Rules FOR Daddy?

[-baby_princess-]

I am thinking of coming up with some rules for my daddy. We've run into some trust issues and im struggling.

 

Is this a 'normal' thing? Should i forget about it? Does anyone else have rules for their daddy? I dont want anything too serious. Probably just some "expectations" of the relationship

[Little kaiya]

Personally I could never be in or stay in a relationship when I didnt trust the other person completely. I trust my Wife and my Daddy 100%, no reservations. When you add DDlg to the mix the importance of having trust just gets even higher in my mind. Honestly, I don't think rules are sufficient to fix a trust issue but trying it or not is up to you and your partner.

 

As for it being normal or not I dont think that's really the issue. Everyone's relationships are different so the word normal is sort if meaningless in my mind.

 

Lastly, my Daddy and I have certain things that we agreed to, as adults, to shape our relationship but I would never consider trying to set rules for my Daddy. We talk about limits, boundaries, etc., but setting rules for him would be took much like us trying to be switched which we 1000% are not.

 

Good luck whatever you decide to do.

 

Little kaiya

Edited September 1, 2019 by Little kaiya

[kitten!!]

i have rules for my daddy! it feels more fair to us when we both have rules

i dont think you should forget about it, and you should talk to him. if things escalate, you need to stop and think about yourself

and if these trust issues are worth your happiness. or whatever sskdkskskk. most importantly, do what you think is needed

stay safe!

 

some of his rules are no staying up past 12am, giving me attention when i ask for it, no cussing when im in little space and be fair with your punishments. i have a few more if you would like to message me uwu

Edited September 1, 2019 by kitten!!

[korilakkuma]

Daddy and I run into some trust issues too a while ago. We almost broke up because of it.

What we did was talk and talk and talk.

I asked questions until I'm satisfied. Daddy promised to never do it again.

We got to the root of the issue and talked about it.

We decided to not do something we've agreed to do before.

 

We just talked about boundaries and I trust Daddy that he will respect it and be more careful from now on.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

I think it's perfectly normal to discuss expectations within a relationship. Normal and reasonable.

 

If those discussions lead to you and your Daddy deciding to create some rules (for either or both of you) then I wouldn't worry about if it's "normal" or not. If it works well for you and your Daddy that's all that matters.

 

I agree with little kaiya about discussing limits & boundaries but not having rules for Daddy. I can't imagine wanting that or that it would help us with anything. But there's no absolute right and wrong - if having rules helps YOU to deal with trust issues, then go for it.

 

If you have trust issues, and want rules to help address this, it seems strange to me that you say it wouldn't be "serious". But again, it's your relationship  not mine. Just do what works for you and your Daddy.  But please, trust your instincts when it comes to trust!

 

Good luck! I hope you're happy together.

 

Looby 

 

(edited for clarity)

Edited September 4, 2019 by Looby-Lou

[PapabearNYC]

I am thinking of coming up with some rules for my daddy. We've run into some trust issues and im struggling.

 

Is this a 'normal' thing? Should i forget about it? Does anyone else have rules for their daddy? I dont want anything too serious. Probably just some "expectations" of the relationship

 

This is 100% normal.  All relationships have expectations.  It's very, very common to setup rules on both sides when getting into a relationship.  Even if it's not too serious.  If you google ddlg contract or bdsm contract you will see many examples.  You don't need to do a contract, but it may give you a good idea of some of the rules people set up.

 

Even outside of this dynamic, most people have rules and don't think of them as rules.  For example, if you are monogamous then it's a rule that you don't play with other people.

 

Most of the rules for me are rules for both of us.  For example, we always tell each other when playing with other people and we always use condoms with other people.

 

I also have individual rules. For example, if I'm going to play with someone new, I share my location with my babygirl and check in regularly until I am on my way home safely.

 

Hope this is helpful.

[BelladonnaTheNightWitch]

If it's what you truly want, go for it. It's okay and normal to have trust issues and expectations and so it's perfectly normal to want to set rules for them. They've set rules for you, so why can't it be the other way around you know? 

I personally love the idea of setting rules for a mommy/daddy if I had one. It's a fun idea nonetheless but it also comes from me having a domme side. I've actually wrote a few down some time back. Even if you realize that you don't want to give them rules, it'll never hurt to just jot them down to get an idea...

 

Good Luck💜🖤