Recovering hope and stability when you don't have a caregiver

[LucyDolly]

Because my life is recently even more stressful then usually for me, which results in the world of adults dejecting, intimidating and frightening me so much that I cry a lot when I'm back from work and that I'm having a strong feeling of despair all the time, i thought about making a chart-like calendar which enables me to add a sticker to it for days on which I'm a good girl.

This would totally give me a bit more hope and mental stability till I found somebody suitable to guide and support me.

For that reason i would like to ask you for suggestions regarding fitting rules for my chart.

The suggested rules should be appropriate for my little age of about 10-13 years and they should represent a parenting style which is aimed at making a daughter so feminine, dollish and princesslike as possible.

I'm grateful for every single suggestion and will add them to my chart. 

Edited September 19, 2019 by Hinako

[Pupeemonkeebabee]

[Guest Looby-Lou]

I'm sorry you have so much stress at the moment. It's great that you're thinking of ways to look after yourself - and I think you should give yourself a sticker for that!

 

I'm not sure what sort of ideas you're looking for? 

You could give yourself a sticker for doing a nice hairstyle that's tidy and suitable for work. Eating healthy meals. Keeping your room/home tidy. Being polite to your co-workers. 

 

Good luck with things and have fun with your chart

 

Looby 

[Dangerously_Well]

This is an awesome idea, I would think the 4 main areas should be:

 

1/ Personal care, (enough sleep, bathing, brush teeth, healthy food and the like)

 

2/ Grooming. (hair, makeup, pressed clothing - with extra points for girlish / princess overtones)

 

3/ Politeness. (Good girls don't use bad language, are kind, and always positive)

 

4/ Me time. (give yourself time and permission to be who / what you want to be.)

 

Hope this helps!

 

Good Luck!