Long Distance (being apart again)

[SleepyKitten]

I feel kind of stupid for making this post because it's obvious to miss someone but it's starting to scare me a little with how much it 'hurts' and translates into a physical feeling.

 

My daddy and I have been long distance for a while, 2 years, but will remain apart for another 2 years whilst I finish my degree in the UK. I intend to move to him as soon as I can when I finish. We try to meet up as much as possible given that I am a full time student and then work full time in the holidays too and he is in a similar boat. So on average every 4-8 months. We have met 6 times. I love him to pieces, he really is my other half and I couldn't be without him in my life.

 

But after our last visit to one another I've been struggling with being away from him even more than usual. Normally after a day or so I'm used to being apart again and am not overly sad anymore about him not being here. This time I've been crying everyday (it's been a week), I feel empty all the time and almost ill. It literally feels like I've not got part of myself anymore. It probably just sounds super clingy.

 

My face sometimes starts to ache just because I feel like or I'm actually going to start to tear up out of nowhere.

 

If anyone has experienced this or just has any advice on how to distract myself from it or if it will get better in a while I'd really appreciate it.

 

Thank you in advance.

[Alaskan Daddy]

What you are feeling is very common in LDR's. I have gone through it a few times. When I felt that pain, it just told me how much I loved my partner and what a wonderful time

I had with her, it was then I realized the pain I was feeling was a good thing.

What I would always do when I was feeling that pain was to send her a message telling her how much I missed her and how lucky I was to have her in my life. I would also tell her

how she fills my heart with her love. It made a big difference just by sending her loving messages like that. One thing I would suggest is to face time or skype. It may help with your longing for him.

I hope this helps and good luck with the rest of your life