My boyfriend accpets me but don't want to be my daddy

[Myn]

Hello people,

 

I'm a new little (I knew I was different, but didn't know how to name it).

 

I'm currently dating a guy who is very understanding and accepts this side of me, but he doesn't quite understand and says he doesn't want to be my Daddy.

 

But here comes my doubt, because he's super attentive to me, gives me stuffies, gives me candy, keeps me from eating things sometimes when he knows it'll hurt me, gives me scolding, cuddle with me always, see cartoons with me, makes me comfortable, gives me cute pjs and stuff.

 

Littles and Daddys who are more experienced or have had experience with a DDLG relationship, can he be considered a Daddy or not? If not, what would make him a Daddy?

 

Thankies and PLEASE help me

[KingHarlus]

Just because hes a caring and compassionate boyfriend doesn't mean hes a "daddy"

[Floofy_Gal]

It's great that your bf is so nurturing and kind and caring. But if he doesn't want to be labelled as your daddy then it's not fair on him to consider him your daddy. It's okay to think it as long as it doesn't affect the way you are with him. But he may not want or be comfortable with taking the relationship in this direction. The best thing you can do is talk to him, tell him how you feel. Talk to him about what he's currently doing that you see as something a daddy would do and what you're looking for from a daddy. Then ask him again. Help him understand what it is and give him a choice. But it has to be his choice.

[Myn]

It's great that your bf is so nurturing and kind and caring. But if he doesn't want to be labelled as your daddy then it's not fair on him to consider him your daddy. It's okay to think it as long as it doesn't affect the way you are with him. But he may not want or be comfortable with taking the relationship in this direction. The best thing you can do is talk to him, tell him how you feel. Talk to him about what he's currently doing that you see as something a daddy would do and what you're looking for from a daddy. Then ask him again. Help him understand what it is and give him a choice. But it has to be his choice.

 

I'll talk to him, and tell him that the way he acts makes me see him as a daddy. He has seen me in little space once and talked to me on the phone when I was too and it was good. He also always says he wants to see me in a onesie. Thankies a lot <3

[Guest Sokyogoku]

Hi, I also have a boyfriend who is accepting but not a daddy. And I think that's okay. I think what's important is that you both love each other and enjoy each other's company.

 

Just as Floofy said, don't force him into it or expect him to become a daddy. Maybe in the future it will change but just let him be who he wants to be and accept it just as he accepts yoy being a little

[Nymph]

I... slightly disagree with fluffy, it is true you can't force a label on anyone and shouldn't try to but if you feel he is your daddy, acts like you would want your daddy to act and he is comfortable with you being a little around him then honey, he is your daddy. We all have different needs, what is a daddy to you it might not be for someone else.

 

Now you mentioned he doesn't understand it yet. Perhaps the title is something that needs to wait until he realizes how this works and if he likes it or not. Maybe it turns out he is really into it but prefers a different title and you should respect that.

 

My Daddy was one of those guys, I didn't offer the title until after we were married but in my mind and heart he was the most amazing Daddy that will ever walk on this earth from day one. When I offered, he was not comfortable with it and I forgot about it for a while because I was happy and my needs were being met so it didn't matter all that much to me.

 

After some time we got kinkier and he came across some reading about the lifestyle and then he realized we were already pretty much in it, he realized how much he liked it and what the title meant, and then it was him who asked me to call him Daddy.

 

Some guys need more time, I wouldn't rush him if he makes you happy.

[xBabydollx]

DDlg and BDSM overall revolves around consent. It is a dynamic that is acknowledged and mutually agreed upon. Based on that, if a guy didn't consent to being my Daddy, I wouldn't consider him to be one. Even in a vanilla setting, I would personally feel weird if someone thought I was their gf and I never agreed to being that. DDlg or vanilla, it's still a relationship that requires two+ ppl. While some ppl don't like labels, consent and mutual respect are most important i think. He consented to be a boyfriend and not a Daddy. If he doesn't want to be a Daddy, then he's not one. Maybe in the future he'll change his mind and want to learn more and explore it, but u can't make him be a Daddy. Ppl decide the identity they want to have and the lifestyle they want to live, and I personally think it's best to respect ppl's choices. Overall, I agree with KingHarlus, in that some ppl are content with being just a caring boyfriend. What would make him a Daddy? If he had a genuine desire to assume that role/identity/lifestyle for himself, but sadly, he does not.

[Fragile Princess]

[Myn]

My Daddy didn't like the idea at first, until we discovered a little and he realized it's not sexual. He still likes being called Knight or Caregiver, because he feels like "Daddy" might make him sound like a Dom. He is not a dom, but a caregiver.

 

Hmm, I think he's more a caregiver than a daddy.......

[Myn]

Thankies for your replies, I talked with him and discovered  he's curious about it and wants to learn more, but he's a little scared. I respect his wishes and I'm happy with him, so we're good. I'm discovering myself too, so it's ok.

[Fragile Princess]

That's great! Good luck discovering!