I need help telling my boyfriend about my little side

[Crispycheeto]

A couple months ago i broke up with a man i had been dating for around 9 months maybe. We were in a ddlg relationship. Everything was fine. But i ended up breaking up with him because our age gap was too difficult. I am 18 and he is 30.

I started dating a really awesome guy. He is kind of clueless though. I already call him daddy but not in the way i want to. He just sees it as a kink thing.

Yesterday sent him a link to urban dictionary for the word little. Its mainly describing what a little is and the concept on the page. All he got from it was that he thought i was saying his dick was small. He said he didn't understand.

I literally put it right infront of him and he didn't get it. How do i help him understand so that i can find out if he would like to be my caregiver and if he is ok with me being a little?

[Alaskan Daddy]

My first thought I want to give you is that he may never understand. If I was in your place here is what I would do.

I would have a personal conversation with him where you try to explain what feel in your heart what a 'daddy' is to you.

Before you tell him that you are a little, I would try and help him understand what DDLG is all about. This you may have to do in

do in baby steps. You are going to have be gentle and patient. I hope this helps. Good luck.

[Guest M10]

I would also recommend the same, you'd have to talk to him and make things clear to him about what it is you want exactly. The only real way to find out if he is interested in this is to ask him clearly, things like this don't work if you try to be subtle about it. You have to communicate. 

[Little kaiya]

A link to urban dictionary is NOT a communication method for a subject as diverse and potentially emotionally sensitive as DDlg. It takes real communication, the kind that involves openness, honesty, vulnerability and direct statements that dont hint at what you want but actually DETAIL and DESCRIBE what you mean and what you want.

 

You didn't put it right in front of him, you put a generic, and a pretty bad one at that, internet resource in front of him and expected him to figure it out.

 

If you can't directly ask him if he wants to be a caregiver now then how will you be able to ask him anything else DDlg related you may want be it storytime, stuffies, bathtime or whatever is applicable to you?

 

Invest in having a truly honest and vulnerable conversation and you may see a very different result.

 

Little kaiya

[Crispycheeto]

A few days i had a short but straight forward conversation about it with my boyfriend. It seems that he is not really okay with. He doesn't want to talk about it further. This makes me sad because being little alone isn't fun.

[Little kaiya]

Well, that is unfortunate but at least you know so now you can decide whether you want to stay in the relationship or not.

 

For some folks they are totally fine with their partner not being involved whereas others, like me, could not stay in a relationship without that intimate connection.

 

I encourage you to really reflect on what you want before getting further committed to the relationship. Be true to yourself and dont settle for anything less than happiness.

 

Little kaiya

[SmolAetherr]

i will add on at the end that there is nothing wrong with you or him, you two are not on the same page.. it happens

 

and i agree with above

 

if you cannot live without a daddy then you may want to exit from his life.. go find that special someone who ticks all of those boxes

 

just remember ddlg is a big community/culture not every daddy and little pairing will work out!

 

Good luck

Edited September 18, 2019 by Aetherr

[RemontvSPB]

So the dealership has confirmed that there is an issue?

 

If you want them to cover anything you need to prove it exists so it can give them a reason to investigate.

 

If you think the manager is lying to you, youd easily be able to escalate. You are clearly not telling us much of the story of giving us really any information on the sound youre hearing. Youre also I the wrong section.

[Guest ~GlitterUnicorn~]

Hmm if he's not ok with it, then you need to work out what's best for you.
If you think you need more then what he can offer, then you may have to part ways if you feel that's what you need.

There is nothing wrong with saying you need/looking for something else.