Finding it hard to take care of myself

[PiperParadis]

First of all, I must say that I'm a healthy person, I work out 4 times a week, I'm careful with my diet, I don't mess with drugs, specially prescribed ones... Once said:

 

I've been living with my boyfriend for 2 years. We're studying in the same city, which means that during summer we go back to our parents homes. This year my parents are moving away to the city I currently study, so I'm staying here alone in the meantime.

 

Since my boyfriend left, I've been struggling with taking care of myself, specially food related stuff. We used to cook and eat together, and I find it hard to cook just for myself. The times I cook, I'm getting results that can only be tagged as "hardly digestible", even though they're the recipes we usually do. I'm finding it hard to prepare meals, sometimes I don't feel hunger, or I eat chips and popcorns and forget to have a propper meal. I'm even eating out more times that I can afford.

 

I go to my associations place daily to help with some work we're doing there, then I go to the gym with a friend and sometimes a I go out for tapas with my friends. When I'm at home alone, I do the household, I keep everything neat (except my room, I find it specially hard to fold clothing and keeping everything organized (although I clean). It's not that I'm neglecting myself completely...

 

I can't find the motivation to have a healthy diet right now, and that surprises me since I've been concerned with health for a long time now. Does this happens to you too? Is it only for being alone? What the heck do I do with myself?

 

I don't know, would you give me some advice?

[PiperParadis]

By the way, I'm having troubles posting stuff, it says that the place isn't safe. I use spaces and paragraphs, but they won't stay put. Sorry for the inconvenience.

[Nymph]

How long will you be staying alone? if it's only a couple of weeks and you get back to normal as soon as you have company I wouldn't be too concerned. You are probably burnt out and this was going to happen sooner or later, I would dare to say you have been making an effort to delay it and now that you are alone you don't feel as self conscious or guilty to just be lazy.

 

Personally I don't feel the effort is worth it to cook for a single person, specially since I am a pleaser and that person is just me :/ so what I do is I cook 4 portions even if I am alone. I put two portions in the freezer, one in the fridge and I eat the other one on the spot. If you don't even want to think about cooking then use a crock pot overnight. Frozen veggies are great for a quick healthy meal and fruits are better than carbs so keep a few apples, grapes or whatever you like around.

 

I only feel like you do when I am feeling exhausted, it's usually not physical but more like emotional and/or mentally exhausted if that makes sense. I just can't bring myself to have a break unless I am alone and most often than not that means I had not had time for myself in a long time.

[NathanR]

Hm. All I can say is welcome to the singles life. There is nothing wrong with you or what you are going through right now. Let me say that again. There is nothing wrong with you or what you are going through. That all sounds pretty normal. Take it from a guy who has been single for longer than what he cares to admit. What could be wrong is if you let yourself get into a pattern that is repeatable and unhealthy. So how do you get yourself out of this? My opinion: Get outside and be active! Join a club or community that forces you to interact with real people on a regular basis. As much as I love my internet friends and the security of my own home, the jump needed to get back to something more "normal" can only be found outside. And hey, if you can find someone here who is local there, thats even better!

You sound like a lovely person. I hope you find someone worth sharing yourself with again sometime soon. Good luck!