What to do? When Daddy's the quiet type.

[BluePanda23]

[Little kaiya]

I'll preface this by saying this is my opinion only so take my perspective with a grain of salt.

 

Well, I would start by suggesting that if this is someone you've met online two weeks ago that seems VERY early to jump into a DDlg relationship. Two weeks isn't much time at all to get to know someone let alone get to know someone and then add the intricacies of DDlg.

 

On the issue of videos and voice chat it sounds like he was upfront and honest that those arent his things. Trying to you and trying to him could mean VERY different things. That is one of those things that is usually good to discuss at the start to find out whether you're actually compatible.

 

I would suggest that if you're already having this issue, which suggests a fundamental incompatibility, two weeks in that it may not get better in the future. That said, I recommend taking a step back and having an adult to adult discussion about relationships goals and expectations. If the two of you can't get that Baseline figured out you both could be in for a lot of heartache.

 

Little kaiya

[SnugglyMunchlax]

I do agree that two weeks is pretty early to jump into a DDlg relationship. In regards to your Daddy, he may have some self-esteem issues or maybe he's just had a lot going on in his life right now which has taken up his energy. On the other side, he might be hiding something you don't know especially since this is an early relationship. Both of you had made it clear in the beginning your wants and boundaries, but this is happening. I also recommend going with what Kaiya suggested and taking a step back to have an adult conversation about the relationship. If it's not clearly communicated, there will be a lot of let downs unfortunately. Personally, I don't see it selfish that you want to hear your Daddy more especially since you stated it at the beginning of the relationship.

 

I hope that things work out between the two of you!

[BluePanda23]

I know we've discussed the rush. And you're right about trying. Meaning different things. Thank you for replying

[Ebony Fruit Bat]

Edited September 11, 2019 by Ebony Fruit Bat

[BluePanda23]

[MysticSand]

Adding on to what others above have said, here are some other things to consider:

 

As there may be a mismatch in expectations, when you're discussing things, it could be helpful to quantify things. For example, can you agree on the number of voice clips or calls that you exchange each week? Instead of setting vague terms, set an identifiable goal that would make both of you comfortable. If you agree to a number of voice clips or calls, make sure to also quantify how long those voice clips or calls should be.

 

Another possible reason he may be hesitant to call is that he may not know what to say! I can definitely be more quiet as well, but perhaps giving him topics to speak about would help. For example, asking him to read you a story or suggesting to play a game such as "I spy with my little eye...." etc.... activities basically where the focus and onus wouldn't be on him to say something. But rather could be a conversation so that it takes pressure off of him to create content, so to speak.

 

And also to reiterate the above, 2 weeks is super short! Take time to talk more about expectations on everything and see if you're as compatible as you initially felt.

Edited September 12, 2019 by MysticSand

[BluePanda23]

I tried asking him to play a game with me so he wouldn't have to think about what to say. But he found a way to get out of it. Ive decided to give him some more time to get used to me and then revisit the topic with him.

[Guest ~lele~]

I agree with a lot of what everyone else is saying but, if I were you I would casually find out his name and birthday and general location and Google him. Make sure there's not a darker reason for his hesitation. I'm sorry to be a downer with that, but as someone who has been burned twice, I advise you to be careful. His hesitation, to me, is a red flag.