Little won't listen to punishments

[76will]

Im having trouble disciplining my little. There are times where I try to give her a punishment like taking her phone away if she isn't doing something she supposed to but she would respond with something within the lines of  "its my phone and my apartment" ( i havent moved in yet). I want to know what would be the proper response? She is right but It bothers me and when she does say that, it feels like she doesn't respect me enough.

[GlitterMonster]

I would suggest sitting down with her and discussing what punishments are okay and which ones are not. Perhaps she prefers time outs or lines as punishments over loosing things.

 

Every little is different so it's important to discuss what rules are needed and wanted, and what punishments work best for both of you.

[Daxter]

I agree with glittermosnter, make a list of what can be used as punishment and what can't.

 

The most important part is communication.

[DaddyDom3238]

I agree with Daxter and GlitterMonster, talk to her and discuss your rules as well as punishments to see what best works in your dynamic. Every little responds differently to rules and punishments, what is good for one will not be good for all which is why it is so important to find out what is most effective for your relationship.

[Guest Sokyogoku]

Well have you already didcussed punishments beforehand? Shes right saying that its her appartment and her phone if you both dont live together yet so you just have to find a common ground and what you are both okay with. Just talk to her about it and see her side of things and decide together on things

[Fragile Princess]

I heard the other way around can be i.e. giving her amount of let's say candies, on one hour, let's say you give her 5 little pieces at 6pm, but if she acts bad you decrease the number. If she acts bad once, she will get 4, if twice - 3. Etc. So it's not really a punishment, but it's no reward.

[Guest ~*BabyDoll*~]

This is accurately me hehe....

 

I sometimes don't listen to my Daddy's punishments, I fight him on them despite me agreeing to some of them...

 

But I was much much worse before... Daddy would go to punish me and I would get actually mad at him because we didn't lay down ground rules.

 

Once we figured out what I preferred and what I didn't, punishments became a lot easier and more comfortable to accept!

 

Communication, communication, communication! That is the best way to get around what she prefers and feels comfortable with and what you are able to do!

 

Good luck! xx

[Daddys little Baby_Bear]

I'm kinda just reiterating what everyone else has been saying but I'm gonna say this as a little myself. You have to find punishments that work for both of you. Taking electronics away doesn't work with my daddy or I either so instead we looked up a bunch of punishments others had a made our list based off our findings.

If after that she continues to act like that toward punishments you two should sit down and have a very real conversation about what you both want and expect.

I hope this helps.