Not-so-young-little (over 30, represent)

[SpinSpinSugar]

I'm feeling....old.  

 

Wow. The Struggle is Real. As a woman aged *coughhumhumcough* years, I have hunted around here and there for fellow little-space, only to find I was more than often in the company of very very young people.

 

Not that I'm dissing, but I feel uncomfortable, and ridiculously....old. Like wow, what the hell am I doing old. I-could-be-your-mother-in-real-life-but-you-want-to-be-my-Daddy-you-gotta-be-kidding-me old. I'm finding I'm not speaking in groups or getting to know people because I feel like I'm the embarrassing middle-aged person at a wedding trying to do The Robot on the dance-floor.

I couldn't even get some of the outfits up my calf, let alone all the way up my body. How does anyone wear cute kawaii while also sporting wrinkles, saggy bits, and varicose veins?  I've got stretch marks from giving birth, and gravity has already claimed by boobs a decade ago.

*sigh* Just a whinge, but trying to find a space between, where being little doesn't come at the cost of feeling utterly absurd.

 

[Alfadaddy]

Its oke being 30 isnt old ' common  your as old as you want to feel thats imo '' 

[SpinSpinSugar]

Heh, hence I specified over 30 - I'm 44. It feels weiiiiird, man.

[vivian]

*fistbumps SpinSpin in solidarity*

 

Let's be friends

 

Vivian

[Guest buddhagirl]

I would love for all the middle-aged littles to come out to play!

 

I'm 46 and often feel out of place here because so much of the conversation is not very relatable to me. I try to be supportive or give advice to the younger women, but I would love to connect with other people similar age and experience to myself. Maybe we can identify ourselves in this thread, become friends, and discuss more topics in the future knowing we are an actual part of the community. 

 

I've given a little thought to your question about how to feel cute and adorable while having wrinkles, stretch marks, kids, uber responsibility, a lot of life wisdom and being seen by those around me and society as an older, successful woman. The answer for me is that I was once a beautiful little girl and that little girl still lives inside me, no matter my age. And I enjoy nurturing that part of myself because it makes me and my daddy happy.

 

Also, my daddy (also my husband) really helps nurture my inner little girl. He's nine years younger than me and still thinks I'm his adorable baby girl. He sees that part of me as precious and likes to nurture and care for me. When I put on something that is very little girlish, or do a little girl activity or behave like a little girl, he is always encouraging and loves it. He regularly tells me that he would be so sad if I wasn't his little girl any more and understands when I'm overwhelmed and need some "little time" and attention.

 

Basically, I don't worry about it because I'm happy and Daddy's happy.--it must all be good then, right?

[SpinSpinSugar]

Let's hear it for gin in our sippy cups! Being of a Certain Age and all.

 

Thanks for your responses, it's good to know. I've been having a hell of a time as my son is on the ASD spectrum, and he's also hyperactive and VERY CURIOUS  ("Mum, how come YOU get stuffed animals?! Why can I have another one? Can I have yours? What's this pink baby cup doing in the dishwasher?" *dies of embarrassment* ) So I am having to keep what pretty much amounts to a 'dresser drawer of shame' buried under a bunch of clothes. He's older now and attending a school where he stays there from Mon-Fri, which felt weird at first (mum-wobble) but now I get to do my little-ness during the week, which has been rather nice.

 

My prospective is a bit older and taller than I am (novel concept!) and he's stronger too, which is surprising - I used to bodybuild, and was used to always being stronger than people I dated, so it came as a somewhat reassuring shock that's no longer the case! I don't feel quite so silly with him, and that's helping. I just hope we can manage to build something from it.

[Daddys__kitten]

Hi! I'm 36 and daddy is 35.

[Guest buddhagirl]

Maybe we could share embarrassing moments that come from being an older little. Like how about when my mother and 17 year old son saw my phone ringing and it said Daddy. They were like,"Why are you calling your husband Daddy?" Or when I hid all of my little stuff in a Hello Kitty chest, but of course when the kids that it was the first thing they wanted to look in. our stuff. Duh!

[SpinSpinSugar]

Oh my various gods....The Stuff?? I'd cry forever.

 

Yes, let's count the ways:

 

Son proclaims a day to be 'onesie day' so he gets into his onesie, and then demands I get mine.  Erm...awkward.

 

The sippy cup I've already explained, and that too some bending-of-truth: 'I have trouble with my hands, remember, easier to use something I can hold' (ok, not entirely untrue, but it doesn't explain why there's Hello Kitty all over it....)

 

I live in a retired community as it's the only way for me to have a bungalow without stairs. I'm the youngest person here, and the houses are very close together, and not well insulated. Himself came over for a session. My 70+ year old neighbours were gardening outside my bedroom window. I had no idea. I'mmmmmmmmm just trying not to think about how much they heard too hard....

 

Son coloured in one of my colouring books as he thought they were for him. (so we shared)

 

'Mum, why did you buy Frozen? I don't like movies with singing in them!' (awkward)

 

Wearing short skirts is a huge challenge. I'm sure everyone is wondering why I'm displaying my varicose veins to the world (stripey socks, GO)

 

Gravity is a bitch.  Enough said. 

 

In little space, enjoying the heck out of it, then the doorbell rings - and I realise with horror I have my hair in pigtails, I'm wearing a onesie with pink kittens and cupcakes, sucking on a ring pop and singing Let It Go at the top of my lungs.  I let the delivery guys leave whatever-it-is on the porch.

[Guest Penny]

I'm only. 30 but I still feel your feels!

 

It's hard to feel little sometimes when you're older and all of the people that seem to hit me up on here are either way over 50 or like 19...

[Guest buddhagirl]

Having to explain why they can't color in a coloring book, "That MY coloring book". Awkward. They think I'm crazy. Plus my coloring book is the best so they're jealous!

 

Daddy telling the kids to hide their Hello Kitty stuff because I'll try to take it.

 

Catching them going through my chest of little girl stuff and telling them they can't play with my toys. Or letting them, and feeling really awkward later when I want to play with them.

 

Having Daddy time and wearing ponytails and rainbow socks in the bedroom and the kids yelling through the door that they need help with homework. 

 

Everybody seeing that my husband is listed as Daddy on my phone.

 

Oh, my 13 year old daughter asking if she can borrow my "necklace" for her school dance, but it's really Daddy's COLLAR! Oh my lord jesus...

[daddyslittlefrenchprincess]

I'm 43 and just started here today. I'm so glad there are other littles who get me. I thought I was pretty much alone

[SpinSpinSugar]

Oh, my 13 year old daughter asking if she can borrow my "necklace" for her school dance, but it's really Daddy's COLLAR! Oh my lord jesus...

I just choked on my drink!  bwahahahah!

[Nia]

Let's hear it for gin in our sippy cups! 

 

Its rum for me.. but you get the idea...

 

I am 37 and I feel like I am at that awkward age where I am too old and too young. I have no kids so I do not know the joys of having to deal with the "Why do YOU get to get something at Toys R Us but I don't" kind of situation. That doesn't mean its all baskets full of unicorn farts and kitten giggles for me. 

 

The problem with not really having to hide but maybe I should because explaining why my desk is covered in Transformers, Ninja turtles, WoW stuff and stickers along with the whole wall of stuffies and "2 things.. where did you get footie pajamas in your size and why..." kind of things do happen WAY more often when you are just out there. (I love run on sentences *twitch*)

 

I can't really hide my whole room so I just never let anyone in there, or I take a deep breath and hope they are open minded. "Yes those are legos on the floor, don't touch them and WATCH OUT FOR THE PUZZLE!" aside there are other aspects of this lifestyle I am not sure I can explain to someone that just doesn't know. 

 

I have the same problem in that I have noticed a large influx of "daddies" who are young enough to almost be my kid! I am not sure I could be a little to someone who simply doesn't have the same amount of life experience I do. At the same time, I never assume anything until I get to know them because numerical age is not always a good indicator of level of maturity.  

 

I don't really have a daddy so my little time is also usually my alone time, but my little tends to slip out regardless of what I do. Thankfully I usually don't have to come up with an excuse/explanation most of the time.

 

If any of you other older littles want to friend me I am always happy to make new friends.

[Darkling]

I has a whole shelf of gaming stuffs.... so... not too hard to explain stuff away as this is a nerd house hehehe.... And i have a lot of WoW / gaming models etc.....

I is an older little.. i is 30. I still wear new rock boots, an stripey socks... an unicorn shoes. Because i can.

 

 

[SpinSpinSugar]

I have a plethora of stripey socks. And purple Converse shoes FTW! I don't have many stuffies because a) see above of Child wanting mine and I seem to be allergic to some of the materials in them I am disappoint.  

 

The struggle of trying to rawk a collar in a law firm as a paralegal in training was...Interesting. Especially when I'd see some of the associates at the local munch. O_O

[Guest buddhagirl]

 

The struggle of trying to rawk a collar in a law firm as a paralegal in training was...Interesting. Especially when I'd see some of the associates at the local munch. O_O

 

Oh my, scandalous!

[DaddyJsPrincess]

I'm not quite 30, but I'm staring it down. Daddy is 38 and has 3 kiddos so I've had to learn a LOT. VERY QUICKLY. We aren't sharing a house yet, but the family is over all the time and WOW are they concerned about why I have so much Hello Kitty and why there are sippy cups up so high even I can't reach them and the closet by my bed that has a lock on it.

 

There were some questions at first about why I was calling their father "Daddy" (though they never question his calling me "princess") but they're younger (kindergartener through tween). I worry that the excuse of "because its my favorite thing about him" won't fly forever.

 

Some days I just don't care. I'll rock a Little Mermaid t-shirt and eat applesauce from a squeeze pouch around whoever and forget you if you don't like it. Other days I'm incredibly self-conscious about the whole thing. Depends on the day sometimes.

[Guest Missy]

As a 34 yo "middle/little," I have to say .....I LOVE YOU, PEOPLE!

 

IMHO, (not to diss the younger littles) I think we have a very good idea of what we want and need. I also think we need other women as friends for encouragement and acceptance. I welcome your friend requests and would love to talk anytime.

*hugs all around.....now pass the wine.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

I am 44, and have three kids. You will hear this many times....age genuinely has no relevance.

I don't parade the ddlg aspects of our relationship in front of my children. As far as they can see we are a strong, loving, close couple. That's that. The daddy stuff is between the two of us.

Even when we are walking around the supermarket and I'm calling him by his first name, he is still my daddy, he is still in control, I am still submissive and in deference to him. We just don't need to shout it out.

My eldest knows a little of our dynamic and just teases me about it. That's fine. We have a good, pretty open relationship. I'm happy him having a giggle when I say something to him like I can't do something, and he rolls his eyes dramatically and says "why....wouldn't DADDY like it??"

That's just how we are. Jokey and sarcastic.

[MissChrissy]

Hello...47yo, here, and feeling every day of it as I explain, in chat room, that we didn't have video games or virtual reality when I was a young.....uh, yeeeah. Did, however, get a decent conversation concerning the Etcha-sketch going!!

 

I am very, VERY, surprised that DDlg does not offer a means by which to search for members by age (biological, not mental....lol)!!!

Seems that would be a must....

[Anjelle]

*waves* Ohai!

 

Reading some of the replies to this, I am feeling so very lucky. My kids don't question why I have my own toys and color books. Heck, my mother doesn't question this. (Have suspicions I am not the only Little in my bio family.) And the last desk job I had, my boss got me a My Little Pony for a gift because she saw them on my desk. Heh.

 

Still, I'm 31, and I just can't relate to the college kids any more. Not sure I ever really did.

[Guest buddhagirl]

Daddy got me new Hello Kitty pajamas and the kids are sooooooo... jealous. 

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00L62C3II?colid=13GZ77UT33PPN&coliid=I2PC3Z6WJ5AZEO&psc=1&ref_=wl_it_dp_o_pd_nS_ttl

Too bad, so sad!!!!!!

[SpinSpinSugar]

I have been watching the old Beetlejuice cartoons (yanno, because I'm old enough to remember them!) I put a link into my Twitter feed - which promptly exploded. I'm such an enabler.

[bbybe11]

Yayayay!!! So glad to see this!!! I'm almost 31 and my Daddy (getting married in February!) is 34. We were both previously married and each being 2 kids to our marriage (so we have 4 in total, ranging from 3-7). Sometimes being in my 30s with a career and kids and responsibilities can be a real bummer and I'm working out where I fall on this spectrum of "little". Gosh, I would LOVE some little friends who are in the same place in their lives as me and over 30!!!!!!!