When to say the ilys!!!

[missmerelda]

Edited September 14, 2019 by missmerelda

[jelloprincess]

While your relationship SHOULD be based on unconditional love and trust, it's still like any other relationship. You've only been talking to him for a week, and your first date is tomorrow. No matter how intensely you feel about him now, I think you should wait until you know him better before you say 'I love you.'

 

Please be careful about getting too intense this early into the relationship. I'm worried that you're setting yourself up to get hurt.

[missmerelda]

While your relationship SHOULD be based on unconditional love and trust, it's still like any other relationship. You've only been talking to him for a week, and your first date is tomorrow. No matter how intensely you feel about him now, I think you should wait until you know him better before you say 'I love you.'

Please be careful about getting too intense this early into the relationship. I'm worried that you're setting yourself up to get hurt.

Don’t worry I’m being wary and I wouldn’t do anything that I didn’t think would be reciprocated or taken well. Plus I’d definitely wait till after the first date just incase haha I’m just wondering if it means something different in little space? Do I have to wait till I’m sure or is it something I can use without thinking as a term of endearment? Is there a difference between saying “I love you” and saying it in other cute ways when I’m in little space?

 

Thank you for the help ☺

 

P.S- if anyone has any suggestions of what i should wear on the first date that would be awesome

[Little kaiya]

I STRONGLY echo jelloprincess's words. A week is a VERY short time to get to know someone, to have those tough and probing conversations so that you can really say you know one another. DDlg is really like any other kind of relationship but a lit of littles jump into relationships at the drop of a hat and then post soon after about it not going well or being heartbroken.

 

Take the time to TRULY get to know one another and tes, perhaps in my view only, it takes more than a week. Saying I love you too early can be harmful to a relationship unless all parties are on that same page. There's nothing wrong with expressing an attraction in littlespace or big space but only you and this other person will know when saying "I love you" is right for the relationship.

 

I love my Wife, married 13 years and together for 16 and my Daddy, together almost two years and recently we started discussing a commitment ceremony, and they feel the same but that foundation definitely didn't get built in a week.

 

Be openly cautious but be sure to protect not just yourself physically but also mentally and emotionally.

 

As for clothing, depends if you're going out or staying in. Out, wear a nice outfit that makes you feel beautiful. In you could wear something more playful if it feels appropriate and safe.

 

Little kaiya

[missmerelda]

[SmolAetherr]

personally anything less than a month or two is a bit early, rushing things like that tends to hurt more especially if you find an incompatibility later

 

and besides those three words are extremely special atleast in my opinion, why discount yourself by throwing it around too soon?

 

i have this opinion, the first few weeks is almost always a getting to know the other stage emotions can run high and that is good but acting on those initial feelings is what i call a "fling" it happens fast and tends to burn out fast

 

if you want something slow then take a deep breath and enjoy the time, you dont need to blurt those words out because chances are he already knows how you feel or has a very good idea

 

there is no good time to admit love, but its almost always better to get to know as much about a person as possible before you do!!

 

Good luck

Edited September 14, 2019 by Aetherr