Am I being too shy with my DaDa?

[LittlePurrBox]

Hi! I really need some help with this, and I hope you guys can help me. Apologies for the long post.

 

I’m currently starting my third month in a LDR with my dream Daddy. I love him to bits and tbh I’d be quite lost without him. He really is the best person I know. But we’re (read me) having some problems.

 

The issues that we have are minor when I’m big, but when I’m little they all come crashing in and I end up overwhelmed and depressed.

 

The main issue is that I feel like I can’t talk to him about some of these things because I don’t want to hurt his feelings. He has told me almost daily that I can talk to him about anything...and I do about most things. But I feel horrible dumping my minor problems into his lap when he’s got so much else to deal with. Yet at the same time, when these issues arise, little me ends up feeling rejected and alone.

 

Am I being overly sensitive? Am I being ridiculous by not telling him how I feel about certain things? Or am I doing the right thing by “handling” it on my own?

Edited September 6, 2019 by LittlePurrBox

[Happily]

Honest to say that you're totally looks like my little.... she is really shy with me and i always try to talk with her and known her but she can't tell about anything about her and that's makes me really sad... 

btw i prefer you to tell everything to your partner it's makes him really happy and he will helps you in everything as he can i'm sure     

[LittlePurrBox]

Honest to say that you're totally looks like my little.... she is really shy with me and i always try to talk with her and known her but she can't tell about anything about her and that's makes me really sad...

btw i prefer you to tell everything to your partner it's makes him really happy and he will helps you in everything as he can i'm sure

Thank you. I know that he’s more than willing to help me. But I can’t get past the feeling of being a bother or a pain, no matter how many times he assures me that I’m not. Like literally right now, I’m supposed to call him if I can’t sleep (it’s 1:30am where I am) but I don’t want to wake him up because I know he’s had a rough week and he needs his sleep. I just don’t know how to get past that mental block.

[Happily]

don't worry just tell him everythings  of your past that's makes you feel better!! i'm sure 

[Metalheaddaddy]

As a daddy I can say that if I had this situation done to me I'd feel hurt and rejected. like you couldn't trust me with things and I'd feel pushed away. I know I personal would have been all "Hey clearly you aren't feeling this like I am. So we should just see other people" like 2 months in.

[LittlePurrBox]

Edited September 6, 2019 by LittlePurrBox

[Fluttershyyy_]

I'm very similar in the fact that I hate to be a burden on people, and that when I'm big I can handle a lot until suddenly when i'm little it all comes crashing down. Try not to be so hard on yourself, everyone opens up in their own time and some people are more open than others. It takes time to develop trust in people, especially if being open about your feelings has burned you in the past. Unfortunately, Daddies don't come with the ability to read minds (or maybe that's a good thing?   ), so I think it's super important that you find a different way to express what's upsetting you (at least until you can do it verbally). 

 

I dunno if this is the same for you, but when I talk about how I feel I often find myself agreeing way too much, overthinking my sentences or just going mute altogether lol, but writing it down always comes out clearly for some reason. Have you tried journaling your feelings? It might help if you plan what you say before talking to him as it might give you a little sense of control knowing what you want to already say and give you a little extra confidence in difficult conversations. Since you're in a LDR, you could alternately write it all down in a Word Document and then send it to your Daddy. Can even make it a fun little activity by making it cute with pictures and pretty fonts and stuff!    

[Guest MrGentleOne]

To me, it just sounds like you are more or less, a bit of a sensitive soul. Which is not a bad thing!

We all have problems, big and small and it can be nice to allow other people to have a look at them with us. Honestly, if your DaDa has mentioned before (or every day as you mentioned) that you can let him know anything, it can be a good test to see if you're comfortable talking about nearly anything that bugs you, with him.

 

If it becomes too much, I'm sure he'll let you know, but just like most things in life, you have to give it a try and see what the outcome is. Just be comfy with the situation.

[LittlePurrBox]

Thank you all! You’ve really given me some great insight. This has helped me so much. You guys are awesome!