Question for daddies

[Mattstattoedlittle8]

first off this is NOT a personal add.

 

 

My husband and i have been dabbling in the DDlg relationship thing. Im 100% a little but he is not a dom/daddy at all. He has said on MULTIPLE occasions that he wants to be daddy and time and time again he proves its not for him. I can't leave him... So my questuon is... Is there anything i can do to get him on bored or am i doomed to be a little with no daddy forever. Thank you

[squishymonster]

hewwo I'm not a daddy buuuut -

 

there are a few options here. a.) find a non-romantic caregiver/babysitter (if you're both okay with that) b.) set alone time aside by yourself to enjoy littlespace by yourself! no dom means no big meanie to cut you off the cookies or nag you to go to bed. c.) If he's still actually willing to learn, sit down with him and have a straightforward conversation about what you want. Maybe he just doesn't know what you're looking for. Keep the conversation respectful (obviously) and don't get frustrated. Look for any signs of concern in him, and lightly praise him when you can tell he's trying his best. and honestly, d.) if this is a *really, really, reeeeaallyy* important thing to you but either you two can't come to an agreement about having a non-romantic caregiver/babysitter or he's not even trying to be a suitable dom at all, you might have to put your own needs first and leave. Whatever you do, just don't make it an ultimatum because that means it's already over and it'll just lead to franticness and even more heartbreak.

[Mattstattoedlittle8]

hewwo I'm not a daddy buuuut -

 

there are a few options here. a.) find a non-romantic caregiver/babysitter (if you're both okay with that) b.) set alone time aside by yourself to enjoy littlespace by yourself! no dom means no big meanie to cut you off the cookies or nag you to go to bed. c.) If he's still actually willing to learn, sit down with him and have a straightforward conversation about what you want. Maybe he just doesn't know what you're looking for. Keep the conversation respectful (obviously) and don't get frustrated. Look for any signs of concern in him, and lightly praise him when you can tell he's trying his best. and honestly, d.) if this is a *really, really, reeeeaallyy* important thing to you but either you two can't come to an agreement about having a non-romantic caregiver/babysitter or he's not even trying to be a suitable dom at all, you might have to put your own needs first and leave. Whatever you do, just don't make it an ultimatum because that means it's already over and it'll just lead to franticness and even more heartbreak.

 

 

Thank you for the response it was very very sweet! I feel he thinks its a joke and being a little is a choice like im being stupid. He won't deal well with me talking to a CG male or female. I just want to be happy.

[RemontvSPB]

We are working on releasing the twists asap.

Thank you for the question, I will pop it before the production dept., so if there is a feasible chance to bring the twists to Europe at the same time, we will try to do it.

[Guest MonsterDaddy]

If you're still looking for solutions then i hope this may help.

Is there anything your husband enjoys doing with you that you dont particularly enjoy? If so, propose that you spend an hour doing what he wants in exchange for an hour of little time. Or however much time feels comfortable.

Perhaps starting small will get him interested. Find one thing you enjoy about your Daddy fantasy like Daddy brushing your hair, watching cartoons with you, putting out your things to color with... and ask him for 10 minutes of his time to dedicate to you. Maybe those 10 minutes will pique his curiosity?

Have you ever read a book or watched a tv show or movie with a ddlg inspired couple? Ask your husband to reenact the scene with you. You can write out the dialogue and action in script form and pretend you're both actors or characters in a movie.

Is your birthday coming soon? Anniversary? Graduation? Christmas or other holiday? Dont ask for gifts. Ask for little time. After all, those moments should be about what you want.

- MonsterDaddy

[jelloprincess]

I was in a similar situation with my ex-husband -- this was not the reason we divorced, but it certainly didn't help the situation. He said he was a Daddy, but he was only interested in sexual ageplaying. Any time I actually got little he would get annoyed or even mad at me, and he started discouraging me from being little at all. Eventually I started hiding my little side from him entirely. :\

 

For a while I was really sad every time I got little alone because I just wanted my Daddy. I started putting aside more time when he wasn't home. I started being able to really enjoy little time alone. I still wish I had a Daddy, but I'm okay with being alone and I can still be happy either way. If your husband just can't be your Daddy, I recommend working on being little on your own. Even if you're actively working toward your husband being your Daddy, I still recommend regressing on your own as a way to get to know yourself and take care of yourself.

 

Ultimately you can't change him. If he isn't a Daddy, he isn't a Daddy. If he says he wants to be one, try to figure out what he means. He may just need to learn how to be a Daddy, because it doesn't always come naturally. He might also have a totally different idea of what a Daddy is than you do. If that's the case, maybe communicating both of your needs and desires clearly could help you to find something that would make both of you happy.

 

Good luck. I know how painful this kind of thing is. I hope your situation goes better than mine did. <3