Why are there so many personals for Littles seeking Daddy’s and not the other way around?

[little1grl]

I noticed in the personals that there are way more Littles seeking Daddy’s than Daddy’s seeking Littles.

 

Does that mean there are more Littles than there are Daddy’s? Because it seems that way. Or is it just that Daddy’s don’t post personals for some reason?

 

(As a side note, someone suggested in another thread that I stop asking about how rare Daddy Dom’s are or certain types of Daddy Doms are. But actually I do need to know this because if I’m going to be looking for someone for five plus years, it would be a lot better to settle for someone who isn’t perfectly compatible, or for someone who isn’t exactly what I’d want. I’d rather have some incompatibility than be looking for a local Daddy Dom for many many years to no avail).

Edited September 21, 2019 by little1grl

[SmolAetherr]

for the longest time before i left the website it was the complete opposite situation i often called it a sausage party it was a really sucky time to be looking for a little

 

and no i dont think the m/f/other ratio in the personals should ever be used as an indication and i am a prime example, i was approached by my little after i had stopped actively looking, my little at the time didnt have a personal either, we met based on overlapping interests in the community and mutual respect over how we tackled posts like yours on the forums, we have often admitted to eachother that we follow eachother's posts

 

as for your last point, daddy doms and littles are not rare to encounter especially here, finding the one who stands out to you or vice versa is the hard part. if you were more active in a community/cirlce and you put the effort in to be yourself and such finding a partner would be a near certainty and more often than not they would be a better match than anything you would find in the personals for example since from personal experiance the ones who genuinely put effort in to look while giving themselves all the advantages (details in the thread a profile with things on it, a picture. etc) will make you stand out and be more easily noticed by people you would want in your life!

 

Good luck!!!!!!

Edited September 21, 2019 by Aetherr

[Little kaiya]

I noticed in the personals that there are way more Littles seeking Daddy’s than Daddy’s seeking Littles.

 

Does that mean there are more Littles than there are Daddy’s? Because it seems that way. Or is it just that Daddy’s don’t post personals for some reason?

 

(As a side note, someone suggested in another thread that I stop asking about how rare Daddy Dom’s are or certain types of Daddy Doms are. But actually I do need to know this because if I’m going to be looking for someone for five plus years, it would be a lot better to settle for someone who isn’t perfectly compatible, or for someone who isn’t exactly what I’d want. I’d rather have some incompatibility than be looking for a local Daddy Dom for many many years to no avail).

Personally I didnt find my Daddy until I was 39 but it was because I refused to settle for incompatibility. I wanted to find someone who was right for me and for whom I was right for them and I am 1000% glad that I waited.

 

There are so many stories of people settling and VERY few of them ever work out. If you want to settle that's your call but it seems like a pretty surefire way to end up unhappy in the long run don't you think.

 

Something else to think of perhaps, a relationship has two or more people involved, it isn't just about one person. Personally I'd be pretty upset if my partner described as someone they settled for and as being not quite what they wanted. It just seems a pretty awful way to start a relationship honestly.

 

Little kaiya

Edited September 22, 2019 by Little kaiya

[Brother Bear]

I have not noticed there being more littles than daddies posting personals, but I have not really been counting.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

1) There's a LOT of DD's who are members here but don't contribute to the forum discussions at all. They keep an eye on things and contact someone if they are interested. So you won't see them with a personal listing, but they might see yours, or your comments on threads.

 

2) It depends what you want. 

Do you want just "A" Daddy? Or the Daddy who is right for you? I can't imagine being with someone just because they call themselves a Daddy and i call myself a little. That's not a relationship.

 

There's no such thing as absolute perfection. But the more compatible you are, the better - surely?

 

I spent over a year with a detailed profile which I tweaked every now & then to update it, posting personals, replying to personals. 

And contributing FREQUENTLY to the discussions here so that people could get to know me, and to help me learn about myself and about DDlg.

Then I joined Fetlife and did the same thing there (which is where my Daddy found me).

 

It took a LOT of effort, time, emotion and sometimes stress and worry and doubt.

 

It was well worth it. 

 

I wish you good luck, and don't forget to enjoy the rest of life while you're looking!

Looby 

Edited September 22, 2019 by Looby-Lou