Is it normal for DDs to have a Little Space?

[Fluffy]

Howdy, new DD here. So I love the DD role, however some days I really don't feel like adulting and I go into what I can only think of as a Little Space. As an example, I might stay in bed all day with warm blankets, eating candy, watching Digimon while playing Pokemon Yellow.

 

So what I'm wondering is, is this something normal for a DD and if so, is it still called Little Space? Even when I get like this, if my Little needs me to demonstrate my usual role I place her as a higher priority but yeah, idk.

[lilvioletcub]

You could be what is known as a switch. Switches are not perment sub or perment dom and can switch between the two ie. Being DD and putting your sub first or some days she/he is the DM/DD and your the little or in little space. Its not my place to say "That IS what you are" but its what you feel comfertable with do you feel comfertable being the sub and she/he the Dom? or do you have to be the Dom all the time for whatever that means to you.

 

I'm not saying thats what it is just saying its a possiblity.

As for if its normal yes and depeding on your mind set do you still feel "Daddy Dom" headpace even when doing things like watching digimon and playing pokemon yellow or do you find your mental space more child like? At the very least even "Daddys" need time to unwind in thier own ways too

[Fluffy]

You could be what is known as a switch. Switches are not perment sub or perment dom and can switch between the two ie. Being DD and putting your sub first or some days she/he is the DM/DD and your the little or in little space. Its not my place to say "That IS what you are" but its what you feel comfertable with do you feel comfertable being the sub and she/he the Dom? or do you have to be the Dom all the time for whatever that means to you.

 

I'm not saying thats what it is just saying its a possiblity.

As for if its normal yes and depeding on your mind set do you still feel "Daddy Dom" headpace even when doing things like watching digimon and playing pokemon yellow or do you find your mental space more child like? At the very least even "Daddys" need time to unwind in thier own ways too

 

I think you could be right about the Switch part. When my Little and I first started dating a few years ago we were both very submissive, but it wasn't until the last year that I took on the dominant role.

 

My Little is capable of performing the dom role when necessary, as back in the day we had to switch between roles given that we were both subs. When I'm doing the previously mentioned activities I'm not usually in the Daddy Dom headspace, but if my Little needs me to be I am capable of doing so. I have a strong attachment to nostalgia and my childhood so I guess those activities are related to a more child-like mental space.

 

So I guess you could probably say I'm a Switch with a DD primary. I feel like this would also make sense given the fact that I'm bisexual, and while I'm primarily dominant with women, I'm very much submissive with men.

 

Thanks for the input, it was indeed helpful!

[Guest now_in_3D]

I may be riffing a bit on your thread but I've often wondered about what makes an effective caregiver. Part of my theory is that a truly successful caregiver has to have at least some little inside them to be able to fully empahtize with the position and have a full grasp and understnading of what a little needs as far as care and intimacy. Your query may simply be one more of introspection in that you're more aware and have opened that part of you more than some other caregivers have.

 

If that makes sense.

[SparklyKittens]

I definitely think that you are most likely a switch!

 

The only thing I have to add is this: When you do such activities as mentioned above, do you feel like you are an actual child? Or do you feel like you're an adult unwinding after a hard day? As a full-time little I've felt both and can distinctly tell the difference. The question is, can you? If you can feel a large change in the way your mind thinks, then you are probably a switch. If you search and search but your mind still runs the exact same way as if you were an adult, than I most likely wouldn't think you are.

 

I hope you can make sense of that;)

[Fluffy]

I may be riffing a bit on your thread but I've often wondered about what makes an effective caregiver. Part of my theory is that a truly successful caregiver has to have at least some little inside them to be able to fully empahtize with the position and have a full grasp and understnading of what a little needs as far as care and intimacy. Your query may simply be one more of introspection in that you're more aware and have opened that part of you more than some other caregivers have.

 

If that makes sense.

 

Interesting idea.

 

I definitely think that you are most likely a switch!

 

The only thing I have to add is this: When you do such activities as mentioned above, do you feel like you are an actual child? Or do you feel like you're an adult unwinding after a hard day? As a full-time little I've felt both and can distinctly tell the difference. The question is, can you? If you can feel a large change in the way your mind thinks, then you are probably a switch. If you search and search but your mind still runs the exact same way as if you were an adult, than I most likely wouldn't think you are.

 

I hope you can make sense of that;)

 

Definitely the first bit. I feel very child-like in that mindset, as well as my actions or how I speak. When I'm just unwinding I have a very different set of activities that I usually go through.

[lilvioletcub]

I'm happy I could be of help my Boyfriend and I are both switches leaning towards naturally submissive but can be Dom when the other need us to be

we both have a DD/DM and little side to us as well