Another person

[Scarlett_Reign]

So I've been with my Daddy for about a year now. And he has recently asked me if he can invite another person to join us. I'm beginning to feel as if I'm not enough. Maybe I'm too needy and clingy. I don't want to share my Daddy but he says sharing is a good thing and that I will not lose his attention.

[Brother Bear]

Your feelings matter too in this situation. Did you tell him that you don't feel comfortable sharing?

[Guest ~*BabyDoll*~]

Make sure your feelings are considered in this as well. Even if your Daddy says that sharing is a good thing, if you don't feel comfortable then sharing is not a good thing in this case. Remember, you are important! xx

[Guest Niet meer]

So I've been with my Daddy for about a year now. And he has recently asked me if he can invite another person to join us. I'm beginning to feel as if I'm not enough. Maybe I'm too needy and clingy. I don't want to share my Daddy but he says sharing is a good thing and that I will not lose his attention.

 

You are not too needy. If you want to be in a monochamous relationship then that is your good right to pursue one. Your Daddy has to respect your feelings and cannot force someone new in between you two! Never let that happen to you.

[RedFox]

Your voice deserves to be heard, and your opinions mater just as much as his.  Never do anything you're not truly comfortable with, and never let anyone force you to do anything against your will.

[Little kaiya]

Bringing someone else into a relationship ONLY works if BOTH people have discussed it and are on the same page. In this case that doesn't sound like the case at all. If you are uncomfortable with the idea and dont want to share then you shouldn't because it wont end well. Stand your ground and dont let him force you into something you dont want to do.

 

I encourage you to share your feelings with him on this matter. If you do and he keeps pushing things that is quite concerning.

 

Little kaiya

[Scarlett_Reign]

I have told him how I feel. He said he will drop it. But I'm still left with the feeling like I am not enough.

[MasterPhotog]

I have told him how I feel. He said he will drop it. But I'm still left with the feeling like I am not enough.

 

You should not feel that you're not good enough, remember your Daddy dropped the idea for YOU. 

In addition to enjoying himself, your Daddy may also have thought of you enjoying the experience or at least another person's company. Now that he has dropped the idea, this matter should be behind you. You and your Daddy may want to start communicating with each other better in order to avoid such issues in future. Good luck. 

[Little kaiya]

The only person who can determine or control how you feel is you. My Wife, Daddy and I are in a closed, committed, polyamorous, triad and I can tell you with all sincerity not one of us views the others or ourselves as not being enough.

 

Polyamory is not about fixing a problem or filling a void or someone being insufficient. It's about opening yourself to the positives and negatives that go along with any committed relationship, just with more than one other person. Is it for everyone, nope. Are polyamorous or monogamous people better than the other, nope.

 

The fact your boyfriend brought it up in the first place I think is far less important than the fact he dropped the issue after you told him how you felt. Honestly, it doesn't sound like he has given you any reason to think you're not enough, that thought seems to be coming from you.

 

Little kaiya

[Nymph]

Him trying to get someone else into the relationship was probably just something he wants to try or he thinks he does (sometimes when a fantasy becomes reality it loses the appeal). This has nothing to do with how wonderful or how horrible you are as a person, it's about him.

 

Just like you feeling like you are not enough it's about you...

 

If he felt comfortable enough to ask and he is willing to drop it because you don't like the idea of it, then you are obviously enough for him in his eyes and he didn't meant to make you feel this way. A good way to start might be to trust your daddy's judgement, he chose you out of all the littles out there and he is still around after a year and after you said no to something he was interested in.