Telling my partner I'm a Little :/

[Guest Chriissiiee]

Hi there,

 

I've known for a long time that I was a Little, but have never told anybody, as I felt ashamed. But I know I need to tell my partner of 9 years, but I'm terrified. He's made it clear over the years that calling someone Daddy was basically disgusting, which makes me even more scared. I love him, but I'm not sure I can keep it quiet any longer. Can someone help me?

 

Thank You

[xBabydollx]

Even some Daddy's find the name Daddy disgusting. Not everyone is comfortable with that pet name. There are other names some choose to go by. It might help to strip titles away all together in the beginning. Instead of talking about DD/lg and being a little right away, maybe start by talking about how u feel/things u like, and things u want. For example, maybe say u feel like a kid at heart, coloring relaxes u, and how u would like to indulge in more 'carefree' activities and u wonder how he would feel about that etc. If u want to rip the band aid off and dive right in, u can tell him about ddlg and what it means to u, why u identify as a little, and what u expect from him if he's interested. As far as expectations go, I would suggest going in with low expectations. Maybe he will be ok with u being a little, but that doesn't mean he will want to see u doing little activities or being in littlspace, and it doesn't mean he would want to be ur daddy either. There is a difference between him offering acceptance and offering participation. If you're lucky, maybe he will be interested in learning and exploring the dynamic. Or maybe he will only be comfortable with u being in littlspace on ur own. There are lots of ways things can go. If he can't offer u acceptance or participation of ur lifestyle...then u might have to suck it up or make some hard decisions. Some ppl are lucky and are able to negotiate things to help both parties to be content (like getting a babysitter or outside partner). Hopefully ur discussion goes well. Ease him into it. Answer his questions. Listen to how he feels about it. Don't pressure him to participate. Focus on telling him what being a little means to you and not what it means for others. If he was to be ur daddy, tell him about what that would entail (giving u a bed time, picking out ur outfits, giving u spankings sometimes etc. Create a clear picture of what he could expect). That's the gist. Hope that helps. Good luck.