on your own? Can you get into littlespace on your own? I'm afraid if I tried it would just make me more lonely and sad.

 

 

 

[GingerBread1997]

ive not had a CG for a while now and i agree that its much easier getting into little space when you do have one. however, it can be done. i usually turn the lights out and use my string lights that are in my room so the lightning isnt so harsh and its much more calming. maybe if you have a warm lighting lamp you could use? i get my out my big girl clothes and get my paci and favorite stuffy. i typically turn on a movie i like to watch in my little space, usually monsters inc or finding nemo, and relax into the descent to little space.

 

i always do this if ive had a particularly trying day and it doesnt make me feel any worse. i hope you feel better love xx

[phoenixpixie]

Thanks so much <3. Disney movie with paci and Bearry sounds wonderful right now.

[SweetBabygirl74]

At the beginning of the year every single day I ended up with panic attacks

Luckily on my way home it was already dark so I was driving in my car with my paci (I have one in my handbag for emergencies) and at home I snuggled up with my kitty watching something nice and having a bottle with Angel Milk

[Lollipox]

Firstly I’m sorry you’re having a hard time. Anxiety can be very overwhelming.

 

If you find it difficult to get into Little Space or enjoy Little things because they remind you of what you’d do with your ex, try looking for new Little interests that can be a special “only you” thing.

Even if it’s trying some new movies, tv shows, snacks, music etc.

Some new things might provide a helpful distraction from your anxiety as well. I know firsthand that it’s difficult to relax or even think of things you can do when you’re feeling stressed or panicky, heart racing, head buzzing and the irrational fear sometimes associated with it.

 

Maybe you could write down some of the suggestions members give, or things you already know you enjoy, so you can look back at it when you’re struggling to come up with what to do.

Especially times when you’re NOT anxious, and able to remind yourself by writing down the things you’re enjoying.

 

Sry if rambly

[lacey bunny]

There are a ton of fun things to do alone whilst in Little Space (sure the site has a lot of suggestions) or perhaps making some Little friends might helpful too

 

 

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Lots random tips for managing anxiety... So get ready!

 

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Make sure to have G.R.A.P.E.S. daily

 

Gentle with self
Relaxation
Accomplishment
Pleasure
Exercise
Social

 

Be gentle with yourself kinder words and behaviours

Relaxation give yourself some time for self-care at least 20 minutes a day

Give yourself something to accomplish daily. It could be like picking up a shirt up off the floor or just completing the day or drinking a glass of water

Allow yourself to enjoy the pleasures in the day like enjoying a cuppa juice or the sun rays in the morning

Exercise it could be walking, taking the stairs, 5 minutes of yoga at your desk or stretching

And of course being social even if that's just talking with one person for a little bit that day

 

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A few ways to ground during anxiety attacks

 

• Take deep breaths
• Try to think positive thoughts (instead thinking of the negative try to look at the positives)
• Drink some cold water
• Find something positive to watch
• You can hold ice in your hands while trying to regulate your breathing
• Walking barefoot on wet grass
• Allowing cold (not ice cold) water to ruin over your wrist
• Ground List (to say out loud)
  • Name 5 things you see, 4 things you can feel, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, 1 thing you can taste

Remember to breath in and out through your nose

 

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As always know your support people and let them know if you need help with anxiety/panic attacks

There is nothing wrong with asking for help or seeking help through therapy

 

I hope some of that helps and more so that your anxiety eases soon PhoenixPixie