I need some help my relationship is kind of drifting and i need some advice

[ScaredKitten]

 

Ok im posting this because im kind of in need of some advice/help im a switch and in a relationship with a mainly little Partner who can sometime and sometimes is a Dom, i do kind of need to be  little a quite a bit but i know i cant and ive kinda accepted that and im ok with it kind od, well my issue is that i need affection like most people ut because my partner isnt very affection (unless they are Dom) and because they unintentionally deprive that of me eg like not being the one to give the hug me being able to snuggle them stroking me etc which i need all of them  that kind of causes me to be alot more if you might say Needy in general and calling them not loads but quite a lot  but thats causing my partners love to start drifting form me because our time doesn't seem as special to them because of that, they love me but arent so much as in love with me this is all barbecue of me being so desperate for physically affection and just being hugged not the one hugging this has all caused our relationship to kinda be suspended but i think it will restart soon but what i need you guys to help me with is kinda of figuring out how i solve our relationship issues and how to kinda solve my problems in the relationship, because im kind of stuck and i love my partner so damn much and when our relationship is good its so damn good, but because of me being so needy for affection its kinda destroying it, i know this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship but i love them so damn much 

[daddymind]

Bless you. I think it all boils down to communication. In any relationship we need to be able to communicate our needs openly to our partner. Nobody is a mind reader. What might seem so obviously lacking to you might not be so obvious to your partner. So don't be afraid to spell it out to them like you did here. If they truly love you, they will listen and make more of an effort to fulfil your needs. If, after discussing this, it's not something they're willing to do, and you feel you need this to function in a relationship, then you might have to reassess this relationship, as painful as that may be.

 

I'm a strong believer in honest talking, listening and making an effort to meet the needs of your partner. A lot of the time it will be a simple case of them not realising what they weren't giving you enough of.