Shameful little needing advice

[Guest QuixoticCrybaby]

I've been thinking about the things that I like and its being a lg. Even though I am accepting to myself, I don't feel comfortable telling people close to me about my secret life. I don't want the two to mix because I am sure my friends won't understand me, Is this weird? Am I the only one who is in this situation?

[Pablo Neruda]

I don't think it's weird.

 

My family doesn't know about my Caregiver/Daddy side. A few of my close friends know what kind of relationship I'd like to have, but I've not told them that this is an existing lifestyle. They just think it's a preference in how I like my partners.

 

I think it's perfectly understandable that you don't want to tell people about your secret life, as you call it and there's nothing wrong with it

[Vlad ziva's Owner]

Considering how vastly different everyone's DD/lg style is and how difficult it can be for people to understand, I don't think it's weird to refrain from telling your close friends. Details like that aren't owed to anyone, so if you want to keep it between you and your partner, I don't see a problem with that; but it also goes two ways.

There's a possibility your friends will not understand. If they don't understand, they'll probably not care, get really curious and ask a lot of questions, or they might possibly view you differently. 

If they do understand, same results. They could view you in a weird way or they could notice that they are similar and you could be little friends. 

Lots of ways it could go and it's entirely up to you whether or not you want to share that part of your personality with your friends.

[Princess Ahri]

I agree with Vlad, it's entirely up to you if you feel you are ready to tell them, you can.

 

I told my sister and she seems understanding, but I doubt I will tell my mom. She lives with me and is usually very accepting, but I don't know, I'm scared I suppose.

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

I told my moms (yes lesbians) about my lifestyle preferences and one took it very well and gave me a giant hug for sharing. The other talked a bunch of crap... so pick and choose your audience carefuly if you care about their opinions and how they might react. Personally I dont care and will say whatever is on my mind.

[little princess]

I understand how you feel, I can't tell certain members of my family as well as some of my friends. The only people I've told have been my mom and my best friend who is basically my sister. My best friend was happy for me, my mom at first was very judging and negative about it. Then I got her to sit down and read up on what ddlg is really about, now she accepts my life choice and even though she still thinks it's strange she is ok with how I've decided to live my life. Over all I would say tell them if you're comfortable and be ready for the situation to go ether way. Best of luck to you      

[LB Chris]

I think the only way any of us can deal with it is by looking at the people who know and certainly with family everyone's mileage will differ mine are more accepting of aspects of being lg like I can colour and use more child-like vocabulary around them although we're more circumspect in public (the 'low whisper' is handy!) but they're more in the dark on the cgl side.

In general those friends more familiar with what comes under the umbrella of 'kink' are okay with it and it might be me but having friends that are can help with keeping a good sense of perspective around your involvement and help in keeping yourself safe.

If you can, cultivate friends who are lg to talk about what you are doing and maybe spend time together.

[Daddys__kitten]

I've told one friend about me and daddy, but thats only because he is so kinky He is, of course, very supportive, and think that this is the perfect form of relationship ♡

 

I wouldn't tell anyone else tho, don't think I can get them to understand.

[SparklyKittens]

I understand. I haven't told many people either about what Daddy and I really do.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

No, it's not weird if you don't want to tell your friends. Many people won't understand the dynamic but if you do want them to understand, you can take the time to explain to them how much this is a part of your life.

[Guest Deleteplease]

What wonderful support from everyone.

 

We all hide things when it comes to close

Family and friends, I am 29 I have never told anyone about my daddy side and only just found this site so i am just pleased we have people here to share with that do understand.

 

Good luck

[lilvioletcub]

No Your not wierd for it I told a few people online (friends) and my therpist some were understanding some weren't and my reason for going into little space is my own personal reason that doesn't hurt anyone  I'm a bit of an oddball anyway I love the toy section of stores and watching toy reviews on youtube I collect dolls while my likes might not be understood fully they are not treated as anything other hen "oh thats just kate" kinda deal.

 

I think the question is do they need to know?

why do you want to tell them?

 

Personally I can tell strangers online I'm a little but I don't plan on telling my parents what it really comes down to is why.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

If you don't want to talk about it, don't. Unfortunately we live in a very small minded society. I cab only be my full self here, on fetlife and with my daddy. It's a terrible shame but something I just accept. The only people that matter in this relationship are me and my daddy.

Even if it were an average vanilla relationship, nobody needs to go shouting about it to everyone around them.

[lilvioletcub]

If you don't want to talk about it, don't. Unfortunately we live in a very small minded society. I cab only be my full self here, on fetlife and with my daddy. It's a terrible shame but something I just accept. The only people that matter in this relationship are me and my daddy.

Even if it were an average vanilla relationship, nobody needs to go shouting about it to everyone around them.

 ^^^^THIS^^^^^

[reinaheigne]

I feel the same way!

My little self is almost like an alter ego ... ;~;

[Glitter Baby]

Only one person other than this community knows I am little and that's okay <3