Switching roles with partner

[WittleSeanie]

Hey everyone, nice to meet you!

 

My long term partner and I recently started an occasional DDLG relationship and I’m really excited to be in a community with you all!

 

Lately I’ve been wanting to explore getting into my little space myself though, and was wondering if anyone else here switched roles with their real life/online partners?

 

I haven’t shared this with my little yet, but I’m really curious how occasional role swapping has worked for you all. Any advice would be super appreciated.

[Little kaiya]

There are definitely couples that are made up of switches but there are also a LOT of littles that aren't switches in any way, shape or form.

 

Personally if my Daddy decided he wanted to switch and be a little it would be a HUGE issue for me as I'm not a switch. I have zero interest in being dominant in a relationship. My job means I'm the one making the decisions and it just isn't something I enjoy.

 

I encourage you to talk to your little early to figure out the feel about it. If you started the relationship without any hint that you may have been interested in switching you may find your little very reluctant at the idea or they could be excited, hard to say without knowing them.

 

That said, I encourage you to not just spring it on them and also really think what you will do or say if they aren't interested.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Longterm partner, with a new element of DDlg. But is DDlg in general new to you? (or just new with this partner?)

 

I echo the words of little Kaiya.

This would be a huge shift in the dynamic, basically turning it on it's head, so it's sensible that you're doing some self-exploration before speaking to your partner.

 

Do you have any hints from her that she'd like this? (Does she show signs of being switchy herself?)

 

How sure are you that you want to switch? Some Daddies/CGs enjoy sharing actives with their little so very much that they get a bit confused sometimes and wonder if they might be little themselves! Quite often it's more a case of the Daddy being very adept at responding to the little in a highly appropriate way - really getting into the headspace of the little in order to share the experience.

 

To me it's no different than when I play with a real child - I get into their headspace to help them enjoy the time, but I'm totally adult all the while. 

 

Being as you're  in a longterm relationship, I agree with little Kaiya that it would be wise for you to think very carefully about the possible outcomes. I'm not saying don't pursue your urges. That's entirely up to you. But it doesn't hurt to take a good chunk of time to think them through. Feel free to explore your thoughts on here as much as you're comfortable to do so. Some people might be judgemental but most people will genuinely want to listen, help and share their own experiences.

 

When I was looking for a partner I made it crystal clear that I'm not a switch and wouldn't be okay with that (it's just not for me personally). 

If my Daddy wanted to switch it would be a nightmare for me. But luckily he just thinks it's sweet when i try to look after him ... and he finds it hilarious if I behave like lil miss bossy and act like i'm in charge  

But your partner might be very attracted to the idea!

 

Wishing you (both) all the best,

Looby 

(edited for grammar mistake!)

Edited September 18, 2019 by Looby-Lou