Advice?

[DomAsh]

Any advice for ways to keep my little happy?

we are in a long distance relationship and so it is kind of difficult to make her as happy as she deserves to be. any advice?

[neko]

Talk to her. Ask her if she's happy and if she's not, ask her what you could be doing to make her happier in the relationship. We can't tell you how your little is feeling or thinking

[Guest Chrisx]

Definitely would talk about it, feeling like you're not doing good enough for your partner can mess someone up bad. 

 

Maybe she is happy, maybe she thinks nothing of not showing that regularly.

Maybe she's not, maybe she doesn't like something you do and isn't bringing that up. 

 

You know her better than us so take the lead and be straight up, have a chat about how you're feeling and see where that goes. 

Edited September 24, 2019 by Chrisx

[RedFox]

Communication is always the key to any relationship, including these ones.  It's really important that you both keep communicating with each other, otherwise small issues can soon become big ones before you know it.  But it's really good that you want to make her as happy as possible!  If you haven't told her that already then that's definitely something she would want to know. 

Edited September 24, 2019 by RedFox

[Guest ~GlitterUnicorn~]

Keep up the communication - communication is so important long distance or not

Not only does it show you're committed it can help you see where she is at

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Of course it's always good to communicate, but maybe you're looking for some actual practical ideas?

 

There's several threads on here about long distance relationships. If you do a search you'll be able to read what other people do when they're apart - things like the DD reading a story on video so that the little can watch at bedtime, setting up times to message or call each other so that you both have something to look forward to and also that gives some stability/routine for the little if needed. I also make short videos for my Daddy that he can watch after work, or to say goodnight/goodmorning to him when we're not together.  And I take photos/videos of what I'm wearing that day.  

 

It can be more challenging when you're apart, but there's ways around it. Especially with all the technology today. Video chats and video messages are the best IMO. 

But even just a quick text "Hope you're having a good day" with a cute emoji can be nice.

 

Good luck! 

Looby 

[Guest LittleBunBun84]

It would be helpful to know what it is that your little is struggling with.  Is it the long distance relationship in general?

 

Long distance is challenging but there are small things you can both do to feel more connected.  Phone/video calls in the morning and evening are a good idea.  Check in about your day, share something good that happened and talk about anything bad.  An evening bedtime routine is great, reading a story and having a tuck in time.

 

One thing I really like is using an app that my daddy and I both have access to.  We each have daily tasks and earn points for completing them and you get rewards when you collect enough points.  That's a nice way of feeling more involved in each other's daily lives.

[DaddysPrettyPrincess]

With LDRs feeling connected is a huge part, video chats and regular communication is a must. There may be something going on in her life that she hasn't told you about, she may feel that something is lacking in the relationship but also long distance isn't for everyone, some people might not be able to be fully "happy" in a relationship that way. All you can really do is be the best listener for her possible and show her that you care for her and communicate, she may be a little reserved so don't push it too much.

 

At the end of the day though, you and her are the only ones who know what's going on in your relationship, maybe she isn't the type to really exude happiness, communication is key.