Just need some reassuring

[BakedPotato]

[Nymph]

Paragraphs are your friend sweetie! you will get more help if people can read your post

 

You need to vent and that is why you are writing this, it's quite healthy! I am happy to see that you know the relationship is over and you shouldn't go back. Your head is in the right place, he sounds like a jerk.

 

What I don't understand is why are you even talking to him? WHY IN THE WORLD ARE YOU TAKING CARE OF HIS DOG O_O so after reading this I think this is a cry for help.

 

That's one impressive loser you have there :/ have you considered looking for a home for the dog? he obviously can't take care of it or wants to, he is using it to stay in touch with you. Your heart is a bit too soft, but not for him, for the pup and he knows it.

 

Hell, have you considered adopting the puppy? it will remind you a bit of him at first but just think of it as he couldn't take care of either of you so you need to stick together until you find a proper daddy...

 

How long have you been babysitting? if it's only a few days then tell him if in two weeks he doesn't come get the pup you will assume he abandoned it and find it a new home. Mute him and don't reply unless he wants to come get the dog.

 

If you've had it for a month, then give him 3 days, mute and after the 3 days block and enjoy your freedom.

[BakedPotato]

[LittleLamby]

Hi. It's good to vent! I think us littles are in general sensitive, and it seems like he is playing on your emotions. He sounds like he's being manipulative, but you know that. You are trying to move on for your own good, and it's hard. You're doing the right thing though by letting him go. I hope you end up keeping the doggie. Dogs give you unconditional love and it sounds like you need that right now. Wish you the best. Hugs!

[BakedPotato]

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

Keep this toxic, manipulative, pathetic loser out of your life and give the dog back and NEVER talk to this fool again would be my advice Edited August 6, 2019 by Daddy-Tom

[BigNutBrownHare]

My views were as up and down as yours until I reached the end of your statements.

You wanted away from him, but loved him, he was in your head but it makes you sick...

 

I always try to take a balanced view - start by considering what is the other side of the story - but in this case... Nope, not a lot of point.  You really seem like you are trying to move on from what appears to have become a corrosive relationship.  It does not sound as though anything he has done he is actually sorry for (when people are sorry they generally accept the consequences of their actions).  It also appears he will use any technique to draw you back in, including your emotional attachment to the dog.  Unpicking lives is never clean and you are suffering minor doubts which are perfectly normal, particularly where you really did care for someone.  Your mind slips into its previous patterns as it seems easier than moving forward.  However it is important you do not give in to them. Those doubts will get weaker as you move on and you start making new happier memories.  You have given him a number of chances before. No more face-to-face meetings, small talk or friendly chats.  Clean break time!

 

BNBH

[PiperParadis]

[BakedPotato]

[BigNutBrownHare]

Yes it is easy for us to say, we don't have to do it.  But that also means we can see the darker side of what is going on.  He speaks in a way to make you doubt yourself.  Big red flag.   Read up on "gaslighting".  It is an abusive technique and is just another reason you need to be really cautious in your dealings with him. 

 

It really seems as if you have been strong enough to move on; keep going and every day will be easier.  There are new people and experiences out there just waiting for you.

 

Keep going

 

BNBH

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

Sweetie you deserve so much better than this and he is cruelly taking advantage of your kind and sweet nature trying to manipulate and guilt you