I'm a little who needs reassurance if that's ok

[Sylveon]

Hello. I'm really sad and scared. I realized I loved being little just this year, and really wanna be little and feel safe and happy. But I'm scared of exploring it alone. I have a lot of childhood trauma, so when I'm little I'm kind of delicate, and I'm afraid it'll go badly if I regress alone too much.

 

The only daddy I've had ended up hurting me really badly. I know it's irrational, but I get scared that I'll never find someone who I can both be little with, and who will actually treat me well.

 

I don't really know what I'm asking for. I just... I just wanna be patted on the head and told I'm a good girl. It hurts that the only memories I have of someone doing that in my whole life are tainted by my manipulative ex. I was hurt so badly as a child, and the one person who I trusted to be that vulnerable with... It all just hurts so much. I don't know what to do.

 

If you have any thought or suggestions, or if you just relate please let me know. Thank you for letting me vent

[Cara Innes]

I can relate.

I'm really sorry, I know it's hard to deal with.   *Offers hugs if you need them*

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

I'm so sorry for what you went through. You deserve so much better hun

Also is totally ok to want reassurance! A real daddy will absolutly do that with you trust me. Once the right person comes along you'll have that

[Little kaiya]

Finding someone for a DDlg relationship is like any other relationship in that it involves opening up, being vulnerable and taking risks. That isn't to say it means doing that with just anyone, but to truly find the right person it means getting to know potential partners then offering that vulnerability.

 

Some people find the right person when they're yound and some only find that person later in life but either way it still takes time. Take the time to first find yourself so when you find someone else you have the strength to stand your ground and find the RIGHT person instead if settling for anyone who says they're a Daddy or offers a pat on the head.

 

Personally, I found my Daddy at 39 and he found me at 18. Life is a very different journey for different people. Find your strength, keep positive and I'm sure you'll find the right person when the time is right. Until then cherish and nurture your little self yourself. Self discovery and self care should never be underrated. If you're delicate and cry, so what? Sometimes that's good for the heart, body and soul, it reminds us we're human and there is nothing wrong with that at all.

 

Little kaiya

[LucyDolly]

I'm very sorry for the terrible things you went through, i can totally understand how you feel because i went trough similar things and they still hurt me when I'm confronted with the past and the direful memories which are related to it. *Offers hugs and cuddles if you need them*

[MysticSand]

I think given your past trauma, I hope a relationship isn't your go-to. I may be jumping the gun though; do you already go to counseling? My two cents is that for anyone that has had trauma, ongoing professional help should be priority. Self-care is super important for everyone.

 

If you're already undergoing counseling, then take it slow and try to build up a support NETWORK (if you don't already have one). I say all this just as a caution to not invest all of your emotional needs in one singular relationship. While I think a CG should absolutely be there to support you in all aspects of life, particularly the regressing dynamic, they shouldn't be your /only/ support.

 

As for finding someone, when you get there and are ready, take things SLOW. And as crazy as this may sound, be skeptical (particularly if you meet them online). Don't have expectations and value yourself. Go with your gut on things and look at things holistically rather than just going down a checklist of things that you /think/ would make you compatible.

 

As another suggestion, read through other threads on here of others' experiences. Some are easily insightful and it can be therapeutic.

 

Best of luck!

[Sylveon]

Thank you very much everyone, your all very sweet. Your words mean a lot to me *Big Hugs*.

Just to be clear I am in therapy and I've made a lot of progress with my mental health over the years. And I have a wonderful support network, although almost nobody knows that I'm into this little stuff. Its just so new, I haven't really talked with people about it yet, and I'm kinda scared too. But I'll get over it eventually, and the support I'm receiving from you wonderful people has certainly helped!

Edited September 17, 2019 by Sylveon

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Hello. I'm really sad and scared....

 

... I get scared that I'll never find someone who I can both be little with, and who will actually treat me well.

 

... I just wanna be patted on the head and told I'm a good girl.

 

....If you have any thought or suggestions, or if you just relate please let me know. Thank you for letting me vent

 

It sounds like you're doing a great job of putting the pieces together in your life and resolving past traumas, so give yourself a pat on the head for that! 

 

I think a lot of us here can relate to the huge desire to be a good girl and have pats on the head. But as you already found out, it's no good if they come from the wrong person. So be a little cautious and then you're more likely to stay in your comfort zone as the relationship progresses. That way you can build up confidence over time. Someone who truly cares for you won't rush you, he will take things at a pace which is best for you. Even when two people are completely compatible, it takes time to build that trust.

 

So please, allow yourself the time to be sure that person is worthy of your trust, your love and your devotion. And then the pats on the head from them will be even more special.

 

Wishing you all the best with things,

Looby 

[Guest FairgroundAlice89]

Me too. *hugs*