Do you HAVE to age regress to be a little?

[paxifier]

Basically...I'm 18 and when I'm in little space I don't identify as a specific age. I'm just little. Is that normal? I've been flat out told i'm not a little bc I don't have a set age or ages...

[SmolAetherr]

you DO NOT need to age regress to be a little, if the title fits then thats all

 

nobody has the power or the right to take that away from you just because you don't fit their description of a little.

Edited September 19, 2019 by Aetherr

[LucyDolly]

No, you don't have to possess the ability to regress at will to be a little or middle, i don't have this ability either.

 

Just ask yourself: 

 

At my core of who I am, do I genuinely feel like a kid?

 

If you answer is "Yes" then you are absolutely a little or middle.

You could take a look at this scale, maybe it helps you to find out your little age:
https://www.littlespaceonline.com/app.php/page/littles

But keep in mind that it is usually a range and not a specific age.

 

All the best,

 

Hinako
 

[Cara Innes]

Basically...I'm 18 and when I'm in little space I don't identify as a specific age. I'm just little. Is that normal? I've been flat out told i'm not a little bc I don't have a set age or ages...

Not at all! There are plenty of littles and middles who do not regress, and they are just as much a little as anyone else!

 

If you feel that you are a little, then that's who you are.... In just the same way that no one else gets to tell you what gender you are or who you are attracted to, no one else gets to say that you aren't a little when YOU are the one who would know that best! 

[Alaskan Daddy]

there are no cookie cutter littles. The sensation of little space is different for almost every little. The person(s)

that told you that were not a little are being way too closed minded. Lots of littles don't identify with a specific age.

Only you can decide if you are not a little. I hope this helps. Please go and be the most happy little you can be

[Lollipox]

No.

Age regression and being Little are separate.

Some Littles also age regress though, and identity themselves with a younger age bracket.

[Guest ~GlitterUnicorn~]

No you dont! Every little is different, the only thing that matters is that you are yourself and you feel 'little'. Little is a all around term these days and used to describe multiple instances of general "littleness"

[paxifier]

THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH ♡♡♡♡♡

[MylovesPrincess]

I have to thank you for this thread and this topic!

I remember through the years telling someone I don't *feel* like an adult. I am almost 49 and I never changed in that manner. It's just who I am. I never heard it out so perfectly. Thank you!

[Littlechef]

I don't truly regress i dont think so i get it but I've come to realize that I'm feeling a certain way that I'm veering to call my space. I hope you find whay makes you feel good and little

[Mene13]

I don’t feel like I regress. But I do feel safe letting out my more playful (and sometimes pouty) side when I’m with my Daddy. I’m much more comfortable being silly, touchy-feely, and in need of care and comfort. All those things that I feel like I was told wasn’t appropriate for an adult.

[Anna_in_Wonderland]

I don’t feel like I regress. But I do feel safe letting out my more playful (and sometimes pouty) side when I’m with my Daddy. I’m much more comfortable being silly, touchy-feely, and in need of care and comfort. All those things that I feel like I was told wasn’t appropriate for an adult.

Mene13 you described exactly how I feel!!!

Edited January 12, 2020 by Annabeth_❤

[Guest HisBabySunny]

This is normal! I asked a similar question a while ago. I am more of a middle but don't regress to a specific age. Like you said, I'm just little, and I want Daddy to take care of me and be in charge you are normal my dear

[littlegekko]

On 9/19/2019 at 6:30 PM, paxifier said:

Basically...I'm 18 and when I'm in little space I don't identify as a specific age. I'm just little. Is that normal? I've been flat out told i'm not a little bc I don't have a set age or ages...

i get what you are. i don't think age regressive disorder has anything to do with being a "little" you are where you are, and that is OK

[Liamo]

I think we have a consensus here. You do not have to regress. 

[Liamo]

On 9/20/2019 at 3:43 PM, MylovesPrincess said:

I have to thank you for this thread and this topic!

I remember through the years telling someone I don't *feel* like an adult. I am almost 49 and I never changed in that manner. It's just who I am. I never heard it out so perfectly. Thank you!

This hits a nerve. I did not feel like a full grown adult until later in life. (late 30s)  Personally I had to rebuild myself and it took years. I never felt little, but not full grown adult either, like in between. 

[Princess snuggles]

You don’t have to regress that’s not bad! But just wanna put this out there for the Littles that do and are new and fall into this thread you can regress. Neither is bad. 
Personally for me, I do regress and I go into little space (I don’t think they are always the same but they can be) but even when I regress it’s hard to give it an exact age. 
It’s also important to note that there are different ‘types’ (for lack of better explanation) of littles like adult baby’s, baby girls, littles, middles etc. Based on what I understand (apologies if this appears wrong anyone feel free to correct me) often don’t regress but want the care/nurture of a caregiver. While little and middles can regress or just feel younger child-like (for a little) or like a pre-teen/teen (for a middle)

[Dessi]

I really appreciate this post, I’ve had conflicting feelings on this for so long and have felt “less of a little” because I can’t or haven’t been able to age regress. Reading all the comments made me feel so seen! 

[OuO Alexibaaa]

As an age regressor, it really bothers me to know that other age regressors try to gatekeep our community.

We, as part of the greater BDSM community, get enough shit as it is, from both the vanilla part of society, as well as other BDSM members. So claiming a fictional moral high ground, for some sort of internet clout, is just disturbing.

You absolutely do not have to age regress, in order to be a Little. There is no right or wrong way to be a Little.

If anything, I'm genuinely happy for the Littles that don't age regress. To me, it's a sign of a lack of childhood trauma. And I wouldn't wish my trauma on anyone.

Edited Wednesday at 11:41 PM by OuO Alexibaaa

[PigtailPrincess]

Ok soooooo my two cents. No one has to have a specific age to be a little, though I will make some generalized statem3nts that I find often true. 

When most people start out I see more of a variety of age. Then I feel as people settle and find their likes alot get and age range they tend towards between 2 and 4 years. Once again NOT nessasary to be a little. 

I also tend to think of DDLG as split into two types. Thise who do this more for fun and those who use as a type of therapy. Both are equally valid but I feel that also affects age range. Once again just my opinion from what I have seen over the years.

Overall though the message is this. If you like to partake in smil activities or hesdspaces you are a little and wether the age be 2 or 12 you are valid.

[daddy.skitten]

I wondered the same because I don't really regress either! I don't think you have to regress to be a little or be part of this😋