Little to Daddy Photos

[Guest Lilcupcake311]

Hello hello!

 

Not really sure where to start, but here it goes

 

I am extremely new to the DDLG lifestyle. for the past month Ive been doing a lot of educating myself and in all honesty, it feels like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. I have had many people in my life put me down for showing my natural Little( without even knowing it I do a lot of things that Little Ones do). Also because of how life works out, Ive had to step up and be a grown up since i was a child because the adults in my life couldnt handle their own business.... but i wouldnt ask for it any other way because it helped shape me.

 

After a recent family event, i literally melted down and asked for some sort of guidance. for something or someone to help make decisions with/for me and to not have to be in control all the time (not naughty stuff, just overall life). I was always the person who had to make plans or take charge or if i didnt do it it wouldnt get done. 

 

Literally each time i thought about this, someone(who i didnt realize was such a DD) popped up on my social media, someone in our town would talk about them, i would see something that made me think they would enjoy it. so i went "alright girl, either this is you forcing a sign or you should embrace it). so i reached out. we have been social media friends with mutual friends for a couple years and as random as i felt sending a message to see if he wanted to get coffee, it was just as lovely for him to say he really liked i did that and would be honored. I just assumed he gets request all the time from seeing girls throw themselves at him, but apparently no one has directly asked him.

 

our first night of texting he was very open and mentioned DDLG  and instead of being rude about it, actually gave me a couple of things to read. i was unsettled by how close my actual life was a Little lifestyle. 

 

for the past couple of weeks we have gone over a lot of things, personal and towards this life as well, but he has made it really clear that he isnt looking for an actual relationship right now. which i actually understand under his situation. even though i was nervous to show him that vulnerability. i trust him with it. he LOVED that after 3 days i went ahead and colored a picture and wrote "love, Little One". said i better bring it with me when we actually meet up( only reason we havent yet is because of a clash in schedules right now).

 

and because of how in depth we have talked about what i have researched and what level him and I are already naturally comfortable with (which is really really really really nice... instead of being like "so do you want to fuck or what?" he says " i cant wait to learn what makes you tick" and thats so lovely) I actually already made a craft for when we are able to be together. Its a Folder  that i put a bunch of stickers and sparkles on and wrote "Little One's Homework" ( ill upload photos if anyone would like to see it) and i generally think he will love it, especially since he loves art like i do. 

 

My reason for this post is that after recently moving, I actually found several copies of my senior photos that are wallet size. nothing crazy , nothing provocative... just literally me kneeling in a black dress in a field with tiny yellow flowers. it was like an instant flash that (daddy) would LOVE this. I popped it in the folder, but after a week of us having (both of our) jobs switch shifts, family matters, etc. we have had to reschedule.... so my insecurity has creeped in and tucked it in a drawer for now.  

 

my whole life ive had to take the plunge and " go for it " for myself so its not really the factor of him possibly rejecting it because ive gone through enough of that to be able to be okay.... but the fear of it seeming like im "pushing" him into a relationship when he was clear. 

 

so my question is, when would you Littles suggest giving a photo of yourself and when would you Daddys/Caregivers see this as something that you would keep as long as possible. 

 

im a firm believer in no matter what happens down the road, you will always find a friend in me. i am extremely humbled by the fact the few people ive been intimate with that took me seriously when i said that still reach out and answer the phone for me when something is weighing on us. having girlfriends suggest "they only stay around cause they want you as an option when they have none" i admit stings, but the fact that its not even suggested lets me know how true it is. I believe that he (Daddy) will understand and i do believe i can see us being friends for life. but i also know sometimes when you try to stay so true to yourself you push others boundaries that they wished were not pushed.

 

thank you everyone for reading this. and please dont hesitate to kindly educate me or send me something that helped "shape" you that you believe i would enjoy starting on this lifelong journey    I like that only after a month I already feel comfortable enough reaching out and asking the community    its lovely to find a place to call home

 

Forever and Always,

Lilcupcake311

[Guest MonsterDaddy]

I just wanted to say that i really enjoyed this post. I know you have questions and im not sure i can answer them with any certainty, but ill pull from my experience and try.

 

First, youre doing a great job of recognizing your own feelings and needs. It took me a very long time to understand myself. Once i was willing to admit to myself who I am and what I need, a weight was lifted that ill never put back. Knowing how you feel and feeling good about how you feel in anothers presence is so important. If he makes you genuinely feel good then youre so far along in your personal development. Its very easy to fall into a relationship. What is difficult is going after the one you want. That doesnt mean hes right for you, or that he wont disappoint you. But youve sure put yourself in a good situation, and im rooting for you.

 

I think the picture is a wonderful gift. If i had feelings for someone and that person was as thoughtful as you, it would sure make me feel good. I cannot speak for him though. But i hope he appreciates it.

 

Im not built for every little, and every little isnt built for me. But someone out there fits me and i fit her. And your story is evidence of that, and also that courage is necessary. It took courage to reach out to him, and without doing so youd never know what could have been. Thank you for sharing.

[Guest Lilcupcake311]

Okay, this helped a lot. I'm thoughtful in general, but doing cute things in the past has been seen as to soon or to friendly, which makes me sad but it is who I am ☺

 

Thank you so much

[MysticSand]

This was so cute to read! Agree with MonsterDaddy; I'm rooting for you!

 

Personally, I'm a weirdo about pictures and find it really weird when people take/send selfies. With that said, I think it's super adorbs that you're going old school physical photo! And for that reason alone I would say YES! I'm a huge fan of personal sentimental things and having/giving physical small momentos. However, I guess the question would be why do you want to give the photo to him? The post mentions that your first thought was that he would love the picture of you, but also what is your expectation of his reaction to the photo? Or is it simply to give him something that he'd appreciate?

 

He mentioned that he's not looking for a relationship at the moment, and it seems a worry of yours is that the photo might seem like you're pushing a relationship. Have you ever thought about a platonic DDLG relationship? Would that be something he/you would go for? All the questions.

[Guest Lilcupcake311]

[Guest Lilcupcake311]

If anyone was interested in a follow up

 

❤

 

I asked him if he would like the photo and I truly love the fact that he proceeded to show me where he would put it in his wallet and had a little smirk about it.

 

He also loved the folder, said it was extremely thoughtful

 

My heart is happy no matter what happens ❤

Edited September 15, 2019 by Lilcupcake311