I Could Do With Some Help

[LittleFaunPrincess]

So I'm kinda new to the DD/lg dynamic in that I've been engaging in the dynamic with my Daddy for a little while but I don't have a lot of stuff for little space other than stuffies and colouring pens and pencils. I'd spoken to my daddy about getting a num and a sippy cup for when I'm in little space (hes still really new to it and I don't want to just throw him straight into the deep end kind of thing) and he was up for it so I was very happy about that! The problem came when I was at college and decided to have a look at sippy cups online so I could find a cute one I liked. Now my friends know I'm not exactly into conventional relationships or conventional bedroom things and know I call my 'boyfriend' Daddy but I've kept my little side a secret from them because from conversations I've had with them they're very weirded out by the DD/lg and ABDL dynamics so I just thought it was better if I didn't. So I was looking at sippy cups on my phone and one of my friends looked over and shouted it out to the whole room that I was looking at sippy cups and continued to shout asking if daddy was going to give it to me poked fun at me. I had a lesson to go to luckily so I left the room quickly but they all kept shouting and saying you're avoiding the question why are you avoiding it?? I'd gone bright red and basically ran out the room so they knew I was uncomfortable and I'd even said I don't want to talk about it. I went to my lesson then I was able to leave earlier than my friends and went to go see Daddy because I wasn't feeling very good after what had happened and he made me feel a lot better. A couple hours later the same friend that looked at my phone started poking fun at me for the same thing on a group chat with several people that didn't even know anything about it and I feel horrid about it and can't stop thinking about it and its making me feel bad and embarrassed about being a little. Any advice on what I can do? (sorry for rambling and the big paragraphs ^-^')

[Vlad ziva's Owner]

This is just me, but if I was in your situation, I would probably not associate with that "friend" anymore. Of course, that depends on how you classify "poking fun" and if any lines were crossed. I would probably advise you to talk to that person and tell them how uncomfortable it made you feel, and if they are disrespectful or they continue poking fun and they don't take you seriously, I would just not be friends with them anymore. 

Keep in mind that this is just what I would do. I don't know you or your friend or how long you two have been friends. This is just what I would do in those circumstances, but... I am also the kind of person that doesn't have any lifelong friends. I have a tendency to either drift away from friendships, or they keep bugging me in some way and I just no longer associate with them.

[LittleFaunPrincess]

I would probably advise you to talk to that person and tell them how uncomfortable it made you feel,

yeah I think talking to them would be a good idea, I'm just worried about the questions people are gonna ask and the jokes that are gonna be made about me and my Daddy, like my friends and I all make little jokes about each other all the time but I know they'll do it a lot and it'll make me feel uncomfortable and horrible when they do and if I ask them to stop they'll probably just laugh

[Pablo Neruda]

First off, I'm truly sorry to hear that. Noone deserves to be made fun off, ever.

 

Now the advice I can give you, don't be embarrassed for being who you are. You're different than others, so what? This world would be boring if everybody was the same. Well, advice about how to handle those situations, I'd say don't act like it's a huge thing. Be confident, I know that's hard sometimes, and tell them that it's not their bussiness. You can also think about excuses, such as this is for a relative or "I somehow landed on that page" (maybe say it was suggested, if you were on amazon or something). 

 

As my foreposter said, I'd highly suggest to talk it out. If you're good friends you might want to be honest or if you aren't tell her that it makes you uncomfortable and if she keeps making you feel that way, she might aswell not see you as a friend anymore. You could also ask your Daddy to help you approach that person, but that's totally up to you.

 

The most important thing though is that you feel comfortable with yourself, people notice. Honestly.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

That's really rude of them to persist you with questions when you were clearly flustered so I apologize for their behavior.

 

If these friends are important to you, then you should take the time to talk to them one on one. You can try explaining how this dynamic is important to you, give them articles to read, and tell them that it hurt your feelings when they called you out. I hope that they will be more understanding of you. Good luck!

[LittleFaunPrincess]

I'll try to talk to them about it tomorrow and I think I'll ask Daddy if he can talk to them as well, he might be able to get through to them better than I can. I was thinking maybe try to explain it to a couple of them that I think might be more understanding, like find a video or something like that. Thank you for the advice, I might be coming back for some more tomorrow if it all goes wrong but hopefully not!! You've really helped put my mind at ease thank you

[Vlad ziva's Owner]

I wish you the best of luck