Not-so-young-little (over 30, represent)

[littleguwls_Dada]

I am so pleased, as my littlegwul is, in finding this thread.  Dadaslittlegwul is such a quick learner and so open to new things.  I am such a lucky Dada for having her in my life.  We are learning fast about what things we like in this journey..

[baby_ace]

I'm 32, oh wow that feels weird to say. My first instinct when someone asks how old I am is to say 7. 

[mermaidgrrl]

Hi glad I'm not alone in being in this age group. <3 (I'm 37)

[VonTesla]

35 and thrilled to have found this thread!  I get the same way.  As confident as I am in most aspects of my life, I find I sort of chastise myself for gravitating towards the role of little/kitten.  After a great deal of thought, many long talks with my Daddy and hundreds of sippies later, I came to a conclusion that has become a bit of a mantra.  I am who I decide I am.  Not who others expect me to be based on archaic and uncreative roles that rarely work to foster true happiness.  I have been through enough in my life to know exactly what I'm not and to realize that we all deserve whatever happiness we can find.  My love of little space and how easily I fall into it doesn't negate my strength or my intelligence.  Other's assumptions, prejudices and fears are not things that I have to adopt and wear on my shoulders.  I like to think of those of us in this community (of all ages, really) as little fae creatures who are made of 3 parts magic to every one part of responsibility.  I also feel it has afforded me an outlet to connect on a romantic level that I couldn't reach outside little space.  Outside this space, I'm a warrior in my own right.  I know how to survive and how to protect myself.  However, I'm crap at allowing myself vulnerability needed to form a lasting connection.  Little space and my wonderful Daddy have provided a portal into the me I was before all the insecurity, pain and (cringe) adulting.  That being said, I was beginning to feel like a bit of an oddity when I only found people 22 and under on the various forums and tumblr.  I'm giggling, jumping and sending nuzzles to each and every one of you here.  Squee!

[mermaidgrrl]

I love your post VonTesla - especially the 3 parts magic to one part responsibility. But really the whole thing. <3

[smutkitten]

I'm 30 and I'm kinda conscious of it in the dd/lg community! I look a lot younger than I am so I tend not to mention my age on tumblr when I can avoid it, but then it feels like a shameful secret XD

[Daddy's lil princess]

Hey There Ya'll!!! Glad I saw this post! I'm 37 and very new to this but enjoying every minute that I can be a Little with my daddy!!! I would love for all of us to friend each other because I would like to discuss stuff and inquire things within my age group!!!

[MiAcushla]

Yay there is actually an over 30 presence here. I was browsing the personals and it seemed very full of 18-20 which is fine but outside my comfort zone for a relationship. Someone younger could be my daddy but I really get uncomfortable with someone under says 24.

[Elisa*little]

I'll be 37 in two weeks and I'm so so so happy I found this thread. My desk at worry is covered in stuffies and toys. I have two kids and it is always fun trying to explain things.

 

I've always felt out of place with most other littles because of my age. I literally cried when I found this. I really needed my age littles.

[smutkitten]

In some ways I feel like I have more in common with the younger ones, because I don't have kids and don't want them, and I didn't finish uni and I work retail, so don't feel much like an adult... but on the other hand, I'm married and do have life experience despite my lack of "achievements" and sometimes I feel old XD 

 

22 is kinda my lower limit for dating, but it really depends on the person. Some 22 years olds can be really immature... but my "big sister" (Daddy's other Little) is only 21 and she's so grown-up compared to me! 

[VonTesla]

If any of you are on tumblr, I'd love to follow you!!!!

[mermaidgrrl]

I just made a tumblr after being inspired by yours Which is freaking gorgeous and so comforting

[VonTesla]

Squee!!!!  I'm so happy!  I'm super squishy ridiculously excited to have found you

[SpinSpinSugar]

Dat blue hair tho....so delightful! I miss dyeing my hair *sigh*

 

I have a tumblr but I don't use it much; felt really out of place with all the Tumblr-DDlg-porn and the ideal it tends to push. I might go back to it sometime.

 

I'm actually starting to gravitate a bit to the AB/DL part of the spectrum, which I know is kind of its own thing but I'm coming to grips with it. On the upshot of everything lately, my son is saying this year's Xmess is rather fun as I feel like I'm into it a lot more - mostly due to letting my little self come out to play. It might be the boozy homemade eggnog that's helping too, however...

[Daddys boobear]

I have to say I squee'd a whole bunch when I found this thread. I am 35, and pretty spanking new to the Ddlg dynamic and lifestyle. Although, I feel like I've always had my little inside me...I just hid it because I felt ashamed. I read through this whole thread and sent a lot of friend requests as I would love to find other littles to talk to that get where I am coming from. If i missed you just shoot me a request. I'm super excited to be here and keep bouncing up and down making Daddy giggle.

[Elisa*little]

Had a complete melt down. Found this post and was so so so excited! Then I forgot my password. Ugh! !!!!!

 

I'm so excited to have found my age littles I even told daddy and he was super happy for me too!

 

I have a NSFW tumblr http://princess-to-my-master.tumblr.com/?ref_url=http://princess-to-my-master.tumblr.com/post/132182964410/embed

[Daddys boobear]

Had a complete melt down. Found this post and was so so so excited! Then I forgot my password. Ugh! !!!!!

 

I'm so excited to have found my age littles I even told daddy and he was super happy for me too!

 

I have a NSFW tumblr http://princess-to-my-master.tumblr.com/?ref_url=http://princess-to-my-master.tumblr.com/post/132182964410/embed

My Daddy was super excited for me too! I just followed you on tumblr, mine is NSFW as well but i'm new to tumblr too and don't know how to post my link.

[Elisa*little]

[DaddyJsPrincess]

Had a complete melt down. Found this post and was so so so excited! Then I forgot my password. Ugh! !!!!!

 

I'm so excited to have found my age littles I even told daddy and he was super happy for me too!

 

I have a NSFW tumblr http://princess-to-my-master.tumblr.com/?ref_url=http://princess-to-my-master.tumblr.com/post/132182964410/embed

Followed you! I like your posts! :3 the link to mine is in my signature. My Daddy posts there too though we share

[Guest buddhagirl]

I think I should get some kind of prize for being the oldest here. Anyone older than 47? I think that having a Daddy that makes me feel so special and little makes it pretty easy. Plus, I'm confident and really like myself (after many years of working on confidence and self esteem). I feel like I did when I was 5 and 23, just a lot wiser and happier. In my experience, using tumblr or this forum or any of that to find my place or to feel valued or "good enough" is a waste of time because it isn't real life-- real life is real people, real relationships and me--and that isn't skewed to 18-20 year olds.

[Elisa*little]

[SpinSpinSugar]

When one has a daddy, I'm sure one does feel special - but there are those of us who don't have them, and may never do. As a disabled person who is housebound, my 'real life' is also meeting people online as it's really the ONLY way I meet or interact with people now, and I have a lot of friends who are in similar circumstances of isolation, just as 'real' as anything else.  I've been able to trade stories with people from Turkey, initiate conversations on mythology from unrepresented cultures with university professors, and find DD/lg contacts in my area, as well as network with other 'spoonie' kinksters who have been muscled out of the BDSM scene in one way or another due to the usual bigotry we tend to face.  

 

For me, it's from a place of privilege to be able to say 'The internet is a waste of time.' When I was able to walk without agony and illness, able to travel where and when I pleased, I might have felt the same.  But it's amazing how quickly friends disappear when one gets sick or has a disabled child to care for, and that's been a reality that I and many of the people I know on the internet share.  Socially isolated due to caring responsibilities, illnesses, lack of opportunities and circumstance; I've met a lot of people most folk wouldn't even know existed if the internet wasn't around, and I'm grateful to know every one. Really easy to say 'Go do social things!' 'Go do munches!' when you don't have to worry about whether a venue has stairs, whether your pain medication will last long enough for you to go out, let alone return home in one piece, whether you can get coverage for minding your teenage disabled child (there are no babysitters for teenagers), and how long you need to recover afterwards....but then, that's privilege talking.  And I realise that may make people feel bad because they didn't know; but that's the trouble. Not knowing, just assuming the world is easy for everyone to access. It can be, but ACCESS means different things. And one form of access isn't more 'real' than another.

 

So for me the internet is a good opportunity to at least get a foot in the door for me to have a place to come to write now and again, otherwise I don't think I would interact with anyone at all - and without threads like this I think I might have just given up going out of my door at all by now.

 

But that's just my experience, one of many. And here I am. I debated whether I should post this or not because things should be FLUFFY HAPPY GLITTER TIME 100000000%, but this is my reality.

[Elisa*little]

[Guest buddhagirl]

When one has a daddy, I'm sure one does feel special - but there are those of us who don't have them, and may never do. As a disabled person who is housebound, my 'real life' is also meeting people online as it's really the ONLY way I meet or interact with people now, and I have a lot of friends who are in similar circumstances of isolation, just as 'real' as anything else.  I've been able to trade stories with people from Turkey, initiate conversations on mythology from unrepresented cultures with university professors, and find DD/lg contacts in my area, as well as network with other 'spoonie' kinksters who have been muscled out of the BDSM scene in one way or another due to the usual bigotry we tend to face.  

 

For me, it's from a place of privilege to be able to say 'The internet is a waste of time.' When I was able to walk without agony and illness, able to travel where and when I pleased, I might have felt the same.  But it's amazing how quickly friends disappear when one gets sick or has a disabled child to care for, and that's been a reality that I and many of the people I know on the internet share.  Socially isolated due to caring responsibilities, illnesses, lack of opportunities and circumstance; I've met a lot of people most folk wouldn't even know existed if the internet wasn't around, and I'm grateful to know every one. Really easy to say 'Go do social things!' 'Go do munches!' when you don't have to worry about whether a venue has stairs, whether your pain medication will last long enough for you to go out, let alone return home in one piece, whether you can get coverage for minding your teenage disabled child (there are no babysitters for teenagers), and how long you need to recover afterwards....but then, that's privilege talking.  And I realise that may make people feel bad because they didn't know; but that's the trouble. Not knowing, just assuming the world is easy for everyone to access. It can be, but ACCESS means different things. And one form of access isn't more 'real' than another.

 

So for me the internet is a good opportunity to at least get a foot in the door for me to have a place to come to write now and again, otherwise I don't think I would interact with anyone at all - and without threads like this I think I might have just given up going out of my door at all by now.

 

But that's just my experience, one of many. And here I am. I debated whether I should post this or not because things should be FLUFFY HAPPY GLITTER TIME 100000000%, but this is my reality.

Yes, that all makes good sense, Sugar. I know that I am very fortunate and I was trying (though possibly failing) to talk about my experience of being an older little. Just for me, I find it hard to feel like I fit in for the internet communities sometimes because of my "advanced" age. I'm very sorry if I made anyone feel bad. I would never mean to hurt feelings of anyone, especially my little friends and sisters. I hope you will accept my apology, if I have offended you or anyone else in any way.  <3

[mermaidgrrl]

It's funny - I have absolutely no idea what was the real dynamic going on with my great uncle and great aunt, but the more familiar I become with ddlg, the more I think their dynamic had strong undertones or overtones of ddlg and they were adorably blissfully in love and happy all the way up till he died in his late 80s. And he always made her feel like she was the most special wonderful person in the world to him and she never stopped being sumptuously happily spoiled and in love with him. Of course, once he was gone she became the brattiest 80-something year-old woman imaginable and getting her to take her meds, take a bath, go to bed, eat or do anything else became a huge chore for her kids - and she spilled all the juicy family gossip. It was quite interesting. She was very well-behaved while he was alive though. You're never too old to be an lg and from what I've witnessed, it never stops being a beautiful dynamic. We will all be very cute old littles one day if we are lucky enough to live long enough.