Lying Littles

[DaddyGajeel]

My little won't stop lying to me. And its not just small inconsequential lies. Its big one like telling me she's not talking to certain people and then going behind my back amd doing it. I have told her countless times that i don't care but that i just want her to be honest. It hurts more to be lied to than know the truth. The worst is i physically catch her red handed in a lie and still she continues to lie. I am at a complete loss as what to do anymore.

[Alaskan Daddy]

In my opinion there is nothing you can do to change her behavior. You can either stay with and accept her behavior or leave or take a break and see if she changes.  It sounds like she has no respect for you as a daddy or your feelings as a person. 

I hope this helps. I know it is very hard.

[Guest harry.tf]

Is she pushing boundaries for attention and a bit of a spanking?

 

Don't mistake her play for something bad, but also don't mistake something bad for her playing!.

 

Hope I helped.

[MrDaddydarnit]

Everybody lies. But in this case... I'd drop her. She doesn't sound like she's being very loyal. Especially if you honestly don't care if she's talking to who she's lying about. 

[Little kaiya]

You need to decide how important trust, honesty and respect are in a relationship in your view. Lies are more than just words in my view, they are a fundamental breach of trust and respect. Personally I would have been have been having a very serious discussion after the first time and if it continued I would 100% have been ending the relationship.

 

Without trust and respect it really isnt much of a relationship in my mind. As for it possibly being pushing boundaries or playing, there are a lot of ways to do that but I think lying about anything goes beyond playing or pushing boundaries. It goes into the realm of disrespect and highly damaging to a relationship. It really is more like ignoring your partners hard limits versus anything playful.

 

You need to decide what you want in the relationship but realize that if it is still continuing after you talked to her it is VERY unlikely to get any better over time, only worse.

 

Little kaiya

[princess cotton grass]

as a bratty little myself, i wouldn't say that this bratty behavior, it's just complete disrespect for her dom. i would advise that you speak to her about how she is hurting you, if you haven't already, as communication is key. how many more chances you give her is up to you, but from the sound of it she is unlikely to change. 

don't put up with it, would be my advice. she doesn't seem to care for your feelings. why should you put any effort into a relationship when she isn't? run for the hills!! 

[Guest littlebabyslittlespace]

Personally, I wouldn't have that. Like others said, it's a lack of respect for you both as a dom and as her boyfriend.

[Guest snugglebunni]

maybe you need to find a new little >3< 

[Daddy - DJ]

The first thing I told my little I won't tolerate right from the beginning is lying. I set that ground rule right away and she understands that breaking that rule would be one of the worst things she could do.  Yes she test me with being bratty and there is clearly a difference in her straight up lying and just being bratty. You gotta communicate things like this early on and stick to it. You can't be ok with something like this. 

[Digitize]

My last little lied to me about EVERYTHING and for no reason. She claimed she'd never explored kinks and was prude. She claimed she'd never called anyone else Daddy, that other certain sexual things had been firsts, then when caught she would only be honest when the ability to lie more was impossible. It makes no sense because I was totally honest about my past and she lied to play a role and ended up ruining everything as far as trust and her being honest. She kept the lies going for a few months until I caught on. It still bothers me to think how stupid I must have been. Le sigh.

[PrincessOfWhales]

you definitely shouldnt tolerate lying.

she needs some growing up to do first it sounds like... 

a ddlg relationship is STILL a relationship... and it should be an even deeper one... which shouldnt include lying. 

 

i agree with the others, its disrespectful - its not "bratty" behavior... (i am mostly brat, but lying is not a brat-like quality... unless its "who ate all the snacks"... "i unnnnnnos" lol)

[DaddyGajeel]

Thanks for all the advice guys

[Metalheaddaddy]

Huge red flag, I'd dump and move on.