A little help please

[M.A.L]

Hello,

I'm new here and have never posted in any forum in the past, so this is also new to me.

 

I have a problem and I'd love for someone to give me some advices to resolve it.

 

Here I go:

 

I'm a Little Girl but I didn't knew it until recently. A week ago in fact.

Oh, I have a lot of stuffies, a baby bottle, a bunch of pacifiers but didn't thought much of it.

Just thinking that it was a normal thing.

 

But this is not my problem.

 

Two weeks ago, I got into a relationship.

That's when I understood I was a Little.

 

Everything is so new. I've never felt the need to be in that kind of relationship before.

Not even with my two exes.

 

My problem is that He is younger than me. Two years younger.

I'm his first girlfriend. His first love. His first approach to "kink stuff"

 

He find it funny when I call Him Daddy. He's a huge teddy bear.

 

How can I make I'm understand that I want a DDLG kind of relationship?

That I need Him to act more like my Daddy without it being just a game?

 

Any help on how I could discuss the topic?

 

Any advices on how to be more of a Little Girl? Am I doing things right? Is it enough ?

 

Any help would be appreciated

[Little kaiya]

Well, you can't "make" someone do anything, not even understand. What you can do is have an open, honest and serious conversation with him.

 

Now to be fair, and you'll probably get a wide variety if opinions on this point, I would say two weeks in is WAY too early to be trying to dive into a DDlg dynamic. I'd suggest getting to know one another first before throwing DDlg at him but that's just one opinion.

 

As for age, two years is really quite minor to be honest. I may be biased when I say that though as my Daddy is 21 years younger than I am but ismt hasn't stopped us from being together almost 2 years in a committed and loving triad relationship.

 

As for being a little, well that's unique and individual to the person. You need to decide what you like, don't like, want, don't want, soft limits and hard limits. Personally I had those conversations with my boyfriend, who is now my Daddy and Dom, as that is more between he and I than strangers on the internet.

 

Whatever you decide to do make sure you are being true to YOU versus trying to emulate something you see on the Internet or do something just because someone online said that's what "real" littles do. There is no such thing as a "real" little and honestly I've found people who throw that term around are just generally unhappy with themselves or their relationship.

 

Good luck, and enjoy the journey as it's fair more important and precious than any destination.

 

Little kaiya

Edited August 21, 2019 by Little kaiya

[kitten!!]

unless you're 100% sure that you're a little, i'd say look into ddlg more. you sound like you're pretty into it though. there's not much i can say that kaiya hasn't already buuuuut

 

like kaiya said, you can't 'make' him do anything. but what i did to tell daddy i wanted to start a ddlg relationship, i just sat him down and said, "i know we've been joking about it, but lately it's been feeling a bit more real. i've been doing some research about it, and it turns out there's something called ddlg..." and so on.

Edited August 21, 2019 by kitten!!

[Stutters]

Usually men mature at an older age. So depending on what are your expectations, it would Be hard for him to really act as a DD.

 

Even if you can’t make him do anything, I suggest you to talk with him and tell him about how you feel, what you like and why you like it. He might like the idea and put some effort in it to make it work.

Communication is key in any relationship

[BigNutBrownHare]

In a nutshell - how to find if the one you are with wants to be the one you want. 

 

You have just got together- a big tick as you must have things in common! Now you need to work out what's what, agree it between you and get on with it...

 

Some excellent advice given - keep it slow, communicate and discover together

 

Personally I think play is the key.  Done sensitively it combines much of the advice you have been given.

 

Play allows you to explore test and show without too much risk.  Although you might be "ahead" in the Little world, the games should be researched and agreed together -  it should be fun - but consent and full awareness are essential.  Given a bit of time you will both naturally gravitate towards your preferred roles.  Expect at least one "No not really" moment on both parts!  Somewhere along the line you will have a conversation that moves it to a more structured approach (don't rush) so that with a bit of luck and lot of effort, both of you may find a position in the relationship that makes you completely happy.

 

Best of luck

 

Stay safe

 

BNBH

[Kresaera]

 

 

"Now to be fair, and you'll probably get a wide variety if opinions on this point, I would say two weeks in is WAY too early to be trying to dive into a DDlg dynamic. I'd suggest getting to know one another first before throwing DDlg at him"

 

This. So much this.  Do some research into the lifestyle, watch videos, read articles, gather information.  Learn about it together while getting to know each other on a more personal level. Have a conversation with him.  Communication is the most important part of the whole thing.  

 

Also, if he's not into it, he's just not.  You can't force him to be your daddy or dominant. Be prepared for that reaction as well,