Confused by Tumblr Post

[Pinkmilkandoreos]

Hey all! Today i found a tumblr post (i know i should stay off tumblr regarding ddlg, i only end up feeling hurt but i dont learn) saying that DDLG/DDLB/MDLG/MDLB are sexualizing children??? Keep in mind this was posted using tags for things like sfw little stuff and little space and daddy space and caregiver space but then also was saying that “Agere” isnt sexual and is the only right way to regress??? Also almost all the little space posts on there are tagged with DNIs for ddlg/cgl... im so confused how they can use these terms and call them selves littles but also condem ddlg/cgl?? I as a little am not sexual and i know a large portion are not either. They even quoted having little gear to help regress and such but made ddlg look icky.... i guess im just kinda hurt and confused and just wanted some clarification??

 

Edit!!!: i found another post recently about this same topic so I understand if this gets deleted!

Edited September 12, 2019 by Pinkmilkandoreos

[Lollipox]

It’s just people being their ridiculous selves. Try not to let it bother you.

Miseducation and stickuptheirassitis are the real culprits.

[Pinkmilkandoreos]

[BabyMattDiapers]

Wow I've heard of this happening, especially when talking face-to-face in person with people about cg/l relationships, and am so sorry that you had to experience this. From my own personal experience, working with children in an educational setting, I see nothing of how the cg/l dynamic of ddlg, ddlb, mdlb, mdlg, etc. sexualizes children in any way. I am a little baby boy, age 2 years old in little space, but don't at all see anything sexual in the children that I work with on a daily basis: if anything it's that I want TO BE them, not be with them sexually. And as I understand, having previously been in a cg/l relationship, my mommy was sexually involved with me as her adult baby and had no desire to be with a physically 2 year old baby boy sexually. It is not sexualizing children, that is a complete misrepresentation of this community and shows just how much further our society has to go in accepting all walks of life. And yes, does sound like a bunch of TBDLs that want to throw out the whole community because they are underage and should not, for their own safety, involve themselves directly in a relationship with someone currently part of the ABDL community. I hope this helps and that it all made sense, not sexualizing children but a different type of, oftentimes non-sexual, relationship dynamic between consenting adults. 

[Guest LittleSnowiii]

Is just people not doing their research. Ignorance honestly. Stay away from tumblr, that website is the worst shit ever... considering they glorify serial killers, we can't be surprised they don't get ddlg 

[Pinkmilkandoreos]

Wow I've heard of this happening, especially when talking face-to-face in person with people about cg/l relationships, and am so sorry that you had to experience this. From my own personal experience, working with children in an educational setting, I see nothing of how the cg/l dynamic of ddlg, ddlb, mdlb, mdlg, etc. sexualizes children in any way. I am a little baby boy, age 2 years old in little space, but don't at all see anything sexual in the children that I work with on a daily basis: if anything it's that I want TO BE them, not be with them sexually. And as I understand, having previously been in a cg/l relationship, my mommy was sexually involved with me as her adult baby and had no desire to be with a physically 2 year old baby boy sexually. It is not sexualizing children, that is a complete misrepresentation of this community and shows just how much further our society has to go in accepting all walks of life. And yes, does sound like a bunch of TBDLs that want to throw out the whole community because they are underage and should not, for their own safety, involve themselves directly in a relationship with someone currently part of the ABDL community. I hope this helps and that it all made sense, not sexualizing children but a different type of, oftentimes non-sexual, relationship dynamic between consenting adults.

I also work with children, ive been a nanny and baby sitter since for the last 9 years and have worked in a Reggio daycare, specifically with 2-3 year olds. I never ever saw them in a sexual lite, as you said if anything i want to be that small again! When i walk by the kids section in stores i have this feeling of longing to be that small, but not in a icky way! Also i was in little space when i found this stuff which is why i think i posted as it felt contrary to everything i know and love about being a little!

[prince eefy]

it's mostly because from what i have seen and what others seem to think on tumblr is that ddlg is solely a sexual thing, which obviously isn't true, there are some that aren't sexualized.

 

however, i'd suggest respecting that persons DNI nonetheless regardless whether you agree with it or not. there are usually reasons behind why they have a DNI, such as ddlg or stuff similar to that being triggering to the person or something. people always have reasons to why they do something even if it's not obvious.

 

little/little space is not an inherently sexual term which is why those people use it, but they mostly use it with tags such as sfw little or sfw little space or littlexspace. stuff like that.

[Pinkmilkandoreos]

it's mostly because from what i have seen and what others seem to think on tumblr is that ddlg is solely a sexual thing, which obviously isn't true, there are some that aren't sexualized.

 

however, i'd suggest respecting that persons DNI nonetheless regardless whether you agree with it or not. there are usually reasons behind why they have a DNI, such as ddlg or stuff similar to that being triggering to the person or something. people always have reasons to why they do something even if it's not obvious.

 

little/little space is not an inherently sexual term which is why those people use it, but they mostly use it with tags such as sfw little or sfw little space or littlexspace. stuff like that.

 

Of course respecting them is important! I never want to upset someones little space, HOWEVER the exclusionary and accusatory behavior caused me to have a trauma induced panic attack in my little space which made my original post sound like i wanted to covet those terms to ourselves (at the time i probably did however now i see isnt what i want to happen). I also think that a conversation needs to be had about this group of people and the fact that a lot of them are minors, ones who seemingly use regression as a coping mechanism for real trauma, who knowingly or not are opening themselves up to really creepy people who target young people in this community (i would know, i was the same at 16/17) by posing as CGs.

[jelloprincess]

Don't let it get to you too much. Tumblr is one of the most toxic websites on the internet. They specialize in splitting people into the smallest possible groups and then pitting those groups against each other in an online Hunger Games.

[LustfulPrincess87]

I feel the people who think/feel that way have absolutely no idea what the community is about. They lack education on such community that they judge in a negative manner. Don't let it bother you. We all know the truth in terms of how we are on a personal level with our lovers etc.