how to be little when you feel like you can't no longer

[Littlesaraaah]

I've been round and round for 5 years, and officially a little for 2. I've only been hurted for everyone that crossed my path. Absolutely everyone. I found myself alone now , literally no one close to me. I don't know if I can be little no longer. It hurts so much it's so excruciating

[Little kaiya]

If you are having so many negative experiences consider taking a break, not from being a little, but from dating or looking for a caregiver.

 

Gives yourself some time for self care. Figure out what you want in a relationship in order to be happy. Find your confidence so you can set boundaries that will reduce the chances of getting hurt later.

 

Being a little or being in a DDlg relationship isn't a race, it's a journey. I'm 41 and it took me until I was 39 to find my Daddy but once I found him it's been almost 2 years we've been together and my Wife is helping my Daddy and I plan our commitment ceremony.

 

Pain is an inevitable part of life but perhaps reflect on how you've been hurt and put measures in place to address those reasons in the future so they don't happen again.

 

As for being unsure whether you can continue being a little, well only you can answer that question. That said, whether you are or aren't a little shouldn't be dependent on someone else, that's an internal thing.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest ~GlitterUnicorn~]

Take it easy on yourself, and take it slowly. Look after yourself and see where things go. Things will fall into place eventually 

[LucyDolly]

I can totally understand how you feel. 

I was hurt so many times by people who I trusted, people I thought were my friends but they only exploited me, they acted as they would cherish me and care fore me but they were only interested in satisfying their own needs and literally nothing beyond that. They always deserted me after they got what they wanted.

Some people are simply not able to value other human beings. They see other people either as useful tools or as completely worthless.

You should not blame yourself for the things that happened and never try to disavow your true self, this will not work and will only hurt your soul even more. I know what I'm talking about because I tried the same and many others too and its simply a fact that you can not run away from your true self and your desires.

Being a little or middle depends simply on your soul and your desires it is not dependent on other people in your life or on a partner. I never had a caregiver and my desires, needs and wishes never changed since 20 years. Being a little is only dependent on your soul, not on anything or anybody else.

I know how hard and direful life can be sometimes but don't overstress yourself. Try too look after yourself as good as possible and try to take things more slowly.

Take care and all the best,

Lucy

Edited September 20, 2019 by Hinako

[Guest LittleNymph]

Sometimes it's best to take a break from it all and focus on yourself. You cannot force yourself to be happy when you clearly are not. Take a step back from ddlg and relationships and work on yourself. Try surrounding yourself with people who love you and try doing activities that make you feel better. Even if that is something small like  a mini home spa treatment. 

 

Hope you feel better soon.