Acting Up

[KittyPrettyKitty]

Hi

I'm naturally a bit bratty and physical, and I love rough play and being put into place. My daddy has known and supported all of these characteristics of me. The only issue is that he isn't exercising them. Whenever I get a little bratty, he says he doesn't feel like he can deal with it. Whenever I try to rough house with him, he gets mad with me he rarely punishes me and never puts me into my place unless I push the boundaries REALLY far. Alot of the time Im the one guiding him on how to take care of me. Sometimes it feels like he's just there for all the cuddles and sweet moments, not the actual work of being a daddy. I notice myself behaving worse and worse, and I'm guessing its due to this. I dont wanna be bad, but a lot of the time it feels like thats the only way to get any sort of reaction. Thoughts? Am I a bad little?

[plutobaby]

I don't think you're a bad little at all!!! There's a whole side of you that is being neglected. It can sometimes feel like if he doesn't want to deal with the brat stuff maybe he doesn't want to deal with you, or at least that's how I felt when I was in this situation. I think you should communicate your worries and needs openly with your daddy. Tell him why this hurts your feelings. 

 

Sadly, sometimes you can communicate the best way possible and it still won't be enough. It's tough but if you aren't satisfied with the relationship anymore, maybe the spark is going out? I don't know, don't want to expect the worst. 

 

Good luck, you're a wonderful little who deserves to have their needs met!! <3 

[SleepyKitten]

I agree, you should try and start by taking together openly about what is happening and why it is you feel this way. It could be that he just doesn't realise how it makes you you feel. But sadly it could also mean that if he isn't happy to actually excersise these things with you that he is maybe not the right daddy for you. Maybe he is more suited for cuddles and sweet moments etc. But still, communicate with each other and go from there, whether it means trying again, compromising, setting up new rules to help.

 

You're not bad though, not at all. You just need to be you that's all and you can't help bring a bit bratty (I'm a brat too). If that part is ignored then its understandable that you might act up more to get the attention.

 

I hope you do manage to talk it through together.

[Lollipox]

You're not a bad Little, but if he's telling you he's too tired to handle you behaving like a brat or doesn't seem into it- maybe you need to listen to what he's telling you too. Rather than acting out, find some other way to get his attention- a scenario where he actually wants to give it to you, rather than you demanding it. 

 

It's okay to be a brat, but you still need to listen to your partners' needs. You can't mask being inconsiderate of someone as "Oh I'm a brat" (which isn't directed at you personally, it's to anyone it may apply to). 

 

Try giving him a break from the bratty behaviour. Don't ask for him to be stricter, or demand attention. Just cut him some slack and go find something else to entertain yourself for a little while. Come back to it later and see if he's ready to play the Stern Daddy again. Because relationships themselves can take their toll on one or both sides occasionally, let alone dealing with being a Dom and Brat handling (which imo requires a little additional focus and effort to do a good job at it). 

 

Tldr; give him a break if he's telling you he needs it. 

And best of luck with everything, hopefully it'll smooth out over time.

[Chicki]

You're not a bad Little, but if he's telling you he's too tired to handle you behaving like a brat or doesn't seem into it- maybe you need to listen to what he's telling you too. Rather than acting out, find some other way to get his attention- a scenario where he actually wants to give it to you, rather than you demanding it. 

 

It's okay to be a brat, but you still need to listen to your partners' needs. You can't mask being inconsiderate of someone as "Oh I'm a brat" (which isn't directed at you personally, it's to anyone it may apply to). 

 

Try giving him a break from the bratty behaviour. Don't ask for him to be stricter, or demand attention. Just cut him some slack and go find something else to entertain yourself for a little while. Come back to it later and see if he's ready to play the Stern Daddy again. Because relationships themselves can take their toll on one or both sides occasionally, let alone dealing with being a Dom and Brat handling (which imo requires a little additional focus and effort to do a good job at it). 

 

Tldr; give him a break if he's telling you he needs it. 

And best of luck with everything, hopefully it'll smooth out over time.

This is good, sound advice. I have a habit of thinking like OP so this is good reminder to see it from his side too. Sometimes daddies have a hard day and they don't want more stress or conflict. As long as he plays along other times and doesn't ignore your playful side completely I think it's okay. It's about give and take.

[KittyPrettyKitty]

This is good, sound advice. I have a habit of thinking like OP so this is good reminder to see it from his side too. Sometimes daddies have a hard day and they don't want more stress or conflict. As long as he plays along other times and doesn't ignore your playful side completely I think it's okay. It's about give and take.

I get this, except for the fact that it feels like I'm the only one really giving. This isn't all of a sudden either, its been going on for quite a bit

[Guest Looby-Lou]

I get this, except for the fact that it feels like I'm the only one really giving. This isn't all of a sudden either, its been going on for quite a bit

 

 

You're not a bad little. Also you've done a great job of explaining how you feel about things and how you see the situation. What you don't say is if you've tried to really TALK with your Daddy about all this?

If it's difficult to get started maybe you could show him this thread - it might help to open up an honest dialogue between you. (But you need to be truly open with him, and in return be prepared to hear things you might not like to hear. Then try to discuss them calmly and as two ADULTS.)

 

You say he's "known and supported" your bratty and physical-play needs but now he's saying he "doesn't feel like he can deal with it". Has something changed in other areas of his life? Has work got tougher? Family problems? Any kind of worry more than usual? Basically anything that might affect his ability to handle you in bratty mode?

 

If he still wants "the cuddles and sweet moments" that sounds like he still really loves you so be happy about that! Daddies are human and need comfort too. (I'm sure you know this, I'm just trying to help you see that he seems to still want YOU even if he can't cope with bratty you right now.)

 

Only you and your Daddy can sort this out. And that's done by openly discussing 1) what's happening, 2) why it's happening, and 3) what can be done about it. He might see things differently to you, but hopefully you can end up seeing each other's point of view and finding a way to make it work for you both.

 

Good luck and I hope you find a way forward together. 

 

Looby